Prove Yourself To Yourself

Prove Yourself To Yourself: The Simple Practice That Ends Waiting & Builds Momentum

Waiting for your "ship to come in"? Stop! This self-help episode reveals the game-changing practice to flip the doom loop: Prove yourself to yourself with one action.

We expose the hidden comfort of waiting—a defense mechanism that erodes self-trust. Get the timeless wisdom of Jim Rohn and Zig Ziglar on why discipline over delay is the only path to your dreams.

Learn to use the mental eraser on setbacks, how micro choices build momentum, and the mental shift that claims: "My time is now."

Actionable Nuggets & Takeaways:

• The Core Command: Prove yourself to yourself. Your actions vote for your desired identity. Delay proves the dream isn't worthy of the work.
• The Waiting Trap: Waiting is a safe defense mechanism that erodes self-trust. Stop waiting for your ship; go get your ship.
• Discipline Over Delay: Keep it simple, consistent, and keep your promises to yourself. Discipline is a promise repeated—show up when it's scary.
• Action Creates Clarity: Just start. Action reveals the next action; energy follows effort. Start scared, start small, start now.
• Mental Eraser: Use the mental eraser to wipe obstacles from your whiteboard. Redraw the plan and tackle it in a new way.
• Breakthroughs in Setbacks: Small setbacks hide breakthroughs. Your ceiling becomes your new floor with every cycle of try, learn, adjust.
• My Time Is Now: When challenged, embrace it. The universe asks, "Do you want this?" Claim the moment: My time is now.

Ready to build unstoppable self-trust? Hit play and take one step today!

• How to build self-trust through micro choices.
• Why is waiting a defense mechanism?
• Jim Rohn's advice on discipline and consistency.
• Turning your ceiling into your new floor with iteration.
• How to start a dream when motivation is missing.
• The power of keeping promises to yourself.
• "Why do people get stuck waiting for the right time to start a goal?" "What is the relationship between self-trust and daily discipline?" "What are the core lessons from Jim Rohn and Zig Ziglar on personal development?"

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Turning Negativity Into Momentum

Jana Shelfer 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer 0:14

Good morning.

Jana Shelfer 0:15

I'm Jana. I'm Jason. And we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer 0:18

So

Morning Walks And Classic Mentors

Jason Shelfer 0:19

are you.

Jana Shelfer 0:19

Okay, Jason and I have become those people. You know, the people that walk around the neighborhood carrying our little speaker.

Jason Shelfer 0:26

Carrying that boom box.

Jana Shelfer 0:28

So the it's so 80s, isn't it?

Jason Shelfer 0:31

At least it's tiny now.

Jana Shelfer 0:33

We've been getting out and going on walks together, which has been really, really fun.

Jason Shelfer 0:38

It's four o'clock in the morning. Do you know where your neighbors are?

Jana Shelfer 0:42

Okay, we didn't go that early. We went more like 6, 6:30. Anyway, we carry this little speaker with us and we listen to Jim Roan, one of the greats when it comes to self-development. He's saying the same things that everybody is saying today. So he was way ahead of his time. However, he says it in a slightly different language because you can tell our language may have not been subconsciously evolved. Yeah, language just changes over time.

Prove Yourself To Yourself

Jason Shelfer 1:17

And it's it's just very talking to the people.

Jana Shelfer 1:20

So it when he says things, it hits me. And I go, Yeah, that's it.

Jason Shelfer 1:25

It hits me too, because I I like to keep things super simple. Right? Jem Rohn, Zig Ziggler, those the old school people just keep it so simple, and it just it hits me right in my soul.

Jana Shelfer 1:37

One thing that he said is prove yourself to yourself.

Jason Shelfer 1:44

So that's simple, and it also gives you plenty to ponder on.

Jana Shelfer 1:49

So I have to be real. This morning it it's Halloween, it's cold outside, and I was thinking, oh, you know, maybe we can just wait a couple hours to go for our walk that we've been planning.

Jason Shelfer 2:05

Yeah, that we said first thing we're gonna

Comfort Of Waiting And Defense

Jason Shelfer 2:08

do this morning is get up and go for that walk.

Jana Shelfer 2:10

We said that yesterday. Yes. And then I heard it's on the calendar, it's in the schedule. In my little ear, I heard prove yourself to yourself. Because when you put things off, you're proving to yourself that either it's not important, or that you're not important, you don't deserve it, or the dream is not worthy of the the work that's involved.

Jason Shelfer 2:35

Or you're not worthy of the dream.

Jana Shelfer 2:37

There's so many, there's so many implications. And one of the however, if you just say, you know what, I'm gonna prove to myself that my time is now.

Jason Shelfer 2:48

Yes, and that's one of the the big things right there is just saying, you know what, it's my time is now, the wait is over, and I get to make that choice. Like so many times we'll sit there and say, I'm waiting for my ship to come in. Yes, right? Like I'm I'm waiting, I'm waiting, and we get comfortable in the wait. Like that becomes our new comfort. Yes.

Jana Shelfer 3:12

So because you know why? It there is a layer of, well, then if it doesn't work out, it's

Setbacks Versus Breakthroughs

Jana Shelfer 3:20

not me. It's just the way it always happens.

Jason Shelfer 3:23

I was waiting.

Jana Shelfer 3:24

Yes, I did my part, I did my part waiting.

Jason Shelfer 3:28

That's that's so true.

Jana Shelfer 3:30

It's almost a defense mechanism.

Jason Shelfer 3:32

It is, because if you don't start, if you don't actively pursue and get discipline about that pursuit, then you don't have there's nothing in you that have to has to say, I didn't learn enough, I didn't do enough to to to get there. And I say that if you if you can just take that and learn and grow through it, because it's just about actively pursuing and reiterating or iterating that what you learn through it, yes, that's gonna get you to it.

Jana Shelfer 4:08

No, I'm I'm having kind of an out-of-body experience right now as we speak, because I do feel I've been working really, really hard on this dream of competitive water skiing. Yes. And just in the last week, which we are now two weeks from leaving for Australia, I have been experiencing all of these little tiny setbacks. And there is something inside me that I've been thinking, okay, this is the way it goes for me. Do you know what I'm saying? Like, I I mean, all these little things. My cage broke me, equipment-wise, the water's getting colder. I went to the doctor, he said, I may have broken my hip over the summer. Like, there's just all these little things that have been popping up. And you just hit home for me because it's almost like the universe is challenging me to say, Okay, Janaa, do you want this? Is it your time? Because you've got all the resources and all the opportunity, make it happen.

Jason Shelfer 5:18

And the weird thing is

Mental Eraser And Micro Choices

Jason Shelfer 5:20

also a lot of times these the small setbacks will cover up the small breakthroughs. Yeah. Because you've had so many breakthroughs.

Jana Shelfer 5:29

Well, I feel like just this morning during this podcast, I've had a mental breakthrough.

Jason Shelfer 5:36

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer 5:37

Because those excuses no longer work for me.

Jason Shelfer 5:40

Oh, that's huge.

Jana Shelfer 5:41

Right? My time is now. When you can mark it, and I'm gonna prove it to myself, yes, and to everyone listening that when you put a dream out there and you work toward it, the universe responds. The universe responds.

Jason Shelfer 5:55

Yes, and that's that's just kind of a way of taking the the mental eraser and saying, nothing gets in my way. You get to mark out all the trouble and obstacle. Like you're gonna, because obstacles are gonna present themselves. Obstacles kind of write themselves on the dry erase board. And you get to take that mental eraser and say, I'm gonna, I'm gonna go get around that, get through it, just wipe it off, and I'm gonna tackle this in a new way. Like I'm gonna come up with that new plan to get through this.

Jana Shelfer 6:25

My time is now. Yes. Prove it to yourself. Prove it to prove yourself to yourself. And that's just every micro choice that you make makes a difference.

Jason Shelfer 6:37

Yes, and that's just choosing to start again from where you have just climbed to, or just your ceiling becomes your new floor. That's thank you. That's the way I meant to put that.

Jana Shelfer 6:50

No, I I understand because we finished each other's sandwiches. Maybe we we should really change that. Uh anyway, I feel like I'm having a breakthrough right now, and all of a sudden it it's almost like I've I'm seeing uh all new territory in a weird,

The Wait Is Over

Jana Shelfer 7:12

abstract sort of way. I hope you're following me.

Jason Shelfer 7:14

So the wait is over once you choose to start. So stop waiting for your ship to come in and go get your ship.

Jana Shelfer 7:25

Or yeah, get aboard. Climb aboard.

Jason Shelfer 7:27

Yes.

Jana Shelfer 7:28

You know what? I think we can end right there. Prove yourself to yourself. Your dreams are within reach. Within reach. You just need to show up. Yeah, get disciplined.

Jason Shelfer 7:42

If that's too abstract for any of you, all that means is take a

Just Start And Keep Showing Up

Jason Shelfer 7:46

step today. Start now, start impertinent. It doesn't have to be a big one. Start scared, just do something that moves you towards it. Then you can figure it out after that.

Jana Shelfer 7:56

I think the key word in that sentence is just start.

Jason Shelfer 7:59

Just start.

Jana Shelfer 8:00

Have a great day. Thanks for joining us.

Jason Shelfer 8:02

Keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer 8:02

Bye bye.

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Jana Shelfer 8:05

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