Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason and Jana Banana

Recognize Your Connections

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 7 • Episode 78

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Revisit Your Past, Reframe Your Future: Unveiling Hidden Connections on Living Lucky® Podcast

Feeling stuck in a negative thought loop? This episode of Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason & Jana Banana is your turbo boost to personal growth! We're cracking the code on the surprising power of revisiting the past and how it can unlock a treasure trove of hidden connections that impact your present and future.

Get ready to discover:

  • The emotional rollercoaster of returning to a cherished place (and how to navigate it like a champ!)
  • How revisiting the past can reveal surprising truths about yourself and your memories.
  • The hidden connections that influence your life, even if you don't realize it.
  • The power of gratitude to shift your mindset and attract positive experiences. ✨
  • How to reframe limiting beliefs and transform them into stepping stones for success.

Feeling inspired? We've got even more! This episode delves into the fascinating concept that we're not alone on our journeys. Jason and Jana explore the idea that the people you meet, the places you visit, and even seemingly random events all play a role in shaping who you are.

Join us as we unpack:

  • The surprising impact you have on others, even if you don't see it. (This might surprise you!)
  • The importance of acknowledging your "cheerleaders" – the unseen forces propelling you forward.
  • How to cultivate a growth mindset by embracing change and appreciating the ever-evolving nature of life.

Ready to start Living Lucky®? Buckle up for an episode packed with actionable tips, inspiring stories, and a healthy dose of laughter. This is your chance to rewrite the narrative of your past and unlock a future brimming with possibility. ✨

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Keywords: Self-help, personal development, limiting beliefs, mindset, positive thinking, revisiting the past, hidden connections, gratitude, reframing, personal growth, impact on others, cheerleader effect, growth mindset, embracing change, Jana Shelfer, Jason Shelfer, University of Alabama, Lambda Chi Alpha, Birmingham, Tuscaloosa, College, Nostalgia, College Parties, Tailgating, Living Lucky, Best Life Coaches

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning. I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are Living Lucky®. You are too. Ramma jamma yellow hammer. Give them hell, alabama Roll Tide.

Jana Shelfer:

We went to the Alabama-Auburn game, in which Alabama won.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, thank you very much, and this is a growing season for them too. It's almost like.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm taking credit for cheering them on.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, you're welcome. Alabama. Probably wouldn't have happened without us. You are truly Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

It was my first time on the Alabama campus. However, jason graduated from Alabama and since we have met, which was in 2004, jason has been saying I would love to go back and visit the Alabama campus, my alum, to go back and visit the Alabama campus, my alum, and I would love to just be in the spirit of the college elephant and see what's happened there and I'll be honest, I would say that I would love to go back, but there was a dread within me.

Jason Shelfer:

Why? Because the last time I'd been back was April 2004 for one of my best friend's funerals.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay.

Jason Shelfer:

And so it was a. I didn't handle that well back then. Really, yeah, I didn't. It was unexpected. He was 36 years old. He was my best friend for four years and then some. And then I get a call one day while I was at work that he had been killed in a car wreck.

Jana Shelfer:

So he must have been quite a bit older than you.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, so he died in 2004. He was 36 and I was 22.

Jana Shelfer:

Well, in college Okay.

Jason Shelfer:

I was born in 72, so I'm not doing the math, that's just.

Jana Shelfer:

That Alabama math.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

That education really paid off. Yeah, so he was a couple years older than me, but we did everything together.

Jason Shelfer:

So I was an undergrad and he had just graduated law school.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so he was quite a bit older if he had graduated law school and you were still in undergrad.

Jason Shelfer:

I think he was in his last year of law school, when I was a freshman.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so you haven't been on campus in many years.

Jason Shelfer:

The last time you went it was for a not so celebratory moment, yeah it's hard to feel like a celebration of life, at least from your perspective, at that time. Yeah, it's hard to feel like a celebration of life, at least from your perspective at that time. At that age I was at, it would be hard to go as a celebration of life and call a funeral a celebration of life at Semich for 36.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so what was it like to be on campus?

Jason Shelfer:

It was incredible. It was almost like I had never left. However, everything had changed.

Jana Shelfer:

Really yeah, tell me more.

Jason Shelfer:

So I had changed.

Jana Shelfer:

The campus was you barely recognized your fraternity house. I want to say that we walked in like we owned the place. However, then you're like wait, where's this? Why is this room here? This wasn't here when I was in school.

Jason Shelfer:

Where's the house, mother's room and what's going on upstairs? Everything looked upgraded and better. There was literally a whole new house put on the house.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, they had to give you a tour.

Jason Shelfer:

You didn't even know where you were going, they added an extra like 25 rooms to the upstairs and a party room slash initiation room, slash football watching room on the addition. So it was Just. It was twice the house that I had when I was there.

Jana Shelfer:

So you know, sometimes when we remember things, we remember them better than they were.

Jason Shelfer:

Do you know what I'm saying?

Jana Shelfer:

Nostalgia, Like when I'm when I the times, you know, when I was little, I was like oh yeah, you got to come to this because it's such a big event. And then as an adult, I go back and I'm like oh gosh, this wasn't nearly what I remembered, but for you it was almost the opposite. Like you remembered, it kind of being a shabby run down frat house.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, I remember. So I remember the most memorable parts really were the parties and the cleanups and we made a mess when we partied. So it was like, and I remember like one of the things is we had to fine fraternity brothers for throwing things through the windows.

Jason Shelfer:

It was not like it would just get to that point where it was like 1230, one o'clock in the morning and somebody would throw a football straight through the window panes, and so it was like, okay, you're paying $25 per window pane and there's eight window panes in the thing. To try to curb that enthusiasm of, let's throw the football around inside the house.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh, okay, they didn't do it on purpose.

Jason Shelfer:

They weren't like. I'm tired of this computer.

Jana Shelfer:

Let's throw it out the window.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, it wasn't quite in the house. I'm tired of my homework, but it was like every Sunday morning there were repairs. I walked through the house with the repair list.

Jana Shelfer:

I will say, when you found your picture on the wall of this really immaculate fraternity house, you kind of have this strut in your step like hey, that's me and this is my house. And there was this sense of pride that exuded from you.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, it's funny how you can have that sense of pride even when you're looking at a picture of yourself that is so dated.

Jana Shelfer:

Like the haircut back then you looked a little different.

Jason Shelfer:

I will say I just gained 60 pounds from high school to college, and it was yeah, most people put on their freshman 15.

Jana Shelfer:

Jason put on their freshman 60. Jason put on the freshman 60.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, and I needed it, but he needed it. Yes, I will say I went from 120 pounds to 180 pounds.

Jana Shelfer:

Your high school pictures you look like a lollipop.

Jason Shelfer:

I looked good, except for that hair. I don't know what was going on with that haircut.

Jana Shelfer:

Well, you know, with AI technology we can change that. Yeah, we can fix that and just like a little snap, just go back to the Photoshop store and put a new picture in there. I was also amazed at how many people knew you on campus.

Jana Shelfer:

What can I say, so not only in the fraternity house, but then we went to this tailgating party and people immediately started yelling Shelford, oh, my gosh, shelford's back, shelford's back. And I thought, okay, I understand, these people were in school while you were there, but there's been a lot of years since then, which?

Jason Shelfer:

is a lot of people.

Jana Shelfer:

And it just amazed me that people still knew you and that you had such a tight knit group of friends.

Jason Shelfer:

So there's a couple of things in there. One of them is that we show up very consistently with our podcast, with our coffees, and social media has been able to keep the world connected. Yes, If you use it for the right reasons, right. The other thing is is I was. I was in a fraternity where we spent a lot of time together and I was president of the Criminal Justice Student Association.

Jana Shelfer:

You were involved.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, so, and I didn't even realize how connected I was until we went back.

Jana Shelfer:

You know what that's such a good lesson, because I think in our life sometimes we feel like we are on this lonely island, and I know that I've had business mentors say to me use your connections, jana. You've got connections and yet I'm like I don't even have enough friends to fill a table at a charity function. Or I want to go shopping and I don't even have anyone that I can call to go shopping that I feel comfortable with. And so you know, when my mentor would say, well, you have connections all around you, I in my head I fight that. I fight that because I go. No, I don't.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, there's also a flip side of that. I think that we get so caught up in achieving goals that we see the goal line and we see ourselves reaching it and getting closer to it and then going over it yeah and we think that we're the only ones doing it, like we don't have blockers and tacklers here. I am going to a football analogy because we went to the game and we.

Jason Shelfer:

That was really the only game we saw all season. We didn't watch it on television, we just went to a live event and enjoyed the nostalgia. But a lot of times we don't see our blockers, we don't see the people that are helping us get there, like designing the play designing the plan I got you. And we have no idea how many people we are impacting or how many people are really impacting us. Yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

That is so good. Okay, let's just rewind this podcast right now and let's just repeat that, because I really think that that was an aha moment.

Jason Shelfer:

That really was opened up when I started gratituding.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, Let me. And gratituding is a verb.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, it is.

Jana Shelfer:

Let me paraphrase what Jason just said Sometimes we don't realize all of the people that we are impacting, all of the people that are helping us along the way, our blockers, our catchers.

Jason Shelfer:

Our tacklers, our play designers.

Jana Shelfer:

Our coaches.

Jason Shelfer:

Influences.

Jana Shelfer:

Even the crowd, the crowd being there, the cheerleaders, the band the 12th man. The band, the people who are taking tickets, the people who are doing the concessions.

Jason Shelfer:

The people that are offering a smile as you pass by.

Jana Shelfer:

The people who are donating to make the stadium a nice place. There's just so many people who are helping in so many ways that we sometimes don't realize.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah. So Alex Hermosi posted a thing on social media the other day that he sold his business for $50 million, and one of the things he said I did it without this, I did it without this, I did it with no money. And the last thing he put on there was I did it with no connections. And when I talk about, we don't know how many people we're influencing or how many people have really influenced us, an influence is an impact. An impact is the definition of impact is a connection of some point. So I think we don't do anything without connections, true, and a lot of times, we're just not aware of it. It's like just not taking notice of it Okay.

Jana Shelfer:

So again along that line, or piggybacking off of that, many times when we do achieve something, we think, oh, look what I did. Yes, and that's not true at all. Yeah, when we do achieve something, we think, oh, look what I did. Yes, and that's not true at all.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, when you really zoom out when you really zoom out, and that way we label ourselves as a someone who's accomplished or someone who's failed and we say it's all us it's taking the whole and putting our value or our achievement on that scale of I did this or I didn't, and we're all getting through this together and that's the beautiful thing of it, when we take note of we're all doing the best we can on a daily basis and working to make the world a better place and we're all connected.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, oh my gosh. All this from a football game and from revisiting a college campus that I was scared to go back to because of my emotions.

Jason Shelfer:

But now that I'm getting in touch with my emotions, let's see the world.

Jana Shelfer:

We literally had so much fun that I, after a couple of beers, was saying, oh, we'll be back. We'll be back for every game. Oh my gosh, we're coming back for the Lua.

Jason Shelfer:

And all the alumni parties.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, make sure you give us an invitation, because we'll be here.

Jason Shelfer:

Here's my email address. Here's Jason's email address my husband will donate.

Jana Shelfer:

Awesome. I want to say thank you. It was a really great experience for me too, and to see you in your element and to wear the crimson. That's right. That was fun.

Jason Shelfer:

Roll Tide Keep Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

Have a great day.

Jason Shelfer:

Thanks for joining us, we'll see you soon.

Jana Shelfer:

Bye-bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.