Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason and Jana Banana

Identifying My Core Values

Jana and Jason Shelfer Season 8 Episode 5

Unlock Your Happiest Self: Aligning Your Values for a Fulfilling Life [Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason & Jana Banana]

Feeling stuck in a rut? Want to experience more joy and purpose in your life? This episode of the Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason & Jana Banana is your guide to uncovering your core values and harnessing their power to create a life you love.

Here's what you'll get:

  • The surprising truth about values: They're not set in stone! Discover how your values can evolve as you grow and change. (It's okay to ditch that old value of materialism if it no longer sparks joy!)
  • Practical tips for identifying your core values: Feeling lost? We'll show you exactly how to pinpoint the values that truly matter to YOU. (Hint: it's all about self-reflection and a little introspection.)
  • The life-changing "toll troll" exercise: Get ready to confront your priorities head-on with this fun and eye-opening activity. (Are you willing to pay the toll to hold onto your most cherished values?)
  • Unleash the power of aligned action: Learn how to bridge the gap between your values and your daily decisions. (Living a life that feels authentic and fulfilling starts right now!)
  • The secret to lasting happiness: We'll reveal the profound connection between your values and your sense of self-worth. (Feeling good about yourself starts with prioritizing what matters most!)

By the end of this episode, you'll have the tools and inspiration you need to:

  • Uncover your core values
  • Align your actions with your values
  • Live a more fulfilling and authentic life

Ready to unlock your happiest self? Press play and join Jason & Jana Banana on their journey to Living Lucky®!

*Looking for even more value-packed content? Check out the full blog post based on this episode for even deeper insights and takeaways!

Keywords: self-help, personal development, values, mindset, positive thinking, life coaching, self-discovery, happiness, fulfillment, authenticity, how to identify core values, aligning values with actions, finding purpose in life, Jana Shelfer, Jason Shelfer, Living Lucky

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning. I'm Jana Shelfer, I'm Jason Shelfer and we are Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

You are too. We're talking about values today.

Jason Shelfer:

Ooh, I like some value.

Jana Shelfer:

We always ask what are your top values? What are your top values? Well then, I ask the question how do you know what your top values are and do they change throughout your life?

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, I think a lot of people ask this question and I do think sometimes they change. I remember my values. 15 years ago I valued material objects, I know.

Jana Shelfer:

And I'm starting to value them again. What's wrong with me?

Jason Shelfer:

So I appreciate them, but I realized that it's love, wealth, health. Those are the things that are top of my value system.

Jana Shelfer:

Here's the thing when I asked the question top of my value system. Here's the thing when I asked the question what are my top values? I literally had to Google give me an example or a list of values, because I don't think people even know that.

Jason Shelfer:

I had to do the same thing with emotions. I had to look at an emotion wheel to say, okay, I do recognize this in me. I do recognize this in me and I think that's the best step for anybody that wants to identify their values. A lot of times, we'll choose our values based on things that we want to be and want to have. Yes, and it's when we can look at a list and say no.

Jana Shelfer:

It's kind of more like this but here's the thing like you just said, you used to value material things and now you are valuing, you realize it's love and health and abundance. Abundance is a little bit of a material thing.

Jason Shelfer:

So I think abundance is one of my values in that is is recognizing the abundance available in the world and saying, okay, well, would I be a good steward of that abundance world. And saying, okay, well, would I be a good steward of that abundance.

Jana Shelfer:

Because I feel like I kind of let go of some of those outwardly things. You know, I used to always really value beauty and I used to really value nice clothes and style and do you know what I'm saying? And I kind of let go of that over the years and now I'm at a point where I think there's nothing wrong with having those things. And I would kind of like to have some of those things back.

Jason Shelfer:

I don't like this getting old stuff and just like for me, when status was one of my values recognizing. Okay, I can have status and as long as I'm doing the right things with it. Like my soul has been saying, I want more of a spiritual connection.

Jana Shelfer:

I want a deeper connection with my husband. I want time and freedom. Do you know what I'm saying? Creativity. I have really, really gone deep into my creative soul. And at the same time, gone deep into my creative soul and at the same time, now I'm starting to think. You know what I kind of? I kind of want to get a facelift, like I don't like these, these, I don't like these wrinkles on my forehead. And then I'm like what am I doing?

Jana Shelfer:

And also like I I've thought about, you know I've been not, you know, highlighting my hair and so you know, if I look, look really, really closely, I'm starting to see a gray hair here and there and I I've kind of been on that teetering point like do I just let it go natural, is this where I'm at in life? And yet I keep coming back to wait a minute. I feel like people treat me differently when, when you come out of that $500, a hair appointment salon.

Jason Shelfer:

I feel like people treat me differently when, when you come out of that $500 a hair appointment salon.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, they do when I have my cute little blonde bob, that's a them thing.

Jason Shelfer:

But also, is it a way you show up, Maybe?

Jana Shelfer:

I don't know if it's me or if it's them or what, because you show when you come out of there.

Jason Shelfer:

You're like rocking. You're like I tell you you have swagger when you come out.

Jana Shelfer:

Like when we were in Kansas, I didn't have my blonde bob. I have more of a au natural look and I feel like I think you look great. Well, thank you, but even like my dad was like Jenna, go get your hair done.

Jason Shelfer:

Go wash it again. He kept telling me Keep washing it until I like it.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm like it's not about washing my hair. My hair is clean, my hair is clean, it's just a little dark, right now Dad, you need to go wash it longer.

Jason Shelfer:

It was so funny to me. Now he's what 79? I know, but I feel like, wash it longer. He doesn't know that your mom gets her hair dyed every week. But do you see then?

Jana Shelfer:

why I would doubt myself. I'm like what's wrong? Do I look what's?

Jason Shelfer:

wrong with the way I look. You look amazing. Okay so, so it's the swagger, like it's like. How do I help Jana get her swagger?

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, and I'm going to tell you.

Jason Shelfer:

The thing is, it was 20 degrees.

Jana Shelfer:

I got car serviced this past week, which I haven't done that in a long time because I really don't drive my car a lot.

Jason Shelfer:

You might have put 500 miles on your car last year.

Jana Shelfer:

Anyway, when I went to go get my car serviced, I started looking around, while I was waiting, at all the new cars and all of the new features of the 2025. That's going to get me some swag and all of the I mean the technology and the screens and the lighting in inside this, and even the smell of the leather, and I literally was sitting there, your hair for stop, stop.

Jana Shelfer:

but I was in there in the this little mini cooper, this, it was bright yellow. I'm like this is my car and I just felt like Barbie. I felt like Jana Barbie.

Jason Shelfer:

Luxury is one of your values and that's fine because you deserve it.

Jana Shelfer:

But then there's something inside me that feels a little guilty or even shamed to say that out loud. Do you know what I'm saying? But I love like. I love going and having a really nice dinner, going out to dinner and like at a restaurant where you feel like VIP, just being there, where they know your name when you walk in the door.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, Because, they pay attention to their guests, list their clientele. They're like, okay, they maybe look them up online to say okay, who are the shelfers? Who are the shelfers in Orlando that might be coming and they'll have a picture that says this is who they are as soon as they walk in. Oh, shelfers, we're so glad that you made it. Yes, that, and to me. I think everyone wants that.

Jason Shelfer:

Only few people are willing to give it To me. I think everyone wants that. Only a few people are willing to give it. So it's, how do we feel that and portray that so that maybe a place that we go wants to treat us like that?

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, so I guess what you're saying is it's not really about. It's about the way it makes me feel, yeah, and I shouldn't feel guilty for wanting that feeling, because that's a value of mine and you show up differently for the world when you, when you have that when I feel that way right, oh yeah, like you're like okay, two snaps in a circle.

Jana Shelfer:

So so let's keep going. I did print off a list of values in case anyone listening to this is like I don't even know what values. What does she mean by values? Because we consider the big ones you know love relationship.

Jason Shelfer:

You know career can be a value, wealth, abundance, family Connections, relationship.

Jana Shelfer:

Giving faith.

Jason Shelfer:

Financial stability.

Jana Shelfer:

Those are the very basic ones, but if you really start digging down, there's accountability, achievement, adaptability, adventure altruism, ambition, authenticity. Can you tell? I'm only in the A category. They're in alphabetical order and Jason Shelfer has a tool to help people identify identify what is most important to you, because I look at this list and I see recognition, reliability, resourcefulness, respect, responsibility, risk taking. All of those are important to me.

Jason Shelfer:

I want to claim all of those right and a lot of us want those because when you go through a values list, if you look at a values list, you're like, oh yeah, that's nice. Yes, I want that. Yes, I want this. I want to be known as that.

Jana Shelfer:

These are how I want to be, so it's hard for me to put them in order. But Jason Shelfer has a tool, yeah, and it's called the toll troll.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah Well, we've got tons toll. So what I like to do is I like to get this list, because it's like an exhaustive list of any values that I can think of, and I try to get the biggest list possible.

Jana Shelfer:

Which we have done this exercise with one of our coaches, Berta. We did this many, many years ago. I had just forgotten this, but keep going, set yourself little timelines.

Jason Shelfer:

That says okay, today I'm going to pay the toll of five of my values. Five of the values that I want most are three of the values that I like and I'm going to pay those out. I'm willing to let those go, to keep what's left on the page. Yes, and you keep doing this for a couple of days and then, once you get to the end and you have to think about it like you have to be about it, like you have to be thinking about, okay, what values am I willing to just let go of?

Jason Shelfer:

They're no longer part of me, they're no longer important to me, just for this exercise, and say, okay, what am I willing? What are the three that I'm willing to let go of, what are the five I'm willing to let go of? And then we get all the way down to like where there's like nine or 10 left, yes, and then you're saying, okay, now we're at the most important values to me. What would I be willing to let go of here? So what three would I be willing to let go of here? What two would I be willing to let go of here? Until you get to that, the last couple, and you're like not ever willing to let go of these.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, because, like right now, within the last couple months, I have really decided it's not that I value it now, it's that my future self, this is the direction I want to go. I want to value humor and joy. Yeah, humor, joy, and and it's not that I have that right now, it but that's the direction I want to go. I'm shaking my head because I got that song joy and pain what?

Jason Shelfer:

But it's not pain, it's joy and humor. He's looking like a bobblehead over here.

Jana Shelfer:

He totally is looking like a bobblehead.

Jason Shelfer:

Because he got my spirit flowing over here. He's got like Rodney Dangerfield eyes.

Jana Shelfer:

They're going back and forth.

Jason Shelfer:

I'm like what the heck Dangerfield eyes. They're going back and forth. I'm like what the heck you just got me fired up because I like the joy and humor too.

Jana Shelfer:

I want to laugh till I fart. But right now laugh till you fart. You really want that.

Jason Shelfer:

Not all the time, but I would like to do that in a privacy mile.

Jana Shelfer:

Well, which one of these would you let go of? Because I'm looking at them.

Jason Shelfer:

I'm like I don't know if I would let go of any of these, so I'm gonna just in the exercise because we don't have to let go of them. Um, on a daily basis in the exercise.

Jana Shelfer:

We're just trying to whittle down to our top three, top three or top five values. I would let go of future generations burn it down. Don't say that after all the fires don't say that don't say that that's terrible, because they I really love kids and I I want the best for them. I just if I have to let go of one. I don't have kids, so I think I would let go of that one and, but we still pour into kids and people's kids all the time but it's not like.

Jason Shelfer:

It's something that needs to be important.

Jana Shelfer:

It's not my highest value.

Jason Shelfer:

If you do something within your three highest values every day, you will feel like you've had a good day. You will feel like you're Living Lucky®. Yes, you will feel like A I'm making progress, B I'm living a fulfilled life, and it will be coherent to. It will be it'll feel good about the way you're living life.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, I think that I can let go of Forgiveness. No, I don't know.

Jason Shelfer:

I feel like forgiveness is a really important one.

Jana Shelfer:

Let go of equality. See, I'm judging, I'm judging.

Jason Shelfer:

Let go of harmony.

Jana Shelfer:

No, let go of grace Harmony is important to me, I'm thinking maybe altruism I can let go of grace is important to me. I'm thinking, maybe altruism I can let go of altruism? Sure that's putting others before myself. I sound like a self-centered narcissist.

Jason Shelfer:

So the thing is, when you get to those those primary things, like when you get, if love, I think, is really your, your main one, I do too like because I I see it in the way you live I think I'm gonna let go of sportsmanship.

Jason Shelfer:

Fuck you, step on their throats don't say that either roll over their throats, oh my god you're just a bad person. This is not about being a bad person. No, but we're judging me for letting go of choosing the ones I want to let go of the thing is we're saying okay, out of what's left, because so you're looking at the whole sheet. I am so right now, all you have to do is find three things that you would say okay to keep. The rest, I will let go of these.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, tradition. Maybe I'll let go of tradition.

Jason Shelfer:

To me, that's a fantastic one to let go of, because for me tradition is an old way of thinking carried forward.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay.

Jason Shelfer:

And so we keep getting what we got when we do what we did. Okay, Now to some people, tradition is super important because they love everything about what's going on, they love the and they like the comfort of it, the pomp and circumstance, or the pomp and circumstance, yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

So it's they love the ceremonies and it's okay if that is, and the knickknacks it's like the University of Alabama right when we were at the University of Alabama.

Jason Shelfer:

Tradition is seeped in there. You liked that. I had a good time.

Jana Shelfer:

You lit up. Oh gosh, like it's really hard for me to decide here.

Jason Shelfer:

And I think you can do this with values, you can do this with personal characteristics of yourself.

Jana Shelfer:

I think I would tell the troll no, You're not taking anything from me. Bill my plate.

Jason Shelfer:

Bill me my mail.

Jana Shelfer:

Take six from the guy behind me. That's right, pay it forward. I'll give up three of mine and three of his. Okay, so if you had one that you had to give up, so I'm giving, I would give.

Jason Shelfer:

So I didn't see tradition on there, but I would give up tradition quickly. I would give up uh, institution or oh, that's intuition, I'm not giving up intuition.

Jana Shelfer:

That has been one of my greatest things as of the last few years, like I feel, like my intuition has really been a superpower For me.

Jason Shelfer:

I feel like just looking at the list and glancing over this one. So dignity is a list of one and I would say I could, I could probably give up dignity because I'm wrong a lot.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

And.

Jana Shelfer:

I'd have to you admit that now.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, not in the moment. Hell, no, damn it. I'm planting my feet and I'm right. Tell that to the troll. Well, here's my butt no dignity.

Jana Shelfer:

All right. Well, for anyone listening, this is an exercise that's kind of fun and it will start saying a lot about yourself.

Jason Shelfer:

It is fun and you can learn a lot about yourself. It is fun print out and you can learn a lot about your partner in this too.

Jana Shelfer:

Print out a list of of values and then go through and circle. First of all, circle the ones that you really think stand out to you. Secondly, pretend you're going through the toll troll or the troll toll and he says in order for you to get through, to make it to your destiny, you need to give me three. And then, without thinking about it, because if we think about it too much we start talking ourselves out of it, put it on the bathroom door.

Jason Shelfer:

You're typically not going to the bathroom, unless you need to get something done okay.

Jana Shelfer:

So every time you go to the bathroom, scratch off three, say I will pay, I will pay these three in order to go take a dump. That's a good policy right there, and then see which seven you end up with which five, yeah, seven, five or three Like.

Jason Shelfer:

Whittle it down to a healthy number where you can say okay am I doing something? Within my values every single day, and you'll be Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so three, narrow it down to three and then, like you said, do whatever you do during the day. Does this align with my core values?

Jason Shelfer:

My current core values.

Jana Shelfer:

All right, thanks for joining us.

Jana Shelfer:

Have a great day, bye-bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.