Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason and Jana Banana

Shark Mindset: Ditch the Sunday Scaries

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 9 • Episode 1

Share episode

Shark Mindset: Ditch the Sunday Scaries & Embrace Your Power (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Are you sick of the Sunday Scaries? 😫 In this mind-shifting Living Lucky® Podcast episode, Jason and Jana Banana reveal an unexpected source of wisdom: sharks. Discover how adopting a "shark mindset" is the key to escaping the doom loop of dread and living a life of purpose, power, and unapologetic authenticity.

This is a powerful self-help and personal development masterclass for anyone ready to glow up and pursue their dreams:

  • The Shark vs. The Human: Understand the striking contrast between a shark's purposeful existence and the human tendency to drown in anxiety about work, expectations, and other people's opinions.
  • Cultivating "Thick Skin": Learn that developing resilience isn't about becoming callous. It's about building a mindset so confident that others' doubts and fears can't penetrate your determination.
  • The Dream Debate: We tackle the age-old question: should you keep your dreams private or share them publicly? Weigh the risks of external negativity against the immense value of gaining support from your community.
  • Escaping the 7-to-7 Grind: Hear how an unconventional lifestyle—coaching, podcasting, and water skiing—can challenge traditional notions of success. Find the confidence to live your truth without justifying it to others.
  • Unapologetic Purpose: This episode is a call to action. Stop dimming your light to fit in. Discover that the most fulfilled people are those who speak up, take action, and refuse to let limiting beliefs—from themselves or others—get in their way.

Ready to trade your Monday morning dread for a shark-like swagger? This conversation will empower you to live in alignment with your authentic self and start chasing your dreams with a new sense of purpose. 

How to overcome Sunday Scaries. What is the shark mindset? How to build thick skin. How to deal with people who discourage your dreams. The science of Sunday night dread. Living an unconventional lifestyle. Why do people criticize success? How to find your purpose in life. How to build confidence to chase your dreams. What is the shark mindset? Why do people get the Sunday Scaries? How can I develop thicker skin? Should I tell people about my dreams? Why do people criticize others' success? How do I deal with fear of judgment? How to stop caring wha

TEXT US DIRECTLY

For mind-blowing inspirational content that we implement ourselves, join us by subscribing and connecting to our private community.

Thanks for joining us.
CONNECT with us in our PRIVATE COMMUNITY

*** The Living Lucky Community is experiencing what it feels like to create a life of inspiration where dreams come true. Check it out HERE *** or at https://www.startlivinglucky.com/sendusyourdreams

!!! SEND US A MESSAGE: Are you ready to unlock your path to a more inspired life where you're Living Lucky®? Email me directly and let's chart your course toward realizing your dreams and creating a life that fills you with daily inspiration.
Email Jason Shelfer HERE

The 4 pillars of Living Lucky
Believe in yourself
Believe in the people around you
Believe in your circumstances and
Believe that God is working through you, for you, and always conspiring in your favor.

*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer:

Good morning.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are Living Lucky® you are too?

Jason Shelfer:

Do you ever wake up on Monday morning and go oh, it's time to make the donuts, or you go to bed Sunday night and you got those Sunday night scaries, yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

Jason and I back in the day this was back 10, 15 years ago we would hear 60 minutes on Sunday night and as soon as I would hear that, it was like I felt this physical weight on my shoulders. I got so much to do this week.

Jason Shelfer:

Right, it was dread. It was the building of dread.

Jana Shelfer:

It was dread, it was, oh my gosh. You wake up on Monday morning you're like oh, I feel so tired, I just want to go back to sleep. I don't want to go to work. There's so many expectations. You start living in the stress. Are you with me? If you agree with me, raise your hand, I see you out there.

Jason Shelfer:

Am I right or am I?

Jana Shelfer:

right? Am I right or am I right?

Jason Shelfer:

And that's, I think that comes from not living in alignment and not living in intention and purpose living in alignment and not living in intention and purpose.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so Jason and I were studying sharks Now don't ask us why we were doing this, but it caught our attention and I thought okay, let's look into this Now. A shark doesn't wake up on Monday morning and go oh my God, I have work to do. I got to get the kids ready. I got to drive through traffic. My boss has so many expectations. I'm behind on projects oh, let alone the email and I haven't checked my social media. I need to get gifts for all my birthday friends and blah, blah, blah.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and we got Shark Week. That comes on every year.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

We live in Florida, so we're hearing about the news sensationalizing sharks, and sharks get up every day or get up. They get up on Mondays. They just get up and go out, scare people, bite people and do stuff. They're just out there being sharks.

Jana Shelfer:

You think they're living in the fear or the dread or the stress.

Jason Shelfer:

No, they're a darn shark, they're not complaining, they're out there just living life, being them.

Jana Shelfer:

They are being their best self, I mean, and their best self is maybe almost being a bully or being Well part of that's having thick skin. Oh, that's true, Like sharks are going to have thick skin.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, because they don't care what other people think. Stop worrying Like figure out what you want to do, who you want to be, who you are like, in complete alignment with yourself, and get your swagger yeah. And be a shark, be a shark.

Jana Shelfer:

Like that's the thing, although I don't want the eyes of a shark Right.

Jason Shelfer:

Sometimes they look like they kind of got dead eye, like dead eye.

Jana Shelfer:

Flat face dead eye.

Jana Shelfer:

It's like their lids close and open the wrong way and sometimes they kind of look like they have lazy eyes, not that I'm trying to put them down.

Jana Shelfer:

See, listen to us. But you know what Sharks don't care? Okay, yeah, and that's what happens. But you know what Sharks don't care? Okay yeah, sharks don't give a damn. And that's what happens. We just demonstrated our own example. That's what happens in society. You start being your best self, you start going for your dreams, you start getting up and making it happen and next thing you know, the people around you are starting to pick it apart.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

And shame on us, because we just did that to a damn shark.

Jason Shelfer:

Shame. Well, the other part of that is shame on the shark if it pays attention to that and lets that get in the way of its dream, but it doesn't. It doesn't Shame on us, though, if we're allowing other people to get in the way of our dream and our. Our complete alignment and our happiness, our joy if we let people around us get in the way of our purpose, our goals in life.

Jana Shelfer:

Of why we were created on this planet. You know, I am about to be a world champion. I don't know if you know this. Listen, I mean, and there is a limiting belief inside me that says, oh gosh, jana, that sounds so narcissistic. And literally I get up every day. We go ski, we've been eating well, we've been training like, we've been doing the things to make the dream come true. And yet there's something inside me that has not put it on social media. I have kind of kept it under the covers, in case, even just telling people, and that in case is caring what other people think, or letting their facial reactions or the way they respond affect me. Yeah, are you with me?

Jason Shelfer:

100%, and this is something that we learn over time, because people will try to get in the way. I mean, people will lay their bodies down to protect your emotions, and it's not always because they don't want you to succeed. They don't know the work that you're putting in behind closed doors oftentimes, yes, and they know that they've tried hard to succeed at something and they've given up before they achieve it and they don't want you to experience that same pain.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, so it's really out of love and protection that they react the way they do.

Jason Shelfer:

It's so often, I believe, out of love and protection. Now there are some people that probably are like, if I can't have it, if I'm not willing to put in the work for it, I don't want someone else to get it.

Jana Shelfer:

I believe that but most people, I believe, just don't want you to get hurt, so they don't want you to go for it. So that kind of brings me to this is a little off topic, but sometimes, jason and I, as we've started this business, we started by collecting dreams, and there's a couple different philosophies when you collect dreams, because some people say, don't publicize your dream. Don't tell anybody, because the way other people respond, or just even subconsciously, it will affect how how determined you are, how hard you go for that dream.

Jason Shelfer:

There's a lot of things in that, because in that philosophy of don't tell anyone, like, keep it a secret, is the philosophy of the world, is not an abundant place. Someone will steal your dream Also, that people will get in the way of you accomplishing. Also, that people will get in the way of you accomplishing Also, that all the micro expressions that you can't help but recognize will deflate your motivation and inspiration towards the dream. So there's a lot of truth in don't tell people.

Jana Shelfer:

But that doesn't happen to sharks, Right? A shark wakes up and says you know what I'm hungry.

Jason Shelfer:

I'm hungry, I'm going to eat.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm going to take care of my needs.

Jason Shelfer:

The weather's cold here, I'm going to travel to somewhere else. Or it's too warm here, I'm going to travel to somewhere else. Whatever, the shark's going to do what it wants to do, yes, and it's going to travel with the people it wants to travel with Right. It's going to go with the whales. It's going to go with what's most conducive to the alignment it wants.

Jana Shelfer:

A shark doesn't wake up and go oh, oh I'm in the ocean. Again the alarm is going off and it is time A shark doesn't use language like. I. Really should go visit Aunt Berda If.

Jason Shelfer:

I was in the Atlantic Ocean, things would be better, but I'm in the Pacific Ocean.

Jana Shelfer:

If only A shark doesn't use language like I should, I could, I would if I have the resources. No, a shark says this is what I want. I'm going to go get it. Yeah, and I feel like there's a lesson there. I feel like there's a lesson, and you're right. I think. Having thick skin and not caring what other people say, or even from afar, sometimes I can feel what people are feeling when I, you know, I always have a problem when people say so what do you do for a living? And I say well, you know what? My husband and I work from home and we water ski and we ballroom dance and we go around and speak. It feels unconvincing, it feels different.

Jason Shelfer:

It's very different. I coach clients, we podcast and we speak. So making money is the coaching, the speaking.

Jana Shelfer:

And so their natural reaction is huh how does that happen?

Jason Shelfer:

Because I go to work from seven o'clock in the morning to seven o'clock at night.

Jana Shelfer:

And the minute that I see that energy or that reaction, it's almost like I can feel their feelings, and it has been a hurdle for me to get that thick skin.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, it's hard to explain that to people who have been brought up in the world of. I go to work, you have to go to college, you have to go to work for 12 hours a day. To make money, to make money, and then you have to save money To eat. All this stuff yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

You have to eat to be healthy.

Jason Shelfer:

There's a chain there, so I guess our overall message today is Figure out exactly what you want in life, get your swagger and go out there and be like a shark. And I want to touch, though, real quickly back to the telling people about your dream, and not Because we talked- about the people that say don't tell people about your dream and not because we talked about the um. The people that say don't tell people about your dream.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

And I want to say that if you don't tell people about your dream, you might miss out on the people who are available and want to come alongside you and help you achieve it.

Jana Shelfer:

That is true. So and, and that's fine, there is a happy medium there, there is.

Jason Shelfer:

I think there is a happy medium and there are stages.

Jason Shelfer:

There are stages and once you have your own confidence, once you're walking like a shark and you're in you, can get swimming like swimming like a shark, you have your swagger, you have your self-confidence and you've cultivated the people around you so that you know OK, I have my support team, I have my my living, lucky community around me. Now I can tell the right people. They can put out tentacles and feelers for, okay, who are the who that helped me get to what I'm dreaming of? Because we don't always know the how when we dream super big. But I can find the who that has the knowledge nuggets that are going to take me in the right direction.

Jana Shelfer:

So what I hear you saying is allow yourself to be awesome. Yeah, because you are.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, we are all amazing individuals.

Jana Shelfer:

I mean, we are creating the impossible out of the possible, out of the impossible already, and sometimes we want to fit in, so we sometimes dim our own, like, yeah, we dim our dreams, we dim our light to fit into society, when actually it's the, the sharks that say you know what, this is what I want. They speak up and they go get it and they don't care. They don't care what everyone else thinks.

Jason Shelfer:

They glow up, they do, they want to glow up, they want to sparkle, they want to matter and they do.

Jana Shelfer:

And the more they do this, the bigger they get and the bigger rewards they get. They become more powerful and more Sought after. I don't know if sought after is the right word.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, it's not great for a shark, but it's good for people.

Jana Shelfer:

I love it.

Jason Shelfer:

Thanks for joining us Keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

Bye-bye.

Jana Shelfer:

If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.

People on this episode

Head Shot

Jana Shelfer

Host
Head Shot

Jason Shelfer

Host