Make Adulting Fun Again

Make Adulting Fun Again: The Surprising Secret to Success & Abundance (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Has "fun" become an obligation you've put on the back burner, something you'll "earn" someday? Join Jason and Jana Banana for a revealing conversation that blows up the myth that success requires constant seriousness. Discover why prioritizing joy isn't a distraction – it's the pathway to the life you truly crave.

Inspired by a near-miss with a vacation club sales pitch, we reveal the profound truth: fun isn't a reward, it's a necessityfor your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. Learn how embracing playfulness sharpens your problem-solving, ignites creativity, and opens doors to unexpected opportunities. We candidly share our own struggles with getting "rusty" at fun and why it’s so easy to slip into preachy, professorial modes when life gets tough.

This episode is your wake-up call to reclaim fun as your birthright! We'll show you how "following fun" acts as a powerful compass guiding you towards your destiny, attracting abundance and genuine connections. Our "Living Lucky®" philosophy, which integrates work with passions like skiing, dance, and travel, isn't just a dream – it's an art form you can cultivate. Stop sacrificing joy for perceived success. Your success literally depends on making adulting fun again!

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• The Myth of "Earning Fun": Why play is a necessity, not a reward.
• Fun as a Success Catalyst: How joy boosts problem-solving and creativity.
• The "Awe State": Opening your awareness to abundance and gratitude.
• Why We Get "Rusty" at Play: Recognizing and overcoming the seriousness trap.
• "Following Fun" as Your Compass: Letting joy guide your destiny.
• The Art of Living Lucky®: Integrating work, passion, and adventure.
• Choose Your Hard: The growth of joy vs. the pain of regret.

Key Nuggets: Fun isn't earned, it's essential. Prioritize joy for success. Fun boosts creativity. Don't get rusty at play. Follow fun to your destiny. Living Lucky is an art.

Is fun necessary for success? How to find more joy in daily life? Benefits of play for adults. How to cultivate a playful mindset? Why do we stop having fun as we age? Living a life of passion and purpose. How can I have more fun as an adult? What are the benefits of play for mental health? How does fun le

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*Previously Recorded

Chapters

• 0:00 Creating a Life You Crave
• 1:50 Vacation: Necessity Not Reward
• 3:36 Fun Opens Doors to Opportunities
• 5:42 Reconnecting With Your Fun Side
• 8:53 Living Lucky Through Daily Joy
• 11:51 Fun as Your Compass to Destiny

Transcript

Creating a Life You Crave

Jana Shelfer 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning I'm.

Jana Shelfer 0:15

Jana, I'm Jason and we're pulling this one out of our tuchus Love it. Are you having fun? Are you having fun in your life, in your business, in your marriage with your kids, in parenthood? Are you having fun, or has life become an obligation? Jason and I got suckered in. Yesterday we got suckered in. This is how weak we are at times. I'm just going to be vulnerable. We got this little flyer in the mail and it said you've won a free cruise. Free cruise.

Jana Shelfer 0:55

Lottery.

Jana Shelfer 0:56

And I'm like, oh, this is one of those scams. That's the first thing that went through my head. And then, right after I said that, I read the sentence. This is not a scam.

Jason Shelfer 1:09

This is not a timeshare.

Jana Shelfer 1:10

And this is not a timeshare. All you need to do is give your opinion.

Jason Shelfer 1:16

And it's yep.

Jana Shelfer 1:18

And we're going to reward you with a seven-night cruise.

Jason Shelfer 1:22

We've got opinions.

Jana Shelfer 1:24

And I thought, huh, I've got opinions. And I thought, huh, I've got opinions, and I haven't been on a cruise in a while. I really don't want to live in skepticism for my whole life, I'm just going to. I think we should just go see what this is.

Jason Shelfer 1:37

It's 90 minutes long. There's nothing on the calendar.

Jana Shelfer 1:40

Now this guy's presentation was all about taking vacations and of course he wanted us to join his club, his vacation club.

Jason Shelfer 1:50

And we do love to vacation.

Jana Shelfer 1:52

We love to vacation. And I'm going to be real, he almost got us. He almost got us, Even though in the car on the way there we made a pact we're not buying anything.

Jason Shelfer 2:03

You too could spend two weeks on the Amalfi.

Jana Shelfer 2:05

Coast. We're only going there to listen to our 90 minutes. I'm setting the clock and then I'm leaving with my free cruise. However, what I came away with is he said so many times that vacation is not something that we reward ourselves with. It's not an add-on in life, it's a necessity. Did you get that?

Jason Shelfer 2:39

from him. I did. It was something that was said about every eight to 10 minutes.

Jana Shelfer 2:44

Because it really will balance your mental well-being, your emotional well-being, your physical well-being. We need to rest, we need to relax, we need to see new environment, we need the anticipation of oh, we've got something special coming up. We need that alone time.

Jason Shelfer 3:10

The exploration, yes, the new experiences. We need the excitement and the adventure.

Jana Shelfer 3:15

And you know, this morning, jason was reading some quotes from none other than Miss Martha Beck, who is the world's life coach. And what did she say?

Jason Shelfer 3:26

She said, having fun is not a diversion from a successful life, it's the pathway to it.

Fun Opens Doors to Opportunities

Jana Shelfer 3:31

And I believe vacation is fun. Vacation is fun, right? We would all put that in the fun category. 100%. For the most part, most vacations are fun.

Jason Shelfer 3:40

Life is really about experiences, like it's having fun, it's the doing and just feeling, like what are the things that I can do to have the most joyful and memorable experience of this time on earth?

Jana Shelfer 3:59

And I really think that when we put ourselves in fun, in a fun state, it opens our awareness to opportunities, it puts us in a better mood, which then we attract better people into our lives. We attract better opportunities.

Jason Shelfer 4:20

Puts us in a creative state.

Jana Shelfer 4:21

We are just open. We are open to the universe and we are open to say, hey, how can I give, how can I contribute?

Jason Shelfer 4:31

Thank you more, please, yes it really is.

Jason Shelfer 4:34

Well, it's that awe state. One of the things is it brings into this feeling of wow, look at the abundance that is available. And yes, it's available for me because it's right here, like I'm in it. And a lot of times we get so used to seeing what is around us every single day. It's that law of habituation that things start fading into the background and start fading into normalcy, like I don't, I'm not appreciative of it anymore. So if we start being grateful for all the things and start being hyper aware of what's in our immediate surroundings, in our immediate environment, and focus on fun on a daily basis, we can pick these things and bring life back into them on a regular basis.

Jana Shelfer 5:23

I just know that when I'm having fun, I problem solve better.

Jason Shelfer 5:27

Yes.

Jana Shelfer 5:28

I am a better partner. I show up as my better self.

Jason Shelfer 5:33

Our energy levels are higher.

Reconnecting With Your Fun Side

Jana Shelfer 5:35

Yes, my motivation, my inspiration, everything just tends to increase a little bit. Everything just tends to increase a little bit, and so I feel like it is the one ingredient that, for some reason, we tend to push it to the back burner. Even like teachers. They're like okay, it's time to put the fun aside. Let's get the books out put the nose in the books. Right.

Jana Shelfer 6:01

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer 6:02

And it's one of those things that the older we get or the more we get focused on quote, unquote, success or the job at hand, the more we try to push fun to the end of the line and we could just say let's go fun hand in hand towards this.

Jana Shelfer 6:21

Yeah, I mean, if our bank accounts are getting a little low, we're like, oh, it's time to nose grind. No, more fun yeah we got to stop all the fun because we got to tighten the budget here.

Jason Shelfer 6:34

Let's put the handcuffs on and get in the mines. Cut out all the fun. Yeah, get into the mines and start digging for gold.

Jana Shelfer 6:41

And then it becomes we start digging ourselves in this hole, yeah, and then life gets miserable yes and then you.

Jason Shelfer 6:53

Then you get up one morning you're like where am I, who am I and what happened to the life that I I enjoyed yes, and and you forget how to that I enjoyed yes, and it just feels. And you forget how to have fun Like that's one of. That's a big thing, is you just? You all of a sudden wake up one morning and you're like, what is fun?

Jana Shelfer 7:13

I have noticed that with us. So I've noticed that some with our charisma a little.

Jason Shelfer 7:20

Well, I feel like in the last couple of years we've gotten a lot of that back.

Jana Shelfer 7:24

I know, but just having the nieces here this past week, we're a little rusty with making them laugh.

Jason Shelfer 7:35

I think we're rusty with them, with other people sometimes, but I have a lot of fun with you.

Jana Shelfer 7:49

Well, thanks, but I'm an easy, an easy crowd. Now you are an easy crowd, I guess. What I'm trying to say is I feel like maybe we've even gotten a little rusty in laughing and, in you know, carrying the conversation in a, in a way that stays fun that stays fun. We get a little heavy.

Jason Shelfer 8:02

Especially Mr Professorial over here.

Jana Shelfer 8:05

Yes, that's exactly what I'm talking about, yeah.

Jason Shelfer 8:09

Mr Preachy Preachy. Yes, I'm sorry, I'm working on it Preachy, teachy, I'm trying. I'm trying Because I do like to have fun and I think what happens oftentimes.

Jana Shelfer 8:20

But then when you tried to go back to your fun self, it came across a little forced.

Jason Shelfer 8:26

Yeah, like, let me tell you how it is, like, let me tell you what not to do when really it's about hey, just try and experiment and see what works for you.

Jana Shelfer 8:40

Yeah, yeah, which that's not working right now, I know. It's all good, I'll still give you a courtesy laugh, I know.

Living Lucky Through Daily Joy

Jason Shelfer 8:49

I, I and I'm, I am working on it. It's. You're not the first person that said it. I've had group calls of coaching that have, um, have some of the feedback. I mean, out of hundreds of people, I have had a couple of people that have said hey, it's come like. Sometimes you come across as kind of professorial and like we like the fun side of you, we like the jokey side, like it feels more real and authentic when you are having fun and when you are laughing and when you are like in this experience with us, so that.

Jana Shelfer 9:26

so let's ask ourselves how can we get ourselves in that fun state?

Jason Shelfer 9:32

Yeah, and I think what happens is is just like kind of when you feel like like when you mentioned earlier, when the bank account gets low and it feels like it gets super serious, like things are dire.

Jana Shelfer 9:44

So I think it's becoming self-deprecating and it's getting out of your body. It's literally taking your awareness outside of your body and say oh there I go again.

Jason Shelfer 9:54

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer 9:55

Becoming Mr Professor Jason. Yeah, trying to put up the, I go again. Yeah, becoming Mr Professor Jason.

Jason Shelfer 9:57

Yeah, trying to put up the wall of protection.

Jana Shelfer 10:01

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer 10:02

Trying not to get back to something, but like it's because that's what it is. In a sense, it's kind of like the bank account sense of be careful of showing this side, be careful of showing this side it's. It's a weird thing because I remember back when I wasn't having fun and when I like I and I'm trying to protect them from it. So it's like me building up this wall for them and I don't need to do that. It's really it's a weird. It's it's freaking weird.

Jana Shelfer 10:34

Okay, so you're saying that you're trying to protect them from not having fun Right by overly?

Jason Shelfer 10:43

having fun. It's that weird mirror thing. Yeah, and it's jacked up.

Jana Shelfer 10:49

It's like you're playing chess three steps ahead In my life.

Jason Shelfer 10:53

I live it on the day-to-day basis of showing people like we live this incredible life. Yeah, we do Like having fun.

Jana Shelfer 11:03

We usually have fun. We ski, we travel. In fact, most people say wait, you're working today. What does that mean? Oh, that means we're probably going to go out and ski today.

Jason Shelfer 11:11

We're probably going to go out and ski. We're probably going to have a ballroom dance lesson.

Jason Shelfer 11:24

And out and ski. We're playing ballroom dance lesson. How is that work? And I'm like well, we've incorporated. Our life is fun, we have a lot of fun, we'll have a couple of clients, we'll do a podcast, we might shoot some video. Just depends on what we feel. We'll play with the dog, we'll walk around the pond, go for a boat ride, go visit with some people, know it's. It's a fun life and if we feel like traveling, we'll just go travel and people are still little.

Jana Shelfer 11:44

Their jaws go down. They're like I don't know how that I want to do some of that.

Fun as Your Compass to Destiny

Jason Shelfer 11:47

Well, you know it's it's a process. It's it's something that it takes time to do, but it's been a process you've got to. It's a process that takes a lot of time to do. It has been a process You've got to. It's a process that takes a lot of like time. It's a, it's a way of being in life.

Jana Shelfer 12:02

It's an art.

Jason Shelfer 12:03

Yeah, and it's, and it comes with kind of stepping into it and I think it's that energy of living it's facing the uncertainty and having faith, and knowing that you're living luck, I, I, I come back like nope. A lot of people don't understand this Living Lucky® thing, but it is an energy that you step into and it's incredible the way things just come towards us when we're living like this and having fun. I mean, I got three calls yesterday about us coming to events and just being in their space because they want our energy.

Jana Shelfer 12:40

We're going to one tomorrow.

Jason Shelfer 12:41

I know, and those are the things that happen because of how we live life and how we show up, because of just who we are. So what?

Jana Shelfer 12:51

you're saying is many people avoid fun and it's actually the opposite. If you follow the fun, it's almost a bumper. It's like the bumper.

Jason Shelfer 13:04

It's the universe, then wants to be your friend instead of fight against you.

Jana Shelfer 13:08

It's the compass to your destiny.

Jason Shelfer 13:11

Yes, thank you.

Jana Shelfer 13:13

Does that wrap?

Jason Shelfer 13:14

it up.

Jana Shelfer 13:15

Yes, fun is the compass to your destiny, amen, oh my gosh, thanks for joining us, keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer 13:23

Bye-bye, have some fun today. Bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.