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Breaking Free: Overcoming Hidden Resistance

• Jana and Jason Shelfer

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Stop Self-Sabotaging: Uncover & Crush Your Hidden Resistance

Are you tired of feeling like you're running in place? Do you suspect there's something holding you back, but you can't quite put your finger on it? In this episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason & Jana Banana, we're shining a light on the sneaky culprit: hidden resistance.

We're diving deep into the psychological barriers that keep you stuck, revealing how your fears and limiting beliefs sabotage your success and happiness.

Here's what you'll discover:

  • The "How Is That Serving You?" Question: We explore how your seemingly logical excuses are actually keeping you safe and comfortable in your old patterns.
  • The "Vice" That Holds You Back: Learn how to identify the one thing that, if you break through it, will catapult you to your next level.
  • You're Not Stuck, You're Committed to Your Old Self: We reveal how clinging to outdated identities and beliefs prevents you from stepping into your full potential.
  • The "What If" Mindset Shift: Discover how to flip your fear-based "what ifs" into powerful questions that unlock incredible possibilities.
  • Uncovering Your Limiting Beliefs (BS): Learn how to examine your subconscious stories and rewrite the narratives that are holding you back.
  • The Power of Letting Go: We share why releasing what's not meant for you is essential for creating space for new growth and opportunities.
  • The Challenge: Identify & Release One Thing: We challenge you to pinpoint a belief, habit, or fear that you're ready to let go of, starting today.

This episode is your guide to breaking free from self-sabotage and creating a life of purpose and abundance. We'll help you uncover and crush your hidden resistance.

Key Nuggets:

  • How to recognize and challenge your hidden beliefs.
  • The importance of shifting from fear-based to possibility-based thinking.
  • How to identify and release what's no longer serving you.
  • The power of self-awareness in personal transformation.

Ready to stop self-sabotaging and unlock your true potential? Tune in to the Living Lucky® Podcast

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer:

Good morning.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are living, lucky you are too. Today we're talking about eliminating hidden resistance.

Jason Shelfer:

Bom, bom, bomum bum, bum, bum, bum, bum. I can't see it.

Jana Shelfer:

You know, for some reason, when you ask people, well, what's stopping you? They'll actually say it. And then you think well, how is that serving you?

Jason Shelfer:

That's the question.

Jana Shelfer:

How is that serving you? How is that?

Jason Shelfer:

serving you. How is that serving you?

Jana Shelfer:

Because sometimes what we think is stopping us is really serving something deep in our psyche it's keeping me safe.

Jason Shelfer:

It's keeping me comfortable. I've gotten used to not risking as much.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, yes, give us an example, jason.

Jason Shelfer:

That's it, I mean well, I think about when I got into coaching and I had one foot in coaching, kind of half a leg in coaching, and the rest of my body was in my full time job, right, and the question, the hidden question, was what's stopping you? And all the things that were stopping me the paycheck, the consistent paycheck, the commissions. I was great at my job, the benefits enjoyed, the benefits. I came up with this litany of reasons that I couldn't go all in on coaching.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

And then one day you said it's okay, let go, let go of good and let's go for great. And I, I could. I felt the risk, but I also felt the release when I let go. I was able to go so fully and wholly into coaching that it changed everything. Like I was, I was able to, I was free, yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

Like all those things that were holding me back were tying me down.

Jana Shelfer:

My brain is having one of those. Let's all do it together, because what is holding you back often is Tying you down, tying you down, and it's also the vice. I often use the term the vice. It's the vice that, if you can face that, it's the vice, not the device. Oh yeah, what did you think? I said?

Jason Shelfer:

No, I just there. There's like I like to play.

Jana Shelfer:

I like plays on words but it's the one thing that if you can face it, if you can break through it, then that is what is going to catapult you to that next stratosphere. Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

I wrote down here that most people aren't stuck, they're just committed to their old self, and that was my story. That was really the whole thing.

Jana Shelfer:

We don't want to let go.

Jason Shelfer:

And I think about that in a lot of areas it's like okay, well, where am I committed to who I am today or who I was 10 years ago?

Jana Shelfer:

No, it's like when I stopped drinking for a while. I'm not completely not drinking now.

Jason Shelfer:

I like to have an occasional drink. Well, you stopped just to lean into health, not for now.

Jana Shelfer:

When I stopped drinking, there was this shift in me that it felt like I could no longer even go to a party because I was used to being the life of the party and I didn't know how to show up in any other capacity the life- of the party with an alcoholic beverage in your hand. Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

That's the whole identity is allowing the alcohol to be the part of you that creates the life of the party, when really you can just be the life of you. That creates the life of the party, when really you can just be the life of the party still, if you want.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes.

Jason Shelfer:

With no alcohol.

Jana Shelfer:

It doesn't quite seem as much I'm just going to be real.

Jason Shelfer:

Let's be real here.

Jana Shelfer:

But there is a part that you have to let go of is what I'm trying to get to.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

When you're stepping into that new change, trying to get to, yeah, when you're stepping into that new change, you, there's usually something that you need to let go to make room for the new you to come in. But there's that, that transition, where you're like I don't want to let go.

Jana Shelfer:

I don't want to let go, because what if, what if, what, what if?

Jason Shelfer:

yeah, it's exactly we look at the what if and the negative, but we don't examine the what if. And what if things are just absolutely incredible and amazing? Yes, yeah, there's this thing about insights. Like, when we have insights, it's those things that say, hey, this could be a game changer for me. And there's all these old stories from the Bible, from a lot of different philosophical people, that says we know what to do, but we don't often do what we know.

Jana Shelfer:

Why is that? Is there like an inner saboteur inside our I?

Jason Shelfer:

think it's those hidden things that are holding us back, those hidden beliefs.

Jana Shelfer:

those hidden, they're the beliefs that are deep in our subconscious mind.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and sometimes it's that time that we did risk it, that time we did try hard and it didn't have and it didn't quite turn out the way we thought it should. Right. And then we say I'm not willing. The person I am today is not willing to do that again. But then we hold on to that. So we say I'm that person still that's not willing to put that risk.

Jana Shelfer:

We don't give ourselves all the credit for the experience. And then we also start creating.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh well, nothing works out for that person and life's not fair to that person and that person's not good enough and that person.

Jason Shelfer:

We start building, we start looking for evidence around that and we drag this old version of ourselves forward and we just get comfortable in it. It's crazy. It's crazy when you really start examining why we do the things we do, why we don't do some of the things that we want to do and we could do to really propel ourselves exponentially towards our future self.

Jana Shelfer:

And when you start going down that rabbit hole, it almost there's a a while where you even create more. Oh, yeah. Uncertainty and more of a rabbit hole. I remember for me.

Jason Shelfer:

I was like I was like, how did? How was I even getting like to me? I was like how was I getting by, you know Like, and I was so tired, like I was. I was literally. I remember the feeling of being in a state of exhaustion and also the state of feeling like I'm doing my best, I have nothing left to give. And it was just because I was kind of I was traveling in this, in this path, that I thought was the only way, and it was kind of all the things that we've talked about so far, like you can go through all the podcasts, not just the series that we're doing. But I was. I was doing all the things I knew and I didn't. I was so head down, focused and determined that I didn't examine well, what if there's other possibilities? What if there's other ways? What if I could think differently? And it made it easier, like, what if things could be just easy? What if life could be fun and exciting and funny?

Jana Shelfer:

Like it was when we were kids.

Jason Shelfer:

Right, what if, what if that? Instead of what if? All the crap, yes, you know, and just start exploring the fun questions.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh my gosh.

Jason Shelfer:

And I think that's where we start unloading or uncovering some of these, Like what are some of the BS that we've been telling ourselves and by BS I mean belief system?

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, so I have a.

Jason Shelfer:

That was funny, it was funny.

Jana Shelfer:

I have an admission I have often gotten stuck in disappointment, like my dreams are disappointing me, I'm disappointing myself, people around me are disappointing me, god is disappointing me, and when I really, really analyze that, what we're talking about today is how is that serving me? Well, I'll tell you exactly how that serves me. When I live in, that story of everything is such a disappointment. It keeps me safe because I don't have to face rejection. I don't have to face not being good enough. I don't have to face you also don't get the experience of.

Jason Shelfer:

so the flip side of that is you don't get the experience of the accolades, you don't get the experience of being the hero that showed somebody a lay. I remember, when it was God it must've been 15 years ago that you said I don't want to recommend someone because if they don't do the job, the person I'm recommending them to, if they don't do a good job for them, it's a reflection on you, so.

Jason Shelfer:

but if they did an excellent job, like if they were the cat's meow for that person, you also wouldn't get the credit, but you had been burned twice.

Jana Shelfer:

I've been burned way more than that.

Jason Shelfer:

In that timeframe, like there were some even as of recent, but we called it to mind and was like well, what? And so we landed in that. What if that happens again? Instead of what if I express myself to this, the person I'm referring say hey, I'm, I'm referring you to a close friend of mine, right, and I'm putting my weight behind you as well. So let's, let's show up Like, let's, let's do your thing like you do for me.

Jason Shelfer:

So, so I think the big thing is is examining those hidden fears and and and don't be. You don't have to be critical, just be curious, right?

Jana Shelfer:

One of Jason's coaches a JIT. He once said life is really about letting go of what's not meant for you. Didn't he say something?

Jason Shelfer:

to that effect. It definitely was in that effect, and it's fine to paraphrase.

Jana Shelfer:

And I think that's kind of what we're talking about here, is being able to let go and having the faith, the belief, the confidence that something new will come into your life and take up that space. I mean, think about your house. You clean something out, oh yeah. How soon does it fill back up? Yes, right.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, especially if you identify as a person that enjoys their space and likes to keep it full of abundant things.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, yes. So it's the same with making a transformation. If we can let go of some of these things that aren't serving us, we will make room for the bigger, the better, the newer.

Jason Shelfer:

The beauty, the new growth.

Jana Shelfer:

The new growth, the best version of you.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah. So the challenge for today is just to identify one belief, habit or fear that you're ready to let go of.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh, I like that and for you, I'm going to put you on the spot. Do you have one?

Jason Shelfer:

I think mine. So I've been leaning into speaking on stages again and I feel like I haven't, because I've I've been holding on to fears of rabbit holing or chasing rabbits down their squirrels. You know I squirrel off a lot, so I think I am going to start putting myself out there more, and maybe not for long speeches, but for 10, 15, 20 minutes. Yes, just to get me to build that evidence path of hey, you love speaking, you love helping people, you love being available for people. So take the coaching, take the speaking, get on stages and stop holding yourself back in that area.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh, I like it. I like it All, right, thank you for joining us.

Jana Shelfer:

I hope this helps you as much as it helps me.

Jason Shelfer:

We'll see you at the next episode.

Jana Shelfer:

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