Share Your Dream, Or Guard It?

Share Your Dream, Or Guard It? The Inner Decision That Triggers Synchronicity ✨ (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Tired of circling a goal without traction? The pivot point isn't when to speak your dream—it's the inner decision you make first.

This self-help episode resolves the debate on sharing dreams, moving you from the doom loop of wishing to an upward success cycle of specific action. Learn how this choice sharpens your focus, attracting synchronicity (the right support) exactly when needed. We break down our 2026 planning and the wave of aligned opportunities that followed our clarity.

Actionable Nuggets & Takeaways for Dream Momentum:

• The Core Shift: Dreams are fragile wishes until you make the internal decision. This pivot point consolidates energy and makes the universe co-create with you.
• Share Smartly: Only share after you choose. Conviction invites targeted help and ensures pushback refines your plan, instead of derailing it.
• Synchronicity is Action: It's selective attention meeting consistent action. Define your destination, and your mind will scan for the path, effectively compressing time.
• The Farmer Check: Before announcing, ask: Have you prepared the soil (mapped the first step)? A plan (not a wish) invites allies who save you years of long-way learning.
• Clarity Pulls Support: People want to matter. Clear commitment gives others a direct way to help. Accept support without outsourcing your agency.
• Resilience Refinement: When criticism shows up, find the nugget of wisdom to refine your plan, discarding the rest.

Ready to turn "someday" into a living plan? Decide inside, name the destination, and invite the right allies to walk with you.

When should you share your big goals? How to make an internal decision to achieve goals. The farmer test for workable plans. How to turn a wish into a specific goal. Synchronicity explained as selective attention. How clarity attracts support and resources. Overcoming self-doubt when pursuing a dream. "What is the key pivot point that turns a dream into a plan?" "When is the best time to share your goals with others?" "How does an 'internal decision' trigger synchronicity?" "What is the Farmer Test for goal readiness?" "Why

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*Previously Recorded

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And The Dream Debate
• 0:46 Share It Or Keep It Private
• 2:30 Seeds Of Doubt And Early Labels
• 4:31 Finding The Middle Ground
• 6:08 Planning 2026 And Noticing Signs
• 9:16 Synchronicity When You Decide

Transcript

Welcome And The Dream Debate

Jana Shelfer 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer 0:14

Good morning. I'm Jana. I'm Jason.

Jana Shelfer 0:16

And we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer 0:18

You are too.

Jana Shelfer 0:19

Dreams start from the inside.

Jason Shelfer 0:22

So delicious.

Jana Shelfer 0:24

The reason we're laughing is because right before we press record, Jason was like, it's kind of like a mountain.

Jason Shelfer 0:30

Mountains are made from the inside.

Jana Shelfer 0:31

It's kind of like a glacier. He's using all these really majestic examples.

Jason Shelfer 0:35

Jana says it's kind of like a skin sore. And I vomited in my mouth just a small amount. But I swallowed it, so it's all good.

Share It Or Keep It Private

Jana Shelfer 0:45

So there's been a debate. I mean, we've debated this for the last 10 years of whether or not you should say your dreams out loud.

Jason Shelfer 0:54

Yeah. Do you tell people? Do you keep it silent and show people? What how what is that process? And there, I think there's two sides of that seesaw or two sides of the aisle where people are like, never tell anyone what your dream is.

Jana Shelfer 1:07

Because they may they're gonna shoot you down, they're gonna burn you up, or they may just give you that little look that plants a seed of doubt in your subconscious mind.

Jason Shelfer 1:17

And that seed of doubt can root if you are not rooted.

Jana Shelfer 1:21

I mean, we we've all experienced that when we were little, and we'd say, when I grow up, I'm gonna be an astronaut.

Jason Shelfer 1:27

And our parents are like smart enough, you're not tall enough, you're too fat, you're too skinny.

Jana Shelfer 1:31

And they don't they don't say that, right? But they have a look in their eye and they're like, okay, you do that.

Jason Shelfer 1:36

Why don't you go play on the playground a little longer before you decide what you want to do for the rest of your life?

Jana Shelfer 1:41

And so then we interpret, well, what what did they mean by that? Yeah, with without even really knowing what we're doing.

Jason Shelfer 1:46

Exactly.

Jana Shelfer 1:46

So there the other side of that seesaw is tell your dreams out loud, say it to everyone you meet, become extremely passionate about it, to where it's the one thing that you love to talk about. And when you do that, then you will start attracting people that will not only help you, or people who are like-minded in that dream, they will lift you towards it, or people who can give you just that nugget of wisdom that will get you to that next step. So there's two different mindsets here. Jason and I fall exactly in the middle.

Jason Shelfer 2:21

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer 2:22

We we've gone through the phase where we've actually collected people's dreams, yes, which sometimes is like pulling teeth.

Seeds Of Doubt And Early Labels

Jason Shelfer 2:29

Right. Well, some people have never even thought of their dream, or they've they have thought of their dream, but because of that seed of doubt, and and they've started focusing on why their dream isn't happening or what's wrong with the world, they've let go of that and they've kind of shaded over that, erased it from the chalkboard, and they've forgotten it.

Jana Shelfer 2:47

So that can bring up a lot of regret, shame, guilt, all those feelings that aren't necessarily healthy if you don't know how to manage them. So then there's the the other side where we've gone through the phase of, you know what, we're just gonna start doing and not tell anybody what our dream is. And that I mean, we had a lot of success, don't get me wrong, but we also came upon the challenge of people not knowing what we are or what we do.

Jason Shelfer 3:23

And also spending a lot of time researching and trying to figure things out on our own and learning the long way.

Jana Shelfer 3:30

Yes.

Jason Shelfer 3:31

Yeah, like learning the learning a 10-year process that could have taken a two years to get or a one year to get or a day.

Jana Shelfer 3:39

And literally, when people who are in our very inner circle, like our family, would be like, Well, I could have told you that. And so it felt like it was the long way around the mountain, right? Round the the skin tour. Gross. The pus pocket. So what we have decided, and last night was an example of this that was so evident to both of us. We started talking about 2026 and we started making our plan for 2026 and what direction we wanted to go.

Jason Shelfer 4:18

It is October. If you're not currently talking about 2026 and what your goals and dreams are for 2026, you might want to consider it.

Finding The Middle Ground

Jana Shelfer 4:26

And it was so interesting that what I said to Jason, what do you really want to focus on? Because we really need to hone our energy and go in the same direction. And he started telling me this vision, and I said, You know what? I have the exact same vision. That's exactly where I want to go. And we talked about it for probably an hour. Then we got in the car to go to an event, and as we were going to the car or going to the event, we passed some potential content ideas, some potential opportunities that I thought that would be great for us in 2026. That would be great for us, and the people that we meet and doing that would be really fantastic. Then we get to this event, and it's almost like people were reading our minds without us saying our vision for 2026 out loud.

Jason Shelfer 5:28

It's almost like everything, it's almost like we were doing an origami puzzle and everything was just coming together in the moment. It's called synchronicity. Yes.

Jana Shelfer 5:36

And the right people were coming to our table and randomly bringing up topics that fell right in line with what we've been talking about. With our vision for 2026.

Jason Shelfer 5:51

Yes.

Planning 2026 And Noticing Signs

Jana Shelfer 5:52

So my whole point is whether or not you should say your dreams out loud or keep them to yourself. When you make an internal shift and decide this is what I'm doing, this is where I'm going, the universe has this magical way of co-creating with you.

Jason Shelfer 6:17

Yeah, and I think it's it has to do with knowing. Like, like it's almost like saying I'm going on a road trip, or I'm saying I'm going from Orlando to Atlanta. So if I'm going on a road trip, the universe says, Well, just go. Like you're not gonna know what you're gonna get. Yes, and you just need to be fine with that. But if you say I'm going from Orlando to Atlanta, the universe is gonna say, Okay, go. You might run into roadblocks, you might run into flat tires, whatever, but you will get to Atlanta. So it's decide where you're gonna go, know it, and then you can tell whoever you want.

Jana Shelfer 6:54

Like But it's the it's the internal shift.

Jason Shelfer 6:57

That's the important shift is knowing.

Jana Shelfer 6:59

That is the important piece of the puzzle.

Jason Shelfer 7:03

And being passionate about it. Because if someone comes along and says, Are you sure you want to go to Atlanta?

Jana Shelfer 7:08

Oh, yes. They're like, Well, maybe I know Atlanta has this right. You gotta these people and this opportunity, and this is why. And I can't wait to experience this. It's it's the knowing. You're right.

Jason Shelfer 7:23

It is the knowing because it and that's like one of the things I think one of the things that came to me just, and this is weird because the share your weirdness, like you've never done that before. Well, I tend to over um give I give too many stories or metaphors, analogies.

Jana Shelfer 7:40

It's what makes you a genius.

Jason Shelfer 7:42

Because we're farmers and we are farmers.

Jana Shelfer 7:46

We say that very loosely.

Jason Shelfer 7:47

Thank you for your sponsorship, farmers.

Jana Shelfer 7:49

We say that very loosely.

Jason Shelfer 7:51

The um if we farmers, the way they cultivate their dreams or their crops is that they they they plan it, right? They they they hire in the people to help, they they till up the land and all this stuff, and a lot of times we'll tell people what our dream is without having done any of the work.

Jana Shelfer 8:09

Okay, you know, so well, because at that point it's almost like a I call it a dream or dream and scheme. Right. It's a wish. What if it's almost living in your imagination?

Jason Shelfer 8:21

Yes. So maybe that maybe that's where the other side of the aisle is saying, don't tell anyone if it's still just a wish. But if you've said if you have made that internal shift, yeah, where now you have like I'm gonna go after this dream, then it's like now you need to start speaking it into the world. Yes, because the universe needs to know that you've made that decision. Yes. The universe needs to know people that might want to be on your path or might want to help you need to know because if they don't know, they don't know they can help you. And I'm convinced that there are people in the world that want to help. Because people want to matter.

Jana Shelfer 9:00

Yes.

Jason Shelfer 9:00

That's the thing, is everyone in the world, I believe, wants to matter in some way. And how do you matter? You matter by helping.

Jana Shelfer 9:10

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer 9:11

I mean, that's that's just a fact.

Synchronicity When You Decide

Jana Shelfer 9:13

By being, I mean, some people are created to help, or I I mean, I I don't want to argue.

Jason Shelfer 9:20

You're gonna help somebody one way or the other.

Jana Shelfer 9:23

But you matter by I think spreading light, which helps. Which yeah, you're right.

Jason Shelfer 9:30

Because some people are sitting in darkness.

Jana Shelfer 9:32

I'm sorry to stop stick you. That's all right. I just became the pus pocket of the skin score.

Jason Shelfer 9:37

No, but I mean it's so it's just that the shadow side of anything is is really helping in one way or the other. That's this is the the John Martini um gratitude effect.

Jana Shelfer 9:46

Yeah, you're right.

Jason Shelfer 9:46

Like there's gratitude in everything.

Jana Shelfer 9:48

You're right.

Jason Shelfer 9:49

So if there's gratitude in everything, there's help in everything. Because even someone being an asshole to you.

Jana Shelfer 9:55

Oh gosh.

Jason Shelfer 9:56

I said asshole on the podcast. Which we're gonna now we're gonna have to put that little asterisk in the notes. But even that is a way of helping you kind of build up your own resistance and tolerance to people being abrasive.

Jana Shelfer 10:13

So let's just put this all in a little nutshell. It's making the shift within.

Jason Shelfer 10:20

Yes. And that's gonna be all the difference to helping the universe come to help you.

Jana Shelfer 10:25

You've always had the power, my dear. You just needed to discover it yourself. Have a great day.

Jason Shelfer 10:33

Keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer 10:34

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