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Over-Stimulated

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 7 • Episode 72

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Feeling Overwhelmed by Modern Life? You're Not Alone. (Here's How to Thrive!)

Feeling like a hamster on a never-ending wheel? You're not alone. In this episode of Living Lucky® with Jason & Jana, we delve into the chaos of overstimulation in today's world and its impact on your ability to focus, create, and thrive.

Feeling overwhelmed? Here's what you'll get from this episode:

  • Relatable Stories: Jana shares her personal struggle with a five-hour art workshop that left her feeling drained. You'll instantly connect with the feeling of wanting to escape the noise.
  • The Power of "No": Discover how to identify your limits and say "no" to distractions that zap your energy and focus.
  • Intentional Living: Learn how to set clear intentions and utilize your personal "productivity windows" to tackle challenging tasks with laser focus.
  • Taming the To-Do List: Feeling bogged down by a never-ending list? We'll show you how to prioritize ruthlessly and tackle the "big rocks" first, leaving you feeling accomplished (not exhausted).
  • Filtering Out the Noise: Feeling like technology controls your attention? We discuss strategies for staying present and developing a "thicker filter" to drown out unnecessary noise.
  • Letting Go of Limiting Beliefs: Discover how to prioritize your dreams and let go of non-essential tasks that hold you back. Don't let overwhelm drown out your true potential!

This episode is a must-listen for anyone feeling:

  • Overwhelmed by distractions
  • Struggling to maintain focus
  • Yearning for a more centered and intentional life
  • Wanting to prioritize what truly matters

Ready to transform the chaos of modern life into an opportunity for growth and fulfillment? Tune in today!

Keywords: Self-help, personal development, limiting beliefs, mindset, positive thinking, focus, productivity, overwhelm, overstimulation, intentionality, Elite Life Coach, Jana Shelfer, Jason Shelfer, How To, Thriving, Opportunities 

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky® Good morning I'm. Jana Shelfer, I'm Jason Shelfer and we are Living Lucky®. You are too. This morning for our virtual coffee, we started talking about overstimulation.

Jason Shelfer:

Stimulation, stimulation. Put your attention to the test it is.

Jana Shelfer:

It's putting your attention to the test and I have been failing lately.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm going to be real.

Jana Shelfer:

I have realized that my attention span has weakened, weighed it has it's weighing. Realized that my attention span has weakened, waned it has it has waning. I went to an art workshop on saturday that was scheduled for five hours. After an hour I was like, okay, I've learned the information, I'm ready to go got what I need.

Jason Shelfer:

I'm gone.

Jana Shelfer:

I'll go do this can I just take mine home?

Jana Shelfer:

and work on it there like I literally was, and there was several components to it. A, I didn't, I, just I. My attention was done, my focus was done. I was tired of talking. It felt like there was too many things going on at once and I literally was like, if I am going to art for five hours, I I don't want the pressure of socializing with that.

Jason Shelfer:

Oh wow, there you go. So that is overstimulation, that is overstimulation, and the one thing I think that we do need is another art project at the house.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh, stop Okay. What he's referring to is, if you look around our house, I've got mannequins, I've got puzzles, I've got sewing, a whole sewing room, I've got a piano room paintings in my journal room.

Jason Shelfer:

I am. I am an artist, I'm a creator. You have boundless creativity, like even your ideas are, I think, artful because you think differently. But I get this overstimulation thing. I am overstimulated.

Jana Shelfer:

Sometimes I wake up and I go. I don't even know what I'm supposed to be doing today, and so then I go and make a list, and my list is literally front page two columns and a back column.

Jason Shelfer:

Did you just burp on air? I did, I just burped.

Jana Shelfer:

Excuse me and a backside, and so then I feel overwhelmed about my to-do list. So I do the things that I know I can do, like unload the dishwasher and maybe take out the trash, put a load of laundry in, set the vacuum cleaner, the automatic vacuum cleaner.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, the room boss.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, anyway, those little things. I start doing little things to almost circumvent my to-do list because I don't know where to start.

Jason Shelfer:

And it also is a place because I do that same thing. If I don't have that clear intention of what I want to put my focus on first thing, I will. I have the mental to-do list and I start doing the easiest things first, or the things that are just routine or that I can do by with my eyes closed pretty much, because you do get a little cortisol by marking them off. Yeah, and I try to do them quickly, like I will rush through those easy things.

Jana Shelfer:

Why do you rush though?

Jason Shelfer:

I think it's because I know that there's bigger, harder things to do, or bigger, more consuming things to do.

Jana Shelfer:

Now.

Jason Shelfer:

But then I wear myself out on the tiny things.

Jana Shelfer:

I will say the seven habits of highly effective people.

Jason Shelfer:

It's opposite of that.

Jana Shelfer:

Do the hard things first.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, eat the elephant first, or eat the frog first.

Jana Shelfer:

While your energy is fresh.

Jason Shelfer:

Right, and I know this because we've taken time to look at when we're most productive, how we're most productive, and I know for me that it's in the mornings, after we meditate. It's early in the morning, it's before noon. It's before the sun comes up.

Jana Shelfer:

Once we take a lunch break, our day's done. That's how I feel. I feel like from 5 am I mean I meditate from 4 to 5. And then from 5 am to 11 am is my window of getting things done.

Jason Shelfer:

It is the most creative, most productive, most intentional. And I understand this overstimulation because just in the world in general, in the last well, actually forever, yeah, at whatever time in life you were born, as you grow, you grow into more options, more availability of things, more opportunities, and we start thinking all these things that we could do and we take our mind off of the main thing that we want to do. So there's plenty of stimulation and it's always grown Like innovation has just kind of been constant. I think it went up exponentially when technology started becoming a big factor in this thing that we just could suck our time emotional, mental and spiritual.

Jana Shelfer:

It's almost like the technology has helped us spin even more plates at once. Yeah so which for my brain, and maybe it's hormonal, I don't know, but I do feel like I'm having a harder time just focusing in on anything. I even know that sometimes, when Jason Shelfer and I are just trying to have a conversation, it feels like the phones come out. Or if we're watching a movie, it feels it's getting harder and harder to sit through a two-hour movie and have that be the only thing I'm doing.

Jason Shelfer:

And you mentioned it earlier that it's kind of like, how do we get in the now, like in the present moment, get grounded and say, okay, what is where am I, what am I doing, what is it I want to focus on, so that I can drown out the other things?

Jana Shelfer:

Everything else Like. It's almost like I need a thicker filter.

Jason Shelfer:

Oh, that's powerful.

Jana Shelfer:

A thicker filter of what's important.

Jason Shelfer:

And labeling Like this is exactly what I want. What does that path look like? Because I don't have to take every road in America to get there if I'm traveling, but I can pick one path and what's along that path.

Jana Shelfer:

The main thing is to keep the main thing, the main thing. So what is the main thing? That's the question. What's the main thing?

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and just writing that out and knowing it. So for me, that just brought me to your vision board. And you've got a lot of things on your vision board, but it all you grabbed. You fill out. Whenever you put a vision board and you've got a lot of things on your vision board, but it all you, you grabbed, you fill out. Like whenever you put a vision board together, it happens, you make it happen. Oh, I know, and so, and it's on this path, it's. We don't necessarily know the path, but it's all. It all comes together because you put your focus and attention on those things and sometimes I do that subconsciously.

Jana Shelfer:

I don't even realize that I'm doing that. So maybe I do need to make a new vision board and ask myself the question what is it that is important to me right now?

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and then you can start saying this is where I'm going, these are the stops on the map that I'm going to hit, and that drowns out some of the. It's not going to drown out everything, but it's going to drown out a lot of that overstimulation.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, it's almost like I need to be grounded. I literally feel like I am. You use the analogy of a fire hose.

Jason Shelfer:

That isn't Just turned on and nobody's holding it.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, and it's just moving in all different directions and going here and there and everywhere and water is splattering everywhere. That's how I feel about life right now, and it feels like everyone is throwing out what's important to them, what's important to them, and I'm just trying to like exist. Does that make sense.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, like I'm just trying to get along, to get along right now.

Jana Shelfer:

I really just feel like I'm trying to survive and I, you know, like I looked this morning to see if it was Veterans Day and next thing, you know, I'm celebrating Origami Day and I'm folding paper.

Jason Shelfer:

It's like 20 different days right now. Yeah, it's National Bully Day.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm like oh my gosh, Like I didn't even know that this was happening. Oh, I better contact so-and-so and say hey, you know, I hope you don't get picked on today, because you look very pick-on-able. You look like the type that would be bullied. That's right.

Jason Shelfer:

That's so rude you better call some bullies and tell them you better stop bullying today.

Jana Shelfer:

Anyway, it just, it feels like there's just so much, and you know, when we had COVID it was the opposite. It feels like the pendulum has swung to the other side. It's like during COVID, you know, everything shut down and it has, over the last three or four years, taken a little while for things to get ramped up again and it feels like it's it is almost going to a different level.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jana Shelfer:

Do you know what I'm saying?

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, and we don't even have kids. Like if you had kids, I feel like you would I. I'm going to be real with you right now. I'm going to be very, very vulnerable. I sometimes, if if I wasn't married to Jason Shelfer, I wouldn't eat, and it's not because I'm not hungry, it's because I am like I don't have the bandwidth to go to the store and to cook something right now.

Jason Shelfer:

It would be cereal Sunday for you.

Jana Shelfer:

Yes. I guess, which we both know. When I eat cereal, then that affects other parts of my life. So I guess what I'm trying to say is sometimes it is literally my job to just keep my head above water, and I know that that's really hard for me to admit out loud, because I know a lot of people look at me and put me on the inspiration stage or the motivation stage or the knowledge stage and yes, I have that too, but in my everyday life sometimes it is just a chore to cut my toenails well, and part of that and to brush my teeth and to get those very basic things under control, because there's so many other things that I'm doing.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and that's why I think we need to get a personal chef. We need to get personal toenail cutters, like a manicurist that lives in the house the chef and manicurist can live upstairs the masseuse so the manicurist needs to be a masseuse as well, Because those are the little things that we like to have that we don't take care of that often.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, I guess we're getting a little off topic, because what I'm really trying to say is we always say open your awareness, open your awareness, open your awareness. And yes, that is very, very important. But then there comes a point where filter, filter, filter.

Jason Shelfer:

Where are you busy? Being busy instead of focused on where you want to go, and that overstimulation.

Jana Shelfer:

And maybe it's time to let some things go. You know, I notice I've been feeling in our house. Our house it feels very it's getting a little cluttered, mostly with art projects like.

Jason Shelfer:

Jason Shelfer said and skis Like I've got a, I've got a, I've probably got 20 skis out there and you use two of them.

Jana Shelfer:

And we use two, so maybe it's time one or two that we let go of not only the physical things in our life, but also maybe some of these.

Jason Shelfer:

I don't want to say let go of your dreams, but it is time to maybe pick a drink to pick like, pick the one that's the most important to you and that you've you've actually grounded yourself, you've you've sought inwardly what is the most important thing for me. What would it be like if I never accomplished this in life and then start leaning into making that happen? Because that doesn't I mean just, and you might achieve it a lot quicker than you thought you would because you're not overwhelmed and overstimulated by all the other opportunities out there.

Jason Shelfer:

But, if you die or you end like you are unable to or you're incapacitated in some way and you haven't achieved that goal, that's where you're going to suffer major regret. All these thoughts of I never got in the ring, I never I could have been a contender Right, you know. But if you pick one and you say a contender, right, you know. But if you pick one and you say this is important to me right now, this is what I'm going to focus on, and all that overstimulation that we, that I, deal with.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm thinking of it right now Like it's a Okay. So then I guess that leads us to the next question. Maybe we should make this. Our next podcast is. I know we always say your soul knows, your soul knows, but I literally get stuck time and time again with I don't know. I don't know what that is, I don't know what I want to be when I grow up. I'm 50 years old. I'm going to be 50 this year. Yeah, so what?

Jason Shelfer:

do you want to be now old? I'm going to be 50 this year, yeah, so what do you want to be now or what do you want to be next?

Jana Shelfer:

Oh, that just reframed it slightly. I am married to a brilliant man. I just want to say that, okay, oversimulation, it's baby steps. It's baby steps, it's filtering, it's getting grounded.

Jason Shelfer:

And it's recognizing that you're dealing with it.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

Because so often we go through life and we don't recognize we're just being overstimulated and we haven't. We've lost a little bit of that focus. I love that you have the awareness around, like searching for what is it that I want, what is it that's next, and not just continuing to go through the motions like so many people do.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, thanks for joining us. Keep Living Lucky®. Bye-bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.