Shifting Your Identity

Ditch Your Old Self: Step Into Your Powerful New Identity (Living Lucky® Podcast)

Feeling stuck? Like you're living someone else's life? In this episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason & Jana Banana, we're ripping off the masks and diving deep into the transformative power of identity shifts.

We're not just talking about surface-level changes. We're talking about rewiring your core beliefs and stepping into the person you were always meant to be.

Here's what you'll discover:

• You Attract Who You Are, Not What You Want: We break down the powerful concept that your self-perception shapes your reality.
• The "I Am" Power: Learn how the language you use creates your identity and how to shift from limiting statements to empowering declarations.
• Complacency is the Enemy: We reveal how staying stagnant can hold you back and why constant growth is essential for a fulfilling life.
• Vision Boards & Supportive Networks: Discover practical strategies to cultivate your new identity and keep your focus on your desired future.
• The Latency Period & Self-Compassion: Understand the "waiting time" that comes with change and why treating yourself with kindness is crucial.
• Embody Your Future Self: Learn how to step into the energy and mindset of the person you want to become, today.
• The "As If" Principle: Discover how showing up "as if" you've already achieved your goals can accelerate your transformation.

This episode is your roadmap to breaking free from old patterns and building a life that aligns with your true potential. We share personal stories, practical tips, and profound insights to help you redefine who you are and create lasting change.

Key Nuggets:

• How to identify and challenge limiting beliefs.
• The importance of aligning your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
• How to cultivate a supportive environment for growth.
• The power of self-compassion during periods of transition.

Ready to ditch your old self and step into your powerful new identity? Tune in to the Living Lucky® Podcast and unlock the life you truly deserve!

Keywords: identity shift, personal transformation, self-perception, limiting beliefs, mindset, personal growth, self-help, positive thinking, manifestation,

Transcript

Are You Ready to Create a Life You Crave?

Jana Shelfer 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning. I'm Janna, I'm Jason and we are Living Lucky®. You are too.

Jana Shelfer 0:20

We've been talking about how you create a life where you are Living Lucky®. How do you do that? And here's the recipe. Last podcast, we talked about deciding yeah making that choice. And today we're talking about the identity shift. That's a big one Now. That sounds kind of like a broad term, the identity shift. What in the heck are you guys talking about? Some people?

Jason Shelfer 0:44

think it's a broad term. Some people think it's woo-woo, Like I just want to be me. Well, my me wants to grow, wants to be a different version of myself five years from now.

Jana Shelfer 0:56

Here's the thing we're constantly creating. Who that me is by the words we say, the phrases. We say we come home and we say I am so-.

Jason Shelfer 1:07

I'm so tired, I'm so exhausted, I am so Pissed off.

Jana Shelfer 1:13

And so guess what you are.

Jason Shelfer 1:15

Those things.

Jana Shelfer 1:16

And when you say those things and you feel those things, guess what kind of experiences you attract? It's almost like the universe saying you must love this.

Jason Shelfer 1:28

You must love that you are choosing these identities.

Jana Shelfer 1:31

Michael Beckwith said it so perfectly we don't attract what we want. We attract who we are.

Jana Shelfer 1:42

Yes.

Jana Shelfer 1:43

So bad who we are. So if you want laughter and love and kindness, support, and I mean all those creativity, success, all those upper level frequencies, then that's who you have to become.

Jason Shelfer 1:59

Yeah, and I think one of the starting points is not. So we're going to identify some of the things that we might be experiencing. I'm experiencing tiredness or sleepiness, I'm experiencing sadness, I'm experiencing disappointment. I am not disappointed.

Jana Shelfer 2:19

Okay, so that's a very, very subtle shift, because many times people get stuck in the doom loop, and the reason is is because they are being real, they're being authentic with what is happening in the moment.

Jason Shelfer 2:36

They're just choosing. I am statements over. This is an experience.

Jana Shelfer 2:41

This is what is happening, or this is what I yeah this isn't who I am.

Jason Shelfer 2:44

This is what is happening. Or this is what I? Yeah, this isn't who I am. This is what's happening.

Jana Shelfer 2:47

Yes, yes.

Jason Shelfer 2:48

But we come home and we use words, and words create the story that we tell about who we believe we are. Yes, they tell the story of who we are that got us to here, and they're also informing the words that we use for the story that we're writing about our future self.

Jana Shelfer 3:04

Yeah, so for you, how do you think you made that identity shift? What was the catalyst and what was the aha moment?

Jason Shelfer 3:15

for you. I remember the aha moment. So, first of all, when we first met, we were just crushing life. Like we were extraordinary people and I remember a time where I had kind of checked all the boxes in my life, all the things that I wanted House on the water, the love of my life, all these things that told me I was a success. And then I just rested, like I just sat back.

Jana Shelfer 3:44

You became complacent.

Jason Shelfer 3:45

Yes, I love that word.

Jana Shelfer 3:48

I don't love that word.

Jason Shelfer 3:48

Well, I love the acknowledgement of the word, because that's what happened is I got very complacent. I wanted to go out in the backyard and just kind of do a toast of beer, toast a bourbon to the lake, like I've arrived, I'm here, I'm the king in the castle. And I did that for a couple of weeks where I would just kind of go out and I was so complacent I didn't have any more dreams, I didn't have this dream.

Jana Shelfer 4:13

You're sounding a little pretentious. I'm just going to be. I'm just going to call you out.

Jason Shelfer 4:18

I had worked so hard for all these things and I had them, and it was things that these don't make me who I am. So when we went through this downtime of my complacency and I will call it my depression you said who are we? Why did we get in this relationship? And we were two extraordinary people. We got in this relationship for an extraordinary experience of life. And then you said are we doing that day to day?

Jana Shelfer 4:48

Right and it opened my eyes.

Jason Shelfer 4:51

Yes, Because an extraordinary person is wants to have that extraordinary life and they want. There's always that there's always room to grow more and draw for growth and it doesn't even have to be more sometimes it can be sometimes it can be more simplicity sometimes it can be look at that do. You know what I'm?

Jana Shelfer 5:11

saying like it doesn't always have to be more, but it's growth.

Jason Shelfer 5:15

It's some type of growth maturity and I had stopped growing, Some type of growth Maturity and I had stopped growing. And when you stop growing, then you realize at some point there's this awareness that hits you, that says I'm not growing, I'm not evolving, but the world is.

Jana Shelfer 5:30

Yes, and if you are not changing and the world is changing you are getting behind.

Jason Shelfer 5:38

You're not just staying the same, you're actually getting behind, and you're falling behind a learning curve, because the world learns as it grows, just like we learn as we grow. This last decade a little over a decade that we've spent in personal development A, I realized I don't know near as much as I thought I knew, and I still don't, but I've been immersed.

Jana Shelfer 6:00

And at the same time.

Jason Shelfer 6:02

I know so much more.

Jana Shelfer 6:03

Right, because I know, just for like, here's a silly little example. You know, I'm doing this one woman show and they were like yeah, well, you're going to need to make a cover for the ticket and you're going to need to do this, and you're probably going to want to get a software called canva, and then you're going to need to do some publicity, which means you're probably going to have to do a reel, which thought you're going to have to learn all sorts of things.

Jana Shelfer 6:31

I'm like okay, we, we know we've been learning as we've been doing as we grow, yes, as you grow and and I thought, okay, so the part they thought would take me months to do literally took me two hours, and the part that I'm already supposed to have done is taking me months.

Jason Shelfer 6:53

Part of this whole, taking on the identity. So we've identified ourselves as extraordinary people that are in the personal development world and in really the living of life world.

Jana Shelfer 7:07

We just want to be the best.

Jason Shelfer 7:09

We want to show up as the best versions of ourselves and have the best experience of life, like that's to me, like that's the most important thing, like squeezing the juice out of it.

Jana Shelfer 7:17

Yes, right, like I'm here it needs to like let's the most important thing, it's squeezing the juice out of it. Yes, Right.

Jason Shelfer 7:24

I'm here. Let's make it worth it. Our love has grown, the things that we do. I'm getting goosebumps because we go out there and we tackle it and we enjoy it. It's just part of the journey.

Jana Shelfer 7:38

Yes.

Jason Shelfer 7:39

It's not these crazy mountains that we're climbing, or anything like that. Yet, yeah, there there are.

Jana Shelfer 7:45

there are challenges, there are difficulties but it's not a dance lifts right Danger, danger, danger, danger.

Jason Shelfer 7:54

Don't drive her again, oh my gosh, yeah, so I.

Jana Shelfer 8:02

I guess what you're saying then is yeah.

Jason Shelfer 8:04

So for me it was A identifying what is the identity that I want, that I am Then embodying that. So we did vision boards, we did Right. It kept it front of mind. It kept my reticular activating system on these are the things you're looking for, these are the things that are in your future best self. Be on the lookout, because if it's available for anyone, it's available for everyone. You just have to be able to see the opportunities.

Jana Shelfer 8:30

No, we stepped into this role on all fronts. I mean, I don't think people realize how much we've put into this. Not only were we doing the vision boards and the affirmations and the meditations, but we were also coming at it from so many different ways. We joined Toastmasters so we could work on our speaking National.

Jason Shelfer 8:55

Speakers Association.

Jana Shelfer 8:56

Yes, we went to conference after conference after conference to continue to do the work on ourselves and to continue to learn tools. We started groups to help others so we would teach as we would learn.

Jason Shelfer 9:13

Embody it teach it.

Jana Shelfer 9:14

Teach it, because then you learn it better. If you teach it, you learn it better.

Jason Shelfer 9:18

If you teach it, you learn it better, and when you see things differently or from a different level of understanding, you pick up different things from it. Like you'll recognize this throughout life when you hear a quote like Wayne Dyer's quote when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Yeah it's so true. That made sense to me when I first heard it, but it didn't hit me so deep as it does each day now forward, right?

Jana Shelfer 9:45

Yes, so I guess. What I'm trying to say, though, is we literally embodied the energy of the identity of. We were becoming. Yeah.

Jason Shelfer 9:57

And we cultivated our environment. We changed our house, our habits, we changed our friends, our house Like, the people that we like, we have friends that are always going to be our friends. But we also created, got into groups where there were going to be new friends, where there's going to be different levels of thinking, like the financial experts, the real estate experts, the speaking, the speaking, the spiritual experts. We put ourselves in these different environments where we get to actually bring in people to challenge the way we're thinking, and it cultivated new relationships.

Jana Shelfer 10:32

And when you're first stepping into that new energy. Here's where it gets difficult, and I'm just going to be completely transparent and real. You are not your future self yet. You may be embodying your future selves, thoughts and feelings, but there is a latency period of getting there, so you need to treat any type of circumstance or situation that comes your way with the love, understanding, compassion that you want to attract.

Jason Shelfer 11:07

That's so big.

Jana Shelfer 11:08

Do you know what I'm saying?

Jason Shelfer 11:09

Yes.

Jana Shelfer 11:10

And I feel like that's where people get stuck is because they deal with their current circumstances, with their current understanding or current consciousness. Yeah, and until you raise your consciousness and deal with it with the love, understanding and support, then that is what you will attract in two to three months, but you have to give it first, that's so big. Right, you have to be the one to give first.

Jason Shelfer 11:41

And one question that you can ask yourself is how would my future self, how would my ideal perfect self, respond in this situation? Or how would I show up in this arena? Right, yes. And then the other part of that is I like to think of it as a journey. Like I'm just in a car trip going to meet my future self and I'm super excited, I'm super energized and pumped. And my future self because they have everything, like they have all this stuff that I'm desiring, like that perfect world, so I'm so excited to meet that person. Think about when you're in a car trip going somewhere that you are just so pumped to go. How do you show up and act in that? You're prepared, your confidence is up, your energy's up and your future self is super excited to meet you because they know you're doing the work to get there.

Jana Shelfer 12:38

Okay. So let's try to simplify this If you want to change your life, you change your energy, and what Jason is saying is identify the shift or shift it into the identity. And in order to do that, like here's a really simple example that maybe might help us all understand when I first started speaking on stages, I would get off the stage and I would literally run to the bathroom and I would say that was terrible. Oh my God, that was horrible.

Jason Shelfer 13:12

Your inner critic came out.

Jana Shelfer 13:13

That was awful and I would just criticize myself of everything that I had just done. And one day Jason said do you think Tony Robbins gets off stage and and completely criticizes everything that he's just done? No, he doesn't do that. He goes into it with confidence. And until you go into it with confidence and get off that stage with confidence, you're going to continue to have the same experiences.

Jason Shelfer 13:45

Yeah, and I'm out there in the crowd dealing with, like all the standing ovations, the people telling me what an inspiration and what a great job you did, and you're back there in your old self saying I'm not exactly where I want to be yet, like, I'm on my way. I know I'm on my way, right.

Jana Shelfer 14:04

But I'm not where I want to be and in the meantime I kept creating these where the audience kind of would look at me like they wonder about that latency period because they don't see it, but they feel it. Yeah, they're like I don't know, she doesn't. Yeah, I think she knows what she's talking about, right. Because, I hadn't stepped into my confidence yet.

Jason Shelfer 14:33

And then, when you stepped in your confidence, bam, boom bam boom and that's the as if.

Jason Shelfer 14:36

Right, yeah, that's true, that's showing up in those little as if moments, as if I'm already there. This is the experience I'm having and then also create like a little evidence journal. Like to me, that's like my evidence journal was kind of your vision board, watching you kind of manifest all these things by embodying the energy, embodying the thoughts, embodying the intentional movement towards which just allowed all these things to meet you in a quicker capacity, and I was like, oh my God, this works. It's so much easier to see it working because we spend a ton of time together.

Jana Shelfer 15:14

Right.

Jason Shelfer 15:14

So I got to watch all that work and I was like oh, that's the formula.

Jana Shelfer 15:19

Isn't it crazy? I see it working more in your life than I do my own life. But that's the way it works is sometimes you can see it in other people's lives before you can really see it in your own.

Jason Shelfer 15:31

So so true.

Jana Shelfer 15:33

Okay, I hope this helped a little bit. Just to recap shift your identity, and when I say that, that means shift your energy, shift your thoughts, shift your feelings into your future self or your best self.

Jason Shelfer 15:51

And you're going to bring the opportunities and the circumstances to you that make you feel like the person that has those it's all about the way you feel.

Jana Shelfer 15:59

That is the secret. Write that down. Listen to this again it's all about the way you feel.

Jason Shelfer 16:06

Thanks so much for joining us.

Jana Shelfer 16:07

Keep Living Lucky®, bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.