The Shared Why: Goals Alignment

Stop Hiding Your Dreams: Why a Shared "Goal Wall" is Your Key to Success 🚀

Most dreams die in a closed journal. In this episode, we share the high-impact system that pulled us from "survival mode" into a sustainable Living Lucky® success cycle. By moving goals from notebooks to our living room walls, we transformed our home into a powerhouse of positive thinking and mutual support.

Learn how to align your personal ambitions with the people around you to create an unstoppable vortex of momentum in your career, health, and relationships.

In this episode, you will learn to:

• Weaponize Visibility: Use a physical "Goal Wall" as a daily cue for action and a magnet for accountability.
• Audit Your Values: Ensure goals provide renewable energy rather than requiring exhausting "white-knuckled" discipline.
• The Weekly Huddle: Master alignment meetings to ensure personal and shared trajectories stay in sync.

Mindset Nuggets for Symbiotic Growth:

• The Vision Holder: Partnership isn't about "rescuing"—it’s about believing in someone so strongly they remember how to believe in themselves. (Believe in the people around you).
• Confidence Spillover: Success isn't siloed. A micro-win in one area (like fitness) inevitably fuels your business and mindset.
• The Household Rubber Band: Family energy is linked; when one person climbs, the whole system lifts. (Believe in your circumstances).
• Public Proclamation: Speaking your outcomes as "already finished" plants seeds of reality in your subconscious.
• Consistency > Intensity: Success is the byproduct of 30 purposeful minutes daily, not eight-hour bursts once a month. (Believe in yourself).

Stop surviving the day—start designing your decade. Hit play to align your "Why" and start Living Lucky® today!

• Goal alignment for couples, how to create a goal wall, shared vision in marriage, personal development for families, consistent goal achievement.
• "How do I align goals with my partner?" Start by making your goals visible to each other. Use "Weekly Huddles" to identify where your personal ambitions overlap with shared household values to create mutual momentum.
• "What is a Goal Wall?" A Goal Wall is a visual scoreboard in a shared living space that lists priorities and deadline

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The 4 pillars of Living Lucky
Believe in yourself
Believe in the people around you
Believe in your circumstances and
Believe that God is working through you, for you, and always conspiring in your favor.

*Previously Recorded

Chapters

• 0:00 From Negativity To Living Lucky
• 0:22 New Year And The Goal Wall
• 0:49 Seeing Each Other’s Goals Daily
• 2:07 Values, Why, And Shared Motivation
• 3:20 Skiing As A Catalyst For Energy
• 4:08 Speaking Goals Into Existence
• 5:55 From Last Place To Audacious Aim
• 7:01 Micro Wins Create A Success Vortex
• 8:12 Worst To First And The Clear Path
• 10:05 Discomfort Of Growth And Support
• 11:20 Symbiotic Relationships And Energy
• 12:30 Huddle Up: Align Personal And Shared Goals
• 14:10 Drift, Reconnect, And Next Steps

Transcript

Jana Shelfer: 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer: 0:14

Good morning.

Speaker 1: 0:15

Happy New Year! Happy New Year!

Jason Shelfer: 0:18

I'm Jason.

Jana Shelfer: 0:19

And we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer: 0:21

You are too.

Jana Shelfer: 0:22

We were talking about goals last year, if you remember.

Jason Shelfer: 0:28

That's gonna mess me up. I wonder how long it'll take me on the to start writing 2026.

Jana Shelfer: 0:32

And I want to take this goal setting to another level because once I started putting my goals on the wall, chunking them down so that I could make them into easy, manageable steps because overwhelm is a thing, especially for me.

Jason Shelfer: 0:49

It's an overwhelming thing.

Jana Shelfer: 0:50

And then I started making my husband do this. Okay. So now we both have a wall in the house where we can see not only our own goals every single day, but I started seeing my husband's goals. That is important because if you can help someone else get to where they want to go, it automatically helps you get to where you want to go.

Jason Shelfer: 1:17

Yeah. And who doesn't want a cheerleader, right? How often there's how many couples do we run into and you'll say, What's your spouse's goal? I have no idea. I'm so focused on really surviving the day. They they have no idea what their spouse's goal is or their own goal because they're trying to survive every day. But when you get to have your goals visible and you can see them every day, and you can see your spouses or your partners or your kids, then you create a cheer mechanism within the household. You also create a different levels of support where, okay, this goal matches my value system. I'm very on board with this. So I'm how can I support?

Jana Shelfer: 1:58

I'm gonna be your accountability partner.

Jason Shelfer: 2:00

Right.

Jana Shelfer: 2:00

Because this will benefit both of us. Now it may benefit both of you in different ways.

Jason Shelfer: 2:06

Very true.

Jana Shelfer: 2:07

And that is where you need to start attaching a value to your goal or your why. And so I use different language because different people hear it differently. But it's knowing, okay, why is this important to me? So I've been using our skiing as an example just because it's something that is so a part of who we are right now.

Jason Shelfer: 2:35

And it epitomizes what a successful working of this formula does.

Jana Shelfer: 2:40

So at the beginning of last year, beginning of 2025, we again started making goals about skiing. Now, what was so interesting is I started quickly seeing that motivate, it's gonna be an internal inspiration for my husband. Yes, much more than finding dance costumes, putting putting sparkly sequins all over myself and tight and tights. And I noticed, you know what, this lights him up because it's something that he just naturally finds fun being on the water, being around a hundred thousand dollar boats, being outside. And once I saw, hey, you know what? This goal is going, I'm gonna get energy from him. That's gonna light him up internally, and consistent energy.

Jason Shelfer: 3:39

So it's not like you have to say, can like forcing someone to go do something. Like, can you can you go out there and work on this with me? No, this is like, hey, when do we I'm saying when do we get to do this again? Because those are my breaks in the day where I get so charged. Like I I would naturally be going out to the dock or naturally be wanting to be outside in nature around the water. And now I get to do it with you, and we're achieving another goal together.

Jana Shelfer: 4:08

Now, when I started realizing this is gonna happen, is when my husband started telling his MindValley people, I know there's a lot of people from MindValley that listen to us. When he started telling his MindValley community, I may have to take a couple months off in November and December, because my wife is a world champion and she's going to win the world championship. When he started putting that vernacular out to his friends, and I could overhear it because he was saying.

Jason Shelfer: 4:39

And that was back in May.

Jana Shelfer: 4:41

But he was saying it while he was upstairs in his office, and sound for some reason just comes right down from that room. And so I could hear him saying those things. And when I realized that he was saying that out loud, I quickly realized, you know what? I am working with the best mindset coach in the world because he is planting seeds into my head. Now, the only reason I bring that up right now is because he saw my goals on my wall and he started speaking life into them. He started speaking them into existence, and sometimes it's not to me, sometimes it was just where I could overhear him saying it. When I heard, I mean, here's another example. When your sister came to visit and you literally said to her, We're gonna be world champions the next time I see we see you. It was like you started putting it out there, and again, this is because we had started aligning our goals and then speaking and acting as if they have already come true for the other person.

Jason Shelfer: 5:55

Yeah, and let me explain this because you have to understand how audacious this goal is. If you haven't listened to previous podcasts, so if you're a first-time listener, in September of 2024, Jana complet entered her first ever water skiing competition, came in dead last, last place.

Jana Shelfer: 6:14

Okay, we don't need to stress that.

Jason Shelfer: 6:16

Let's let's emphasize that, let's put it in bold. And then she came home and she put goals on the wall because there was an energy that she achieved, she she found there. The people, it's on a competitive scale, the environment, all these things, and that aligned with her values. It also aligned with my values because we're outside, we're in nature, we're around $100,000 boats, which I love. I I want to be on the water. That's kind of my zenzo.

Jana Shelfer: 6:43

Yes, around performance.

Jason Shelfer: 6:45

So all the things that work with me and now are giving her energy. I lit up like a firecracker. So then she comes back and puts all these goals on the wall with time frames, and then we start hitting these little wins along the way, like all these little success points.

Jana Shelfer: 7:05

Micro moments.

Jason Shelfer: 7:06

Yes.

Jana Shelfer: 7:06

Now, once we start hitting those micro moments, we realize that it not only affected us in the water ski world, we found success in other areas of our life.

Jason Shelfer: 7:19

Everything affects everything.

Jana Shelfer: 7:21

Because it's like this vortex. So it's like, okay, we go to our first water ski competition and we entered and we did it, it was an able body competition. We did really well. We found our podcast numbers started to spike.

Speaker 1: 7:35

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer: 7:35

And maybe people were just interested in that. Maybe we started, you know, exposing ourselves to new listeners or a new avatar. And then all of a sudden, we started getting opportunities that normally maybe wouldn't have come along. For example, some speaking and some hosting opportunities. So one thing starts affecting everything else, and it's the same when you live with a spouse or a family member. Once you start going toward your goals, seeing the other person's goals, and then you start helping each other, two people are always there's more energy.

Jason Shelfer: 8:17

There's more energy, there's more power.

Jana Shelfer: 8:19

Yes.

Jason Shelfer: 8:20

I mean, because like I can you can set this big audacious goal. So going from worst to first, and well, become our coin phrase. So you can set this audacious goal because when when you told me in the car I'm gonna be world champion, I said, okay. I like I believed it because And you got excited. I got super excited because you may not have seen it.

Jana Shelfer: 8:42

You may have you did more than I did.

Jason Shelfer: 8:44

Right. And that's my point, is you may not have like it may have been like this big audacious goal, and you're like, even if I'm not world champion, I'm gonna, I'm gonna get so good, people are gonna have to notice me. Like, I know a little bit how you think. Yes, like and you you say I come up with these big crazy goals that are so like moonshots, but that was a moonshot.

Jana Shelfer: 9:08

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer: 9:09

The thing is, I saw the path so clearly. More clearly than I did, and even when you were in the hardest times, because you're learning something new, like the the slalom course, trick skiing, and then you brought in jump at the like in the two weeks before the compet the world competition. You bring it whenever you bring in something new, it's gonna be challenging, it's gonna be difficult. There were times through the year where you said, I hate this freaking sport, I'm I don't want to do it anymore.

Jana Shelfer: 9:38

Okay, let's let's delete that. Cut that out, please.

Jason Shelfer: 9:41

But this is the thing. So we have these audacious goals. However, because you had a partner who saw the path so clearly, I understood you don't hate the sport, you hate this growth you're going through right now. It's so uncomfortable, it hurts.

Jana Shelfer: 9:54

You know, recently I heard the quote, I could always count on you counting on me.

Jason Shelfer: 10:04

That's a that's a monkey chain of a mastery, like power move right now.

Jana Shelfer: 10:09

I could always count on Jason counting on me. And that is what it does when you start putting your goals on the wall and start aligning them. It's now all of a sudden my why is not only for for my soul, but it's it's for Jason's soul and it's for us. It it be your mission starts getting wider and deeper.

Jason Shelfer: 10:39

Yeah. It's it's I don't want to let the teacher down. I don't want to let my parents down. I don't want to let my coach down. And it's a it's one of those things where it's like, hey, we're we have a symbiotic maybe relationship where it's like, hey, I'm gonna keep filling your cup, you're gonna keep filling my cup, and we're gonna we're gonna overflow into the world together.

Jana Shelfer: 10:58

We have a symbiotic relationship. We have we have decided this, and you listening, have one with anyone that you live with as well, whether you think so or not. You might go, no, oh no, but you do, you do. And in that symbiotic relationship, it's almost like a rubber band around the both of you or around your whole family. You can either help each other climb or you can weigh each other down. Now, if there's one person in your family that is not doing well, whether it's mentally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, then it's gonna be hard to keep climbing, even though you think, oh, well, that's their problem.

Jason Shelfer: 11:39

Right.

Jana Shelfer: 11:39

There's energy there. There is energy there, and you climb together. You climb together.

Jason Shelfer: 11:46

And it doesn't mean you have to stop climbing, right? Because sometimes seeing you climb is gonna help them get that motivation to climb. Because how many times have did we say or I said back 10, 15 years ago, I feel like I'm getting left behind?

Jana Shelfer: 12:03

No, I said that. Well, you both have said that at different times.

Jason Shelfer: 12:06

So it's it's one of those things where it's like that kind of gives you we're sometimes we won't move until we feel the pain of being stagnant.

Jana Shelfer: 12:13

That is so true. That is so true.

Jason Shelfer: 12:15

However, when you're one of the best motivators, and a lot of times what I found is that when that was happening, I didn't have clear defined goals to shoot for.

Jana Shelfer: 12:24

And and sometimes, like early on in this process, I had goals and you had goals, and they weren't quite aligned, parallel.

Jason Shelfer: 12:33

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer: 12:34

And so then what happens is we start with that rubber band around the both of us, we start working in slightly different directions, and it's almost like our energy is working against each other. So I cannot stress it feels like that how important it is to align everyone in your family. So, first you have to know what you want, and then you have to know what everyone else wants on the team. So big, and you have to huddle up, you have to huddle up and that was such a game changer. Wait a minute, let's huddle up because I don't quite feel like I'm going in the direction I want to go.

Jason Shelfer: 13:13

And Jay, I mean, Jason's had those moments too where Well, one of the big things is is so in any marriage, I will I will tell you this. Everybody gets in, most people get into a marriage because they want to grow together. And then what happens is, and and they want to make the marriage powerful, they want to, they may or may not want to be the power couple, but they want to be the best they can be together.

Jana Shelfer: 13:35

Yes.

Jason Shelfer: 13:36

And then what happens is because we're not talking, we're not huddling up, one partner doesn't recognize that the other partner is doing something for the marriage and for the partnership in their way, and they see it as what are they like they're going off on a tangent, but because they're not huddling up and talking about what the what their personal process is. Does that make sense?

Speaker 1: 14:01

Yes.

Jason Shelfer: 14:01

So so, and then the further you allow that to go without discussing it, without having those little huddle up moments, the further away you feel and the further away you seem. And then it's and then sometimes you just get off track. Like sometimes you get so far apart that you just you you can't really recognize each other anymore. And that's where that huddling up comes back together and knowing, okay, what are your goals? What are my goals? What are our goals? And then talking about them because you should have separate goals that are that are also your own.

Jana Shelfer: 14:35

Which is our next podcast. We're going to talk about communication and learning to articulate what we want. Thanks for joining us.

Jason Shelfer: 14:45

Keep Living Lucky®.

Speaker 1: 14:46

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