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Subconscious Saboteurs

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 7 • Episode 61

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Stuck in a cycle of negativity and wondering where the joy went? You're not alone! This episode of Living Lucky® with Jana and Jason Shelfer cracks the code to help you shift your perspective and unlock a life filled with happiness.

Here's what you'll get from this episode:

  • Break Free from Limiting Beliefs: Discover how reframing your thoughts with powerful questions like "What makes me happy?" can transform doubt into delight. (Goodbye negativity, hello sunshine!)
  • Find Humor in Unexpected Places: Even grief and loss can hold pockets of laughter and celebration. Learn how to embrace life's ups and downs with humor as your guide. (Laughter is the best medicine, after all!)
  • Unmask Your Saboteur: We all have them – those unconscious thoughts that hold us back. Recognize how these hidden conflicts can sabotage your joy and success in relationships. (It's time to confront your inner voice!)
  • The Power of Better Questions: Learn how the language you use and the questions you ask can dramatically impact your happiness. Shift from a mindset of lack to one of abundance and unlock a life filled with possibility. (It's all about perspective!)
  • The Importance of Connection: Join Jana and Jason as they share their own vulnerabilities and the power of community in overcoming challenges. You'll be inspired to connect with others and embark on your own path of transformation. (Together we rise!)

This episode is a treasure trove of actionable tips and inspiring stories to help you:

  • Overcome negativity and limiting beliefs
  • Cultivate a more positive mindset
  • Find joy in unexpected places
  • Build stronger relationships
  • Live a life filled with laughter and fulfillment

Ready to ditch the negativity and attract abundance? Tune in to Living Lucky® and get ready to unlock your inner joy!

Keywords: self-help, personal development, limiting beliefs, mindset, positive thinking, happiness, laughter, perspective, abundance, relationships, transformation, Jana Shelfer, Jason Shelfer, Awareness

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*Previously Recorded

Jana Shelfer:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start Living Lucky®. Good morning, I'm Jana,

Jason Shelfer:

I'm Jason

Jana Shelfer:

and we are Living Lucky®.

Jason Shelfer:

You are too.

Jana Shelfer:

We often say if you want a better life, ask better questions, and this morning we have been reminding ourselves to ask the question what is it that we want? So many times we live in this fear, doubt, uncertainty. It's all of the things that we don't want. We start manifesting our insecurities.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, and we find like, even if we're not aware that we're thinking what do I not like? What is it that I don't want? We feel like I'm getting all these things that I don't want. Why can't I get what I want?

Jana Shelfer:

And again just asking that question. You're using the word can't.

Jason Shelfer:

Right. So when you say, why can't I get what I want, then you start your brain will start answering that question and start telling you because you're not enough, because you don't fit in, because of all these things.

Jana Shelfer:

So I have been falling into this trap and I'm just going to be very vulnerable right now. Well, I think we all are. I have been wanting joy. I have been wanting joy, happiness and laughter for, I would say, several years now, and I often find myself even if it's in my subconscious mind, I often find myself asking the question why am I not happy? I have everything I could possibly want.

Jason Shelfer:

Why can't I find something to laugh at? Why can't I find that?

Jana Shelfer:

laughter. Why am I not laughing? Why am I not feeling just over the moon excited?

Jason Shelfer:

And a lot of times what happens in that situation is is we, just we? We drop that question out like it's a suitcase at the airport and we think, okay, the suitcase is going to travel on its own, well. But what happens is is our subconscious mind is constantly making like it's, it's pulling the suitcase, saying, well, this is why you can't find it, this is why you don't have it, this is why this gives you all these reasons, and I love what you said this morning about what do I want?

Jana Shelfer:

So the better question is what makes me happy? How is this making me happy?

Jason Shelfer:

How can I find happiness in this?

Jana Shelfer:

How can I find happiness in this? How can I find happiness in this? How can I find?

Jason Shelfer:

laughter in this, because it's always there, like it's there in every. I would submit that it's there in every situation. All the things that we ever want are in every situation. It might be on the flip side of what we're our thermostatic expression, thermostatic.

Jana Shelfer:

That's a crazy word.

Jason Shelfer:

How we train ourselves to look at a situation and the meanings that we put on that situation. So, like I think about, I've been to we've been to a lot of funerals this year, or I feel like we had. There's been a lot.

Jason Shelfer:

And during COVID, I felt like that we were losing people, however. So then you think about sadness, that I'm getting sadness, I'm getting loss, but you also on the flip side of all. That is the funny and the fun and the experience of life. That's why they call it a celebration of life. When you have it is because you're trying to remind people of all these things.

Jana Shelfer:

Wait, are you trying to be funny? Because I literally just said I want to talk about joy, laughter and happiness and he brings up the most macabre topic you possibly could talk about.

Jason Shelfer:

Because I think, on the flip side of it, when people have been alive, they may be gone now, but they added to the world in a way that had funny, had laughter. It's always on the backside of something.

Jana Shelfer:

I'm so happy.

Jason Shelfer:

People like me.

Jana Shelfer:

I like to talk about death because it makes me laugh, oh. God, that's what you're doing I literally said Look what I did. I said I literally said okay, so this is where sometimes, this is where our subconscious, our subconscious mind takes us In the opposite direction. So I literally was saying I want more laughter, more happiness, and Jason starts talking about death and grief. So it feels like we have conflicts within us. We have conflicts within us right.

Jason Shelfer:

Yes, everybody does.

Jana Shelfer:

And there is a saboteur.

Jason Shelfer:

Whether you know it or not. If you're not aware of it, you just haven't been, it hasn't come to your attention yet, and it will.

Jana Shelfer:

I sometimes think that you and I sabotage each other Because I realize this about us and we do it subconsciously and we don't need to Like. I literally want the best for you.

Jason Shelfer:

I do like. I literally want the best for you. I literally want the best for you and yet there's times when you take conversations into the death pool right, and I do the same thing.

Jana Shelfer:

When we start talking about abundance and when you start really having success and things, I automatically start. It's like we're attached by a rubber band and when Jason starts going in one direction, I just subconsciously start bringing it in another direction and it literally goes. It comes back to these two topics. I want funny and laughter and, just like what happened a minute ago, jason will automatically start talking about these really heavy topics. We've done this on stage, we've done this in front of people and I don't. I'm like what it's like watch this show.

Jana Shelfer:

Are you not hearing what I just said? And the same thing happens in the reverse direction. When Jason starts feeling like success is happening, he starts feeling abundant, he starts starts feeling he gets like this little pep in his step and I automatically start talking about bills that need to be paid and how, like I start talking about what I'm not, I start living in lack. Do you, do you?

Jason Shelfer:

feel this between us and I see it.

Jana Shelfer:

So okay, now that we're aware of it, thank you, audience, for being our life coaches, our sounding board and helping us realize our blind spots, because that's what life is really about. We're here to connect and help one another, and you have no idea how much you're helping us, and hopefully it goes both ways. But do you realize what we do?

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, I do. In fact, it just gave me chills because there was that awareness in me that said hey, that's exactly like if I was to look at this objectively, that's exactly what's happening or has happened.

Jana Shelfer:

And okay. So now that we are aware of it, we're walking you through the process of how we live lucky. So now that we are aware of this, it's almost like learning to talk subconscious.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, it's a different language, because we're not used to talking subconscious.

Jana Shelfer:

We all have these inner conflicts, and so now it literally comes back to how is this serving us? How is me living in lack, or me talking about what we don't have or what's not coming our?

Jason Shelfer:

way needs to be fixed? What?

Jana Shelfer:

needs to be fixed. Yeah, with our business and our, our finances and our yeah, our landscape. I'm always talking about what we need to do with our, our dock and our landscaping and, without realizing it consciously, I'm dimming your spirit well, it's, it's just it puts it, slows the train down right, which I do the same thing, yeah, but I mean I'm, I know that you't.

Jason Shelfer:

I don't mean to do it, but I am dimming your Well, and I think that we often do this in conversations with our friends, like it's one of these things that is a constant thing. It's the language that we use, because that's the language we were brought up with. It's loosely connected or heavily connected to our beliefs that even aren't in the forefront of our mind, they're just somewhere in the back. So that language that we're using, the questions that we're asking, the statements that we're making, that create questions in the person around us.

Jana Shelfer:

And you know what you just brought. I'm having another aha moment because there's something in my identity where I've always grown up being the abundant one.

Jason Shelfer:

Yeah, we have enough. And.

Jana Shelfer:

Jason in his identity has always grown up being the funny one.

Jason Shelfer:

So funny.

Jana Shelfer:

So what's so crazy is Jana? Okay, I'm like talking now in third person because I am having such I already have the thing that you want.

Jason Shelfer:

You already have the thing that you want. So it's like hey, jason, you're going down that train track. You don't need to, because we have. We have everything, we are abundant, We've got enough and. I'm saying you don't need to be funny because I'm funny, I've already got it.

Jana Shelfer:

So really, what our subconscious is telling the other person is I want you to need me.

Jason Shelfer:

Hmm.

Jana Shelfer:

I just want to feel loved.

Jason Shelfer:

And I want to feel. I want to feel worthy by having like being a part of your funny. Or I want to feel loved and I want to feel worthy by having like being a part of your funny. Or I want to be worthy by being part of your abundance and you want to feel worthy being part of my funny.

Jana Shelfer:

If this is making sense to anyone, jason and I, I see light bulbs above our heads, so and that's.

Jason Shelfer:

That's one of the things I think when we like a lot of times in a relationship, people get in arguments about these things because they, they they play on the surface of the water. I mean, that's where the cannons get fired. And I get in my mind right now, because I'm a metaphorical person, I'm thinking submarines shooting torpedoes at each other. So same thing, but there's there's a lot more calm under the sea than there is with the waves on top of the other so same thing, but there's, there's a lot more calm under the sea than there is with the waves on top of the sea.

Jason Shelfer:

And in an argument, a lot of times we don't have the bandwidth to dial back and start asking better questions about what is it that we're really looking for in this argument, you know?

Jana Shelfer:

And what is serving me by taking the stand?

Jason Shelfer:

Planting my feet and being like I am immovable from here. You come to me, because that's a lot of times what happens, and it's just about wanting to be heard and seen and understood.

Jana Shelfer:

And loved, and loved and needed.

Jason Shelfer:

And being more connected.

Jana Shelfer:

Than we already are.

Jason Shelfer:

And so think about that, Like you mentioned earlier, the rubber band, Like we want to be more connected. That's why we're arguing. But when we argue we're stretching that rubber band until possible breaking. And it's when we come back and start understanding and loving each other fully that rubber band is kind of relaxed and builds this union that becomes unbreakable the more you do it.

Jana Shelfer:

Oh my gosh, thank you. Thank you for being our coach today, our people, our people, our sounding board. Thank you for pointing out the blind spots in us. Again, I hope this helped anyone out there as much as it has helped me.

Jason Shelfer:

So thank you.

Jana Shelfer:

Thank you Jason, thank you Jana.

Jason Shelfer:

We are Living Lucky®.

Jana Shelfer:

We really are. Have a great day. Bye-bye, see you soon. If the idea of Living Lucky® appeals to you, visit us at www. LivingLucky. com.