Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason and Jana Banana

The Beginner's Mindset When You're Not a Beginner

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 7 • Episode 65

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Are You Stuck in Your Comfort Zone? Unlock the Beginner's Mindset for Growth & Joy!

Ever feel like a seasoned pro facing a rookie situation? You're not alone! Join Jason & Jana Banana as they delve into the surprising power of the beginner's mindset, even for experienced individuals.

This episode is a goldmine for anyone seeking to:

  • Break free from limiting beliefs: Discover how to ditch the "know-it-all" attitude and embrace the thrill of learning, even in unfamiliar territory.
  • Boost your happiness and success: Learn how approaching life with curiosity and openness can unlock a world of unexpected opportunities and ignite your spirit.
  • Revamp stagnant skills: They'll show you how a beginner's mindset can breathe new life into existing skills and reignite your passion for growth.

Plus, you'll gain valuable insights on:

  • The delicate balance between confidence and openness: Learn how to maintain your expertise while remaining receptive to new ideas and approaches.
  • The teacher-student dynamic: Discover how fostering mutual understanding and respect can create powerful learning environments for everyone involved.
  • The transformative power of vulnerability: Embrace the power of stepping outside your comfort zone and showing up authentically, even when you feel like a newbie.

Ready to ditch the fear and unlock the joy of learning? Tune in and unleash the beginner's mindset within!

Keywords: self-help, personal development, limiting beliefs, mindset, positive thinking, beginner's mindset, growth mindset, learning agility, personal growth, success habits, happiness habits, personal transformation, Jana Shelfer, Jason Shelfer, Living Lucky, Living Lucky Podcast, Life Coach, Team USA, Olympics, Comedy School

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning. I'm Jana,

Jason Shelfer:

I'm Jason

Jana Shelfer:

and we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer:

You are, too

Jana Shelfer:

. I'm going to be a little vulnerable today and I'm going to tell you about our stand-up comedy class, because I've been getting into a pissing match with the instructor, and this is all happening subconsciously on both ends and I feel like sometimes I just need to remind myself to show up like a rookie. Wow.

Jason Shelfer:

That's big Right.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

But so I do the same thing, like just different areas of life.

Jana Shelfer:

Because there's this confidence that I have worked on now, for, I mean, I'm constantly trying to better myself, especially when it comes to speaking and the nuances of speaking, how to connect to an audience, how to articulate.

Jason Shelfer:

Tonality Relay my message.

Jana Shelfer:

How to tell stories. I mean not only, and you've done this for years. Not only have I done this professionally for 12 years, for four hours a day.

Jason Shelfer:

That's a lot of hours.

Jana Shelfer:

However, since then, I have dug deeper into thoughts, feelings, actions, how people operate, the psychology of limiting beliefs and life, and what makes you know like I've really, really.

Jason Shelfer:

You've also invested tens of thousands of dollars. If not, I don't want to go so deep to tell everybody how much we've invested To work with some of the best storytellers in the world. In the world.

Jana Shelfer:

And so now we're taking the stand-up comedy class and it feels like we're going back to the basics and sometimes my I just automatically skip some of these steps and it is driving the instructor mad, Like he literally is he like yesterday, A lot of pushback, he wouldn't even let me speak because I didn't do the assignment exactly the way he said. So he's like you can sit down now and we're going to go to the next person and I'm like what Really? I showed up. Like I showed up, I'm here, I did the assignment, I just my process has evolved. I'm like on a different level.

Jason Shelfer:

It's like if I'm a swimmer and I already know how to put my head underwater, I already know how to submerge myself in the water. Why are we going back to that step?

Jana Shelfer:

Now here's where Jana has to step back and say you know what I can learn from everybody, and sometimes we just need to show up like a rookie. We need to show up and sometimes we don't know everything. You know, like there's something inside us that's like I already know that. I already know how to tie my shoe. Why would I? No, it's kind of like math, you know, like division, I already know how to do division, so why would I learn this new way that everybody's doing?

Jason Shelfer:

it nowadays? Or why would I go back to learn something else just because we've added a couple more digits to the equation?

Jana Shelfer:

Because I don't even use division. And now we have computers and AI and calculators and when was the last time you actually even divided anything?

Jason Shelfer:

But then knowing that process and the way things are happening behind the screen is part of the process. It's part of the process and knowing that process and the way things are happening behind the screen is part of the process and understanding.

Jana Shelfer:

And knowing that, okay, there's more than one way of doing things and learning in a different way makes your brain think in a different way. So I guess what I'm trying to say is showing up like a rookie is so important when we are trying new things or stepping outside of our comfort zone.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, which is I hear you saying, showing up like I don't know at all, like just embracing the curiosity of it all. And that's oftentimes where we say I know, but I'm willing to grow Like just let it go. Just letting it, I sound like Dr Seuss or something.

Jana Shelfer:

No, but let it grow.

Jason Shelfer:

Let go what you know, so you can grow.

Jana Shelfer:

And here's, there is a fine line, because we've been told to know.

Jason Shelfer:

When you know, you know you know, have that internal knowing.

Jana Shelfer:

Have that confidence inside that you're already there yeah, you're act as if you're being what you're becoming and at the same time, it's a yes and and at the same time, come at it with curiosity. So literally I've been in a pissing match with this instructor. We've had three classes, all three classes. He has literally said something that has offended me.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, it's lent itself to the sound of who does she think she is? Yeah, it really has because I see it on the outside and that's a little bit of both parties not thinking like a rookie. So teachers can do this as well. They can make assumptions of no one knows anything, or they can make assumptions of let's just see what kind of ingredients are laid out in front of me.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah.

Jason Shelfer:

And then just kind of work with what we have, and it's about seeking first to understand and then you can be understood. So if the teacher can say, oh I see you're so far here, like you've made it, you've already experienced all these things, you to do is join me back here at the beginning and see what can, what can grow differently or how, how you can be more nourished by what some of the things that I have to offer and I also.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, but there's a way of doing that without saying what you have is is wrong because, what I have has really served me well and it has value because you've you've given it, you've created the value in it, in the, in your knowing. So I think what it is it's instead of a forcing like get in this room, it's an invitation to would you like to join me here?

Jana Shelfer:

Yes. And that an invitation, that's a small nuance, that it's a distinction that will change the energy, yeah, and when you invite someone then they can be.

Jason Shelfer:

I think they're more open to because if you accept the invitation, then you're more open to that curiosity, to that allowing yourself to say, hey, what could be the benefit of this invitation and how can we partner.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay, so let's go through some key points in how to think like a rookie, Because when you I mean think about this when you show up and you are excited and you are learning and you are curious, and when people give you tidbits or hacks or information, knowledge, you are so grateful and thankful and you just which makes them want to give you more, to be honest with you.

Jason Shelfer:

So that comes into like that, that's building a relationship. So that comes into like that, that's building a relationship.

Jana Shelfer:

And right now, where I'm at with this, with this comedy instructor, is he's given me information and there's something subconsciously that has been saying I already know that, like give me something better.

Jason Shelfer:

Well, and I so. I believe, just from an outside perspective, that some of that comes from is saying what you have doesn't, isn't valued, instead of just saying I love that you are already experienced in this. Does any of this help?

Jana Shelfer:

Yes, and see that changes everything.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes and see that changes everything.

Jana Shelfer:

And here's the thing is this is all happening without either one of us intentionally doing it, like I literally showed up to this class with the intention to learn.

Jason Shelfer:

That's why I signed up, and a great attitude were the ones that started the, the class group.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, and I even I mean, I made sure that I knew when the, the teacher, was performing, so that we could make it an effort to go watch him and support him and encourage him, like. So I felt like I was putting all of the right energy, but for some reason there was a clash somewhere in our just a disconnect.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, a clash, a disconnect. We were bumping heads, bumping a wall in this relationship bridge yeah, yes, and I am very, very aware of it.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm not sure that he is so.

Jason Shelfer:

The beautiful thing is is by questioning how can this be better or where might I make a change, You're leaning in again with curiosity and when you have those empowering questions because your ultimate goal is to make this work. So we've invested time, We've invested money. How do we get the return on investment here, and what is that going to take? All in a whole encompassing aspect. So I love the fact that you have the awareness of not like building the wall further.

Jana Shelfer:

Yeah, no, I wanted, because that doesn't serve either one of us and it doesn't serve the class either.

Jason Shelfer:

So often in life we don't have the awareness of hey, I'm a part of the equation, how can I help show up differently and create bigger bonds? And that's the whole thinking like a rookie, with experience of life and all the training that you've gone through, and I see you just kind of working this process so that everyone is lifted. And that's thinking like a rookie. Right, focus on learning.

Jana Shelfer:

Okay. So what are the keys of thinking like a rookie?

Jason Shelfer:

Well, it's to ask open-ended questions, seek first to understand. So a rookie walks in somewhere and they're like they're excited about it, but they don't know all the nuances, they don't know, like, everything that's going on. So it's asking open-ended questions so you can get deeper explanation and why is this important, and have the invitation to step further into the process, right, okay? And then I would say the second one is focus on just having an open mindset for learning. Right, it's a growth. I don't know it all A growth mindset. In fact, if I'm a rookie, I might not know any of it. So that's where sometimes it's hard to let go of that the things that we think we know and we can challenge some of our own assumptions about. I think I know this. Do I know it fully? Is it part of me, or am I doing some actions that I've just learned by reading?

Jana Shelfer:

So it's going back to the basics and it's learning things with fresh eyes so big and sometimes we just need to do that. And that doesn't mean that we let go of the confidence and the knowing of what we have learned throughout our life, because eventually we can do that, but in that moment let's just look at things with fresh eyes.

Jason Shelfer:

And in fact, I love what you just said, because that doesn't mean letting go of the confidence, doesn't mean letting go of your, your soulful knowing. What it means is you get to empower that by anything new you might nourish it with, and that's kind of big. Like I just had an aha moment from you, so that's wow. I I mean it happens all the time, you know this, but it's like it's.

Jana Shelfer:

It's beautiful to just for me to have the awareness because I can start looking for the areas where I'm actually facilitating the wall instead of facilitating the connection, which I think in the ultimate end of all this, when we are experiencing things like a rookie we do build a relationship with someone like we, build a deeper connection and and and you've demonstrated that in just changing the tonality, changing the energy, that will change the relationship Cause, right now we're butting heads and I have felt it in all three classes, all three classes that we've been to and I, seriously I've taken ownership and responsibility. In fact, in class two it the butt was so big that I was like I just need to excuse myself.

Jason Shelfer:

I need to excuse myself.

Jana Shelfer:

I need to excuse myself right now.

Jason Shelfer:

Right, and then I'm going to come back in it fresh and excited and renewed and try again, yeah, and I think that's big and at the end of all this, as we keep working through these nuances, there will be a strong relationship and someone that we that both ways. We're calling on each other to support each other in the path forward.

Jana Shelfer:

Awesome. I hope this helped someone out there. Don't be afraid to try new things because it's fun and it's exciting. It will inspire your soul and when you do show up like a rookie, that means show up with curiosity.

Jason Shelfer:

And at the end you'll find you're Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

Have a great day, bye-bye. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.