Holiday Sugar, Gentle Boundaries

Holiday Health: How to Set Kind Boundaries & Protect Your Spark ✨

Small-town generosity often arrives as sugar-laden love. But when comfort food creates a "sugar monster" fog, you start hiding instead of showing up. This self-help masterclass teaches you to pivot from a holiday doom loop to an upward success cycle without rejecting your community.

Learn to Master Your Holiday Mindset:

• Break the "Hiding" Habit: Recognize when feeling "frumpy" makes you stay small and dim your light.
• Choose Imperfections: Learn why "one intentional bite" beats a mindless buffet.
• Set Kind Boundaries: Scripts to honor the giver while protecting your energy.

Mindset Nuggets for Self-Trust:

• Awareness is the Turning Key: Ask: "Do today's choices match the energy I want?" Awareness stops a habit before it becomes a lifestyle.
• Body = Temple, Not a Display: You live there 24/7; it is not a holiday display for others’ approval. (Believe in yourself).
• Kind Scripts for Others: Try: "I'm saving this to savor tomorrow when I can truly enjoy it!" Gratitude can coexist with limits.
• Self-Boundaries Over People-Pleasing: Your long-term energy is more important than a momentary "yes" to a cookie.
• Small Hinges Swing Big Doors: A 15-minute walk or water before coffee rebuilds confidence fast. (Believe in your circumstances).

Don't let the holidays dim your light. Hit play to keep your energy steady and your presence bright!

How to say no to holiday sweets politely, overcoming the sugar monster, treating your body like a temple, managing people-pleasing during holidays.

• "How do I set boundaries with friends who bring sweets?"
• "What is the best way to handle holiday weight gain guilt?"
• "How can I stay consistent with my diet during the holidays?"
• "What does it mean to choose your imperfections on purpose?"
  
  *** If you would like some easy and effective responses/ scripts to help you set gentle holiday boundaries,  text us directly with the link below.
  Example: 
  • "You are so generous! I’ve already hit my 'sweet limit' for today, and I want to wake up feeling sharp tomorrow, so I’ll pass for now."

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*Previously Recorded

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome To Belleville And Holiday Sweets
• 1:05 Sugar Triggers And Feeling Off
• 2:15 Body Image And Showing Up
• 3:40 Awareness As A Compass
• 5:10 Creating Kind Boundaries
• 9:45 Self-Boundaries And Lasting Energy
• 10:05 Gratitude, Community, And Sign-Off

Transcript

Jana Shelfer: 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning. I'm Jana. I'm Jason. And we from Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer: 0:19

You are too.

Jana Shelfer: 0:20

Live from Belleville, Kansas.

Jason Shelfer: 0:23

The middle of America.

Jana Shelfer: 0:24

It is directly in the middle of America. It's where the highways cross.

Jason Shelfer: 0:29

I know. I remember driving just a couple miles west of here, and it there was a sign on the road that says, you are in the dead center of America.

Jana Shelfer: 0:38

It's the breadbasket of the world. And let me just tell you, when you're here for the holidays, small town America, a lot of people knock on your door and bring you pastries.

Jason Shelfer: 0:51

Sweets.

Jana Shelfer: 0:52

Homemade banana bread. Cookies. Rice pudding. Brownies. I mean, we're talking fruit baskets and cookies, all sorts of cookies, brownies.

Jason Shelfer: 1:04

A lot of sugary, even the fruit, um, high sugar.

Jana Shelfer: 1:08

And it is oh so good. And you think, you think to yourself, you know, this person put a lot of love into this. I'll try it. It would be a shame if I didn't at least try it. And then when you try it, that usually it usually goes into, okay, well, maybe I'll just have another one.

Jason Shelfer: 1:27

Well, for me, it wakes up that sugar monster inside.

Jana Shelfer: 1:30

Yes.

Jason Shelfer: 1:30

That's like, oh yeah, feed me more of that.

Jana Shelfer: 1:33

Feed me seymour.

Jason Shelfer: 1:34

Feed me seymour. Little shop of horrors.

Jana Shelfer: 1:37

So what we're talking about today is I literally woke up this morning and I said to Jason, I don't really feel my best.

Jason Shelfer: 1:48

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer: 1:48

Well, I because what we what I eat is in, I mean, I I know this happens for everybody, but I feel like I'm very, very sensitive to well, I feel bloated because a lot of these things that we aren't used to eating are getting kind of injected into our diets. And and it doesn't help that we were sick last week. Right. And so I was eating comfort food. I'm like, I just want a grilled cheese sandwich.

Jason Shelfer: 2:15

I just want to feel good. I'm gonna eat something crackers. It makes my body feel like crack.

Jana Shelfer: 2:19

Yes. And so I wasn't really nourishing my body or eating for that's vague. Health, right?

Jason Shelfer: 2:27

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer: 2:27

And then after you do that for two weeks, it feels like it all of a sudden you wake up and you go, Well, I don't feel as sharp as I I want to feel. Yeah, we we gotta get back to that rebooting of the system, or or even just seeing people, you know, like we're seeing a lot of people, a lot of old friends, old family members that we haven't seen in a while. And you kind of show up differently because I'm like, oh gosh, I hope they don't think that I've gained 10 pounds. Do you know what I'm saying?

Jason Shelfer: 2:59

That's it's funny. It's there, I mean, it's there's a scriptural saying that's treat your body like a temple. I know, and it's because it's the only home that we live in forever, right?

Jana Shelfer: 3:09

That's such a good saying.

Jason Shelfer: 3:10

So even subconsciously, we know when we aren't treating it like when we aren't doing keeping our house in good repair.

Jana Shelfer: 3:20

And it affects the way we show up, you know, like because I kind of feel a little frumpy, I'm like, oh, I don't necessarily want to take my coat off and stay for 20 minutes because I'm like, oh, there's a fear of maybe judgment.

Jason Shelfer: 3:34

Well, if you feel frumpy, you show up frumpy, right? And you know that. Yes. So then you start dimming your light, and you're like, if I just make myself small enough, yeah, then I can get out of here and no one will notice.

Jana Shelfer: 3:48

It's so weird, these little mind games that we play with ourselves. I guess the whole point of this podcast is when we feel fit, healthy, at our best, then we make better decisions. We show up with a different energy, and it really allows us to our best self, not only physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

Jason Shelfer: 4:12

It creates a different pathway through life, is what happens. Yes.

Jana Shelfer: 4:16

And we're all then the the rub here is that especially at holiday time or when you're when you've been sick and you're not maybe eating and exercising the way you want to. Typically do, yeah. Then I mean it only has been two weeks for us. When I was in Australia, I felt good, right? Right, yeah. And then all of a sudden, you felt like a world champion, maybe. And I'm like, hey, let's let's splurge a little. And it's only taken two weeks for me to now start feeling like I've gone to the other end of the teeter-totter.

Jason Shelfer: 4:50

Like, I'm not an athlete.

Jana Shelfer: 4:52

I'm over here, I'm over here eating cheese dip.

Jason Shelfer: 4:56

Pounding this uh banana bread. It's uh it's uh but it there's that there's that idea in there that when you're sick, you aren't full capacity, you aren't strong, there's a weakness, and then we start making maybe less than ideal decision.

Jana Shelfer: 5:16

Poor decisions.

Jason Shelfer: 5:16

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer: 5:17

And it's the same at Christmas time, you know, we give ourselves a little leeway to enjoy and be present and and experience all of the goodies that are around us, but yet at the same time, there's uh an after result.

Jason Shelfer: 5:34

Yes, and I think part of the the biggest thing, and we talk about this um way back in the beginning of our podcast uh b beginnings, that awareness of it is the key. Like I think just being aware of am I making the same decisions today that I would make in a on a different day towards the life I want to live or to the health that I want to have or to the wealth that I want to have. And then we say, okay, well, what's happening in here? And how might I, if I want to splurge or if I want to indulge, what if I take those like a small bite, you know, and then how do I, how do I just say, you know what, I can I can make the nothing in life is perfect.

Jana Shelfer: 6:20

Yes, right? Yes.

Jason Shelfer: 6:21

So what if we just choose our imperfections?

Jana Shelfer: 6:25

I I hear you, but I also know that when a neighbor that I haven't seen in over then we allow that a few years comes over and says, Hey, I made this rice pudding specifically for you. And I really want you to try it because it's my my recipe that I try to do. I want to watch you eat it. And so I feel like in that.

Jason Shelfer: 6:49

I want to watch you eat it.

Jana Shelfer: 6:50

It it is showing love to receive it and to indulge in it.

Jason Shelfer: 6:56

And when 10 people show up in one day, which we did have yesterday.

Jana Shelfer: 7:00

Yesterday, yeah. We had 10 people show up and only one brought a pointsetta. Everyone else brought things that you that are go to your hips.

Jason Shelfer: 7:09

Right. Little small town saboteurs.

Jana Shelfer: 7:14

Well, I guess, I guess, I mean, I don't really know what the answer is, except for maybe talking about this, we realize that we all go through this, and maybe a middle of the road taking a moderate approach to things maybe a moderate.

Jason Shelfer: 7:32

Well, what about creating kind boundaries?

Jana Shelfer: 7:37

Oh. Okay. Tell me about kind boundaries because that rings a bell.

Jason Shelfer: 7:44

Well, if let's just say we had literally yesterday there were 10 people that came over at different times during the day. And some of them overlapped and all this. So the there's a festive energy in the air. People are excited to see each other, they they're excited to see us, but they're bringing sweets. Yes.

Jana Shelfer: 8:02

So I don't I'm not using the and because you say but, but however, that's a good thing.

Jason Shelfer: 8:07

Typically, we like to say and because we yes and things.

Jana Shelfer: 8:11

Yes.

Jason Shelfer: 8:12

But I'm using the term but because the sweets are not part of our quote unquote plan. You know? Like it's not like, yeah, we we can take the sweets in, yeah, but typically we're gonna do that on our own schedule and in our own moderations.

Jana Shelfer: 8:30

I mean, okay, yes.

Jason Shelfer: 8:32

So when people continue to show up, it's almost like the dam breaking, right? And so if we say, I'm gonna set kind boundaries up, then we can say, you know what, I really appreciate that, Mr. Smith or Mrs. Smith, but so and so I just had uh sweets from someone else. I would love to just save yours until tomorrow. So I guess what you're saying is because so many people want to see you enjoy the gift that they made and and what they baked and all that, but knowing that you will will have to be good enough instead of sitting at this buffet of pastries and sweets and I all the all the So maybe what you're really saying is I need to set kind boundaries with myself. Oh, that's even bigger.

Jana Shelfer: 9:19

Because it feels like I'm more worried about what other people are going to think than about how I feel.

Jason Shelfer: 9:27

And that other feeling, we're gonna be going back home and taking this longer-term feeling of letharg lethargy. I do feel lethargic exploding.

Jana Shelfer: 9:39

I feel a little bit stopped in my wheelchair, is what I'm feeling.

Jason Shelfer: 9:43

So I love that you thought you thought of kinder boundaries with yourself.

Jana Shelfer: 9:48

Yes. Okay. Thanks. Thanks for letting us work this out. Right. If you have any advice for us, please. Please email, text us, reach out to us, and thank you so much for being here. Thank you for listening. We are so grateful for you.

Jason Shelfer: 10:05

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Jana Shelfer: 10:06

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