I Was Wrong

"I Was Wrong": Unlock Wisdom, Transform Relationships (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Struggling to say "I was wrong"? Our culture often shames mistakes, but what if admitting them is your doorway to profound wisdom and stronger relationships?

Join Jason and Jana Banana as we courageously unpack this truth: "To admit that you are wrong is to declare that you are wiser now than you were before." Through our vulnerable stories – from Jana's rigid accessibility stance to Jason's dock regret – we expose the psychological roots of resisting mistakes.

Discover how childhood ridicule creates limiting beliefs about being wrong, making us defensive. Yet, paradoxically, vulnerability actually strengthens connections. This episode reveals the incredible freedom in owning your imperfections.

Shift your mindset: value wisdom over "rightness." See mistakes not as failures, but as essential steps on your personal growth journey. When you say "I was wrong," you're powerfully declaring you've grown and evolved.

Ready to transform your relationship with mistakes and make wiser decisions? Tune in for actionable self-help and positive thinking strategies. Have the courage to say "I was wrong" and start Living Lucky® today!

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• The Wisdom of "Wrong": How admitting mistakes fuels growth.
• Overcoming Pride: Breaking free from the need to always be right.
• Vulnerability's Power: Building stronger, more authentic relationships.
• Childhood Wounds: Recognizing how past experiences impact our fear of being wrong.
• Mindset Shift: Valuing continuous learning over static "correctness."
• Personal Growth Catalyst: Seeing mistakes as stepping stones to wisdom.
• Living Lucky® in Humility: Embracing imperfection for a richer life.

Key Nuggets: Admitting wrong = gaining wisdom. Vulnerability builds trust. Release pride. Mistakes are growth. Learn from errors. Connect authentically.

Why is it hard to admit mistakes? How to admit you're wrong gracefully? Benefits of admitting your mistakes. Learning from past mistakes for personal growth. Overcoming the fear of being wrong. Building stronger relationships through vulnerability. Strategies for greater self-awareness. What does "wiser now than before" mean? What is the be

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• 0:00 Creating a Life You Crave

Transcript

Jana Shelfer: 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer: 0:14

Good morning.

Jana Shelfer: 0:15

I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer: 0:19

You are too.

Jana Shelfer: 0:20

Tell us the quote for today, Jason.

Jason Shelfer: 0:21

The quote for today is to admit that you are wrong, is to declare that you are wiser now than you were before.

Jana Shelfer: 0:30

I hate admitting I'm wrong. In fact, isn't that the number one rule of politics?

Jason Shelfer: 0:36

Never admit you're wrong. Never admit you're wrong. Deny, deny, deny. Yes, that's funny, yeah, so I know that there have been times when I have not wanted to admit when I'm wrong, and I also. There's a lot of times when I just want to plant my feet in my rightness.

Jana Shelfer: 0:52

I know we all do this.

Jason Shelfer: 0:54

That's tough.

Jana Shelfer: 0:55

God, we all do this, in fact, right now we're spending the weekend, or a couple days, a day or two, we haven't decided yet.

Jason Shelfer: 1:05

We're jason's going with the flow at jason's in-laws.

Jana Shelfer: 1:09

At jason's in-laws at your in-laws. My parents here in the mountains and I kind of feel like I have been a little stubborn did. This quote hit you it hit me and I'm trying to be vulnerable right now because when they bought this house here in the mountains, it's beautiful, it's absolutely gorgeous, the view is awesome. However, there's steps all around this house. There's steps getting into it. Once you get into the first floor, there's not really a full bathroom right on the, there's not really a bedroom, there's not a bedroom on the first floor and it it kind of hit me like, well, if it's not accessible, I'm not gonna go there.

Jana Shelfer: 1:58

Well, I kind of got into this. Um, I don't know. It kind of was a a bitter yeah and there's a little mentality.

Jason Shelfer: 2:08

This is a long story because the the call was hey, it was between my mom, my parents and my sister and her husband, and a call to us saying would you like to invest in this house with us?

Jana Shelfer: 2:22

and the first question was is it an accessible house?

Jason Shelfer: 2:25

And the answer was no, and then you could kind of hear the breath get sucked in and like, oh crap, we didn't think this through.

Jana Shelfer: 2:32

Yeah, and I mean the answer is no.

Jason Shelfer: 2:35

If it's not accessible, we don't want to invest. Because why would we want to invest in something that we're not going to be able to visit often and also be free in?

Jana Shelfer: 2:44

But now, after being here for a couple of days and seeing how peaceful you have been, I kind of feel like maybe I was living in my pride Well, so now, now that you've given me this quote, I can say, ok, maybe, maybe I was a little bit stiff with my.

Jason Shelfer: 3:08

With the whole picture? Yes, because? So I think the answer was no, we don't want to invest, but we will come visit.

Jana Shelfer: 3:16

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer: 3:17

So it's almost. There's a lot in there.

Jana Shelfer: 3:19

So I was wrong. I'll admit it now because I'm wiser.

Jason Shelfer: 3:24

Well, and we all have those moments I mean I've got several Mine aren't that deep and emotional and I think part of the thing with you is, once you spend a couple hours with you, people forget about the wheelchair.

Jana Shelfer: 3:37

Yeah, that's true Because you do everything. Yeah, you did that on our second date. Jason forgot my wheelchair. We're heading out to the car.

Jason Shelfer: 3:47

She's like oh, somebody's got to go get my chair, okay.

Jana Shelfer: 3:50

well what about you?

Jason Shelfer: 3:51

Is there somewhere in your life where maybe there's so many areas, so many areas.

Jana Shelfer: 3:57

You can now admit I was wrong.

Jason Shelfer: 4:00

The first thing that comes to mind is when we built our house and then we built the dock. Okay, because we live on a lake, we built a dock. I grew up, my parents had a lake house and there was a wooden dock. I remember this nostalgia of pressure washing, the wooden dock I grew up with and the wooden dock, no matter how many years old it was, it would look brand new after we pressure washed it.

Jana Shelfer: 4:22

Yeah, that's a falsehood.

Jason Shelfer: 4:24

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer: 4:24

That's not a fact.

Jason Shelfer: 4:25

Yeah, well, that's the way I remembered it. So when we built our dock, I was like we want to use wood, we want to use this pressure treated like two by fours, and we had the option of using this polywood or the composite poly.

Jana Shelfer: 4:42

Which is what?

Jason Shelfer: 4:43

Material that lasts forever.

Jana Shelfer: 4:45

It's called deck tech.

Jason Shelfer: 4:46

Yeah, deck tech, and so I had the option. It cost a little more, which should have said.

Jana Shelfer: 4:53

But it lasts forever.

Jason Shelfer: 4:54

And it lasts forever. So we're now 10 years into our new deck or dock and it's time to replace the dock. It's time to re-deck the dock, or replace a lot of it and in hindsight I'm going, I really should have just used the tech deck. It would have looked beautiful, because we've already pressure washed it a couple times and it didn't look brand new. We've stained it Stained it, sealed it, All these things over and over again.

Jason Shelfer: 5:23

Done everything we can done everything we can in the could have just had that tech deck to begin with and been washing the bird crap off instead of trying to, um, really scrub it out and do everything we can to get it out.

Jana Shelfer: 5:34

So there's a lot that I know now okay, so let's, let's hear the words, because it's really hard to say I was wrong oh my gosh, I was wrong, oh my Okay. So how does it feel just saying that?

Jason Shelfer: 5:48

It feels freedom, I mean it's. Does it Because for?

Jana Shelfer: 5:52

me, there was still a little bit of.

Jason Shelfer: 5:54

Pain.

Jana Shelfer: 5:55

Yeah, Like I don't really want to admit that.

Jason Shelfer: 5:57

Yeah, I said there's a lot. There's several times Like I know that I was wrong. There's been people that I was. I thought I knew who they were. I was wrong.

Jana Shelfer: 6:08

Oh.

Jason Shelfer: 6:08

So there's people that I didn't give enough credit to. I was wrong. Yeah, you know, it happens often and it's allowing ourselves the room to grow. And then also, when we put up that barrier that says I'm right, that's a barrier that says it's an absolute, and I know.

Jana Shelfer: 6:31

So it's bringing almost a humbleness to our humanity and leaving room for curiosity, right.

Jason Shelfer: 6:41

Giving ourselves grace to be imperfect when you think you know those absolute things that you know takes away any curiosity to grow.

Jana Shelfer: 6:49

Yeah, but I've always heard the saying when you know, you know, you know and say it confidently and step into that.

Jason Shelfer: 6:57

Do you know what I'm saying?

Jana Shelfer: 6:58

There's another side of that coin there.

Jason Shelfer: 6:59

Well, there's also a shadow on the other side of that tower.

Jana Shelfer: 7:03

Yeah right.

Jason Shelfer: 7:04

Yeah, so it's about it's a balance, it is a balance, it is a balance.

Jana Shelfer: 7:08

Everything's a balance, everything in moderation.

Jason Shelfer: 7:11

So I know that there's always room for curiosity and growth. That's what I know.

Jana Shelfer: 7:17

And I know that you're a little bit wiser today because you admitted that you were wrong.

Jason Shelfer: 7:21

Yes, and I'll take it.

Jana Shelfer: 7:23

Something we did 10 years ago.

Jason Shelfer: 7:26

And I'll. There were. There are plenty of things I'll be wrong about today, and maybe I won't. I'm going to remind you of that, I know.

Jana Shelfer: 7:33

I'm going to write it down and I'm going to remind you of that.

Jason Shelfer: 7:36

Do you?

Jana Shelfer: 7:37

remember, at 8.03 am on June 23rd.

Jason Shelfer: 7:42

Yeah, so if you ever want to realize how wrong you are, go on a road trip and don't use your GPS.

Jana Shelfer: 7:49

Oh, I don't even know. Try to read a map. Yeah, I don't even know how we did it back in the day.

Jason Shelfer: 7:55

Yeah, now we're sounding wrong Wrong turn. It's not a wrong turn. I wanted to take the scenic route.

Jana Shelfer: 8:00

This is the way I wanted to go.

Jason Shelfer: 8:02

That's right.

Jana Shelfer: 8:03

How do you know which way I wanted to? Go, that's right this is it I'm looking for a specific gas station okay, let me just let's just go a little bit deeper. Why is it so hard to admit that we're wrong?

Jason Shelfer: 8:16

I think it's a pride thing and also it's a. One of those things is, when we are, when we're growing up, there's a it's a lot of times it's frowned upon being wrong, right, it's like. But why? There's because you get praised for being right. Okay, you get praised for being right. You get laughed at in class for being wrong. You don't get laughed. I mean, you don't get credit for trying, and that's one of the things in life is, is you?

Jason Shelfer: 8:44

there's this in we need to change that right the culture should be try, like start, like get out there and like put yourself out there like it's not not to your detriment, but to your, to to build courage, to build stamina and to also to build your learning curve, like it's a. That's how we, that's how we experiment with things. You know, like, how many times was Thomas Edison wrong? You know so many times. But what he said was I learned that that's just not the right way to do it, he started learning how to learn.

Jason Shelfer: 9:22

Yeah, and I can remember back in, like middle school or elementary school, if I gave a wrong answer and the teacher said, no, that's not it. I feel like I remember there was around me laughing. Failure or rejection yeah, and when people are laughing at you because you thought you, like you were trying to do something right.

Jana Shelfer: 9:44

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer: 9:45

That hurts, like there's a.

Jana Shelfer: 9:47

there's like a, there's a wound there is a wound. And do you think it stems for everybody back?

Jason Shelfer: 9:54

that far, probably. Yeah, like the first time you like, if you're. If you see someone riding a bicycle and then you try to ride the bicycle but you fall over and everyone laughs at you, you're like, ok, well, I'm just not going to try that. I'm not going to try it in front of people, you know. And that's where we start doing things, so that we are, we fit in and we're not laughed at like they're going to laugh at me or they're going to make fun of me, or I'm not going to fit into the crowd or I'm not going to be accepted, I'm not going to be loved. It goes back to those very basic primal fears, or limiting beliefs.

Jana Shelfer: 10:30

I just, I mean, I think about it from a perspective of people I want to spend time with and be around. If they can admit they're wrong, they're a lot easier to express my opinions to. Do you know what I'm saying? I feel like they're easier to connect with because if they admit they're wrong, then I can admit that I'm wrong. That's big. Then I'm not afraid to have opinions because I'm like okay, well, I'll put it out there. Yeah, let's talk about this.

Jason Shelfer: 11:02

Let's get curious about this. Educate me, because we can also. We can both be wrong, and we can also both be right from what we currently understand and know what we currently understand and know. Yes, like that's when we, when you and I argue, I understand. We're both right from our current level of understanding and our current perspective from where we've come from.

Jana Shelfer: 11:24

And we're usually arguing the same thing, just from different sides of the, from different corners of the environment.

Jason Shelfer: 11:28

Yeah, it's crazy. So if you're, if you allow everyone the right to be wrong, then you also allow everyone the right to be right.

Jana Shelfer: 11:37

Okay, so let's say the quote one more time.

Jason Shelfer: 11:39

The quote is to admit you're wrong is to declare that you are wiser now than you were before, and that's just something to marinate in.

Jana Shelfer: 11:49

Yeah, because we value wisdom over hating being wrong.

Jason Shelfer: 11:56

Yes. So get yourself over the hump of your rightness from before, understanding that you were wrong before, so that you can be right again.

Jana Shelfer: 12:08

I'm so confused.

Jason Shelfer: 12:10

And now you're wiser.

Jana Shelfer: 12:11

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