The Compounding Effect of Journaling: Living Lucky

Tired of the relentless cycle of negativity? It's time to change gears and ascend the staircase of success! Welcome to "Living Lucky" with Jason and Jana, your self-development enthusiasts. In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of journaling and its profound impact on reshaping your mindset. Join us as we explore Jason's inspiring journey, coaching the coaches at Mindvalley, and how journaling played a pivotal role in conquering those persistent negative thought patterns.

But what's the real key to consistent growth and transformation? Believe it or not, it's all about consistency itself! In the latter half of this episode, we take an in-depth look at the significance of setting achievable goals and progressing, one step at a time. Discover how journaling can help you not only redefine your beliefs but also gain a profound understanding of your thoughts, ultimately leading to a life overflowing with good fortune. If you've been grappling with maintaining momentum in your self-improvement journey, this episode is your lifeline.

Let's navigate this path of transformation together, hand in hand, one small step at a time. It's time to embrace consistency, self-reflection, and the art of journaling to embark on your journey of living lucky.

We're here to help you. Reach out to us at LivingLucky.com.

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Transcript

Journaling and Overcoming Resistance

Speaker 1 0:00

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky. I'm Ahhhh. How many times have we done this?

Speaker 2 0:20

It's over 700.

Speaker 1 0:22

Good morning. I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are living lucky. We hope you are too. You know it goes along with what we're talking about today. We know what to do, we just don't always do it.

Speaker 2 0:36

Yeah, we know what we do. We don't always do what we know.

Speaker 1 0:38

How many self-development courses have you taken? How many times have you? How many times have you enlisted a personal trainer?

Speaker 2 0:50

Sign up for the gym.

Speaker 1 0:52

They tell you exactly what exercises to do, they tell you what to eat. You have the books, you know what to do, but you don't do it. Yeah.

Speaker 2 1:02

I mean, just on a daily basis. We have these little aha moments, and we did an episode a couple days back, or a couple episodes back, about glimmers, and so we had these aha moments that remind us what to do oh yeah, oh yeah, that's the answer.

Speaker 1 1:17

That's gonna be the game changer.

Speaker 2 1:18

That's the answer. But by the time we get through it with the drive, or get through it with the walk, or get through it with the conversation or with whatever's happening in time, Aha moment, the Eureka moment. Yeah, and then it just glimmers away.

Speaker 1 1:32

And then it's the implementation.

Speaker 2 1:36

That's really what we're talking about Insisting implementation.

Speaker 1 1:39

Implementation and then consistency, because we don't see results immediately, and so we need to continuously show up and continuously implement the information, and therefore we have to step into faith or the belief that it is working, even when we have no proof that it is.

Speaker 2 2:07

Yeah, it's kind of like just having great concept and theory behind the compounding effect and knowing that if this is something that makes me better, if I continue to do it, even a little bit at a time, over time it will become part of my identity and I will be that better person.

Speaker 1 2:24

So the example we're using today is journaling, and the reason we're using this is because it started out. Jason is now. I'm so proud of you. I am going to brag about you real quickly, but Jason is now coaching the coaches on Mindvalley, which is it's super exciting it is such an achievement.

Speaker 1 2:49

It's an honor. It is an honor. So he is now coaching all of the people who want to be coaches. Jason is now coach Jason and teaching people how to become coaches, which is, ah, that is just awesome. At any rate, you had someone in your cohort ask you the question.

Speaker 2 3:11

She was just, she was kind of talking about that her. She had this, these runaway thoughts, and a lot of times we have these runaway thoughts and if we keep them inside of us it just just continued to run away. I think that there's only this eight inches between your ears, but that area is vast when it comes to thoughts and it will wrap around and get tangled in and sooner or later if it's a negative thought, if you keep allowing it to ricochet around in there and expand, it'll kind of turn into like a tumor and attach itself to you.

Speaker 1 3:42

It starts to ruminate, and that's where your issues.

Speaker 2 3:45

It becomes your tissues.

Speaker 1 3:46

It becomes almost like a record player that skips over and, over and over, and the more that it skips, the deeper those grooves start to.

Speaker 2 4:00

Yeah, it's neuro conditioning.

Speaker 1 4:01

Yes, and it's actually called neuroplasticity, and those grooves actually go deeper and deeper into our brains and then they become harder and harder to break. Those beliefs become harder and harder to reframe, or overcome.

Speaker 2 4:20

Imagine it's like a trail through the woods. You keep walking that trail over and over and over again. Sooner or later the grass just says I'm not growing here anymore because you've worn me down. And this is what it is now I'm just dirt.

Speaker 1 4:33

I'm a trail. I'm a dirt trail.

Speaker 2 4:35

I've changed from a grassy meadow or a grassy area between trees. Now I'm a trail, so I change my identity.

Speaker 1 4:42

Until it starts to rain. And then that trail becomes mud and someone comes along and says you know what? I can't go there because I'm going to get stuck. And so then someone says I'm going to think differently and I'm going to go a little bit outside the trail. And then that's when other people start thinking, oh well, maybe I can go that way too. And then they start thinking differently as well.

Speaker 2 5:08

Yeah, so we talked about journaling because one of these thoughts, just kind of she got blown out really is what happened, and all these thoughts were running, crazy ended up taking it out on one of her kids. You know, not like harsh, but not like beating her kid up, let's don't call social services.

Speaker 2 5:27

It's one of those things where it's like I didn't act the way I wanted to act, or I didn't respond to my child the way I wanted to respond, and that that I felt that in my heart and she wanted to respond better in those situations. So the idea was to just OK, well, let's get some of these thoughts out on paper, right? Because while they're ricocheting around in your brain, you don't get, you don't have a harness on them, you don't get to lead them where you want them to go. And if you, if you're forced to write them out and a lot of people want to type them out or text them out in their notes app or whatever, I'm a right, I like to hand write it out with a pen. So I literally see my physical hand. It's almost like they're leaving the body that way.

Speaker 1 6:08

And actually there's. There is scientific research of the hand and the mind. There's that connection there is a connection there. So when you hand write your thoughts, it does help them. It allows it Exit the body a little bit better.

Speaker 2 6:24

And it allows you to get it organized, because it comes out more organized on paper. Even if you're just like free, free thinking, it still comes out in a little bit more organized fashion and then you can kind of process it. It's kind of like with the emotions If you can name it, you can tame it. You got to feel it to heal it. Well, if you can get it into a sentence, jason's quite the rhymer.

Speaker 1 6:48

I'm a poet and didn't know it Right. He's like Dr Seuss over here.

Speaker 2 6:54

So if we can get it in a fluid sentence or just out on paper, we can see it and things that you can see are a lot easier to process and mitigate.

Speaker 1 7:05

Mm, hmm, oh, that's so good, that is so good. And the thing is is we know that we should journal. We know that it helps us get things out of our minds, out of our, it helps us clear our hearts, it helps us express our souls, it helps us get our subconscious so that it actually helps communicate with our subconscious things that we didn't even know we were thinking.

Speaker 2 7:34

And that's a way to see your growth like literally on paper.

Speaker 1 7:36

Yeah, and yet there's times when I know for myself. I'm like, oh, I'm feeling, I don't know what I'm feeling. I don't know what I'm feeling. And yet if I just go over to my art room, grab my journal and start writing, it would come out.

Speaker 2 7:55

Isn't it amazing though.

Speaker 1 7:56

Because I watch you do this. It would come out.

Speaker 2 7:58

And I watch it come out and then I'm like, wow, and you actually come out of the room a different person too.

Speaker 1 8:03

I do, I always do.

Speaker 2 8:05

So we know what to do and we don't often do what we know. I mean, you've mentioned it several times and a couple other people have said we know how to get rich, we know how to get skinny or be healthy, we know how to have good relationships, but we fight it sometimes and get in our way.

Speaker 1 8:24

I think there's somewhat of a sabotage there, and then that comes down to why is it serving us to stay in this Frenzy chaos? Yes, why.

Speaker 2 8:41

What excuse does it?

Speaker 1 8:42

give us? What excuse does it give us If we are just a few pounds overweight? What is that serving us If we do lose those? It's almost shielding us. It's shielding us because if we lose those extra pounds of weight, then what excuse are we going to have? More people are going to get me. What excuse are we going to have if we aren't successful? We don't have an excuse to say oh well, it's because I'm a couple pounds overweight.

Speaker 2 9:14

I was five pounds lighter, I would have gotten a job.

Speaker 1 9:16

They don't like me because I'm a couple pounds overweight. I'm not pretty enough because I'm a couple pounds overweight. It's like a cop out in a way.

Speaker 2 9:25

It sometimes gives you that thing that you can tell your friends. Oh, it's something I'm working on Well you're not really. It might be that you've gotten to your comfort zone of the level of work you're going to put in.

Speaker 1 9:37

Yeah, and you're like this is it.

Speaker 2 9:40

This is what I'm going to do. And then when you get in that comfort zone, that's when the compounding effect has the reverse effect on you.

Speaker 1 9:47

We know what to do. The question is to ask yourself why am I not doing it?

Speaker 2 9:55

We had this conversation the other day about me contacting my family like just on the phone. I don't like phones.

Speaker 1 10:05

Oh, Jason.

Speaker 2 10:06

See, that's a statement that's not really true. Because I love phones but I don't like dialing out and I think it comes from even though I knew that it created business for me in sales like I had to do 150 calls every week, like twice a week, to set appointments, and so I don't like calling for leisure, like for pleasure, for things like that. Like I don't pick up the phone and just call someone and say how you doing? Like it's not my go to to get in the car and dial someone to talk, to have that conversation.

Speaker 1 10:38

I'm going to challenge you. I know I'm going to challenge you on that because I feel like you are. There's some emotional discourse there. You're mixing some signals there.

Speaker 2 10:53

It's not congruent. And we've talked about how our lives are going to be in 15, 20 years and what that looks like, what it feels like. And we were talking yesterday about my emotional well-being, knowing that I have not had communication, good communication with my family, and what that will feel like in 20 years. And I was like I know and it's hard because I think I know what I need to be doing, I'm just not doing it. And you said I'll stand next to you and dial the phone if that's what it takes, but you're going to start changing your habit?

Speaker 1 11:27

I'm just curious. I am just curious because what is happening on the surface is never what's happening. So do you mind if we just go?

Speaker 2 11:35

here and quickly. You're real, we can do it, and I know what it is, so why haven't you contacted your family?

Speaker 2 11:43

Because it's about feeling like I'm being judged, like I'm being questioned. So I hid a lot from my mom when I was growing up. I smoked in high school and that was a huge no. That's not something you're supposed to do. So every time I would come home, from anywhere I know, they smelled smoke on me. Now that I'm old enough to realize that you can smell smoke from a mile away and I would get 100 questions when were you, what were you doing? And it felt like an interrogation. So now almost any question just as simple as how are things if it's followed by a second question, sounds like an interrogation. And I know it's not, it's just love, but it's like I just need to work myself through it.

Speaker 1 12:30

So why do you think they would Interrogate you now?

Speaker 2 12:35

wouldn't, they wouldn't, and that's the thing. It's just, it's a. It's a weird thing and because we all live apart, they spend more time together, like my sister and my parents spend more time together. Like I get to hear all about what they're doing if I do call and it's and I'm like well, what about what I'm doing? So is that interesting? Or, and see in, that involves asking the question. So there, I want them to ask the questions and I don't. It's a weird jacked up thing and it's in. That's where my blind spot is. And when you pointed out the other day, I was like, isn't that interesting? Yeah, because it's something that needs to get fixed, or I don't get to meet my future self who's in this whole aura of feeling, because that that part will really be detracting from that, that experience that I want to if you didn't catch that, what Jason just said is he doesn't like it when his family ask him questions, and then yet at the same time questions he's like why aren't they taking an interest in me?

Speaker 1 13:44

why aren't they asking me questions?

Speaker 2 13:47

I don't want to be around people. Why don't people want to be around?

Speaker 1 13:50

yes, which which he's laughing, because when I was depressed, that's exactly what I kept saying is I don't want to be around people.

Speaker 2 14:01

Why does anyone care about me?

Speaker 1 14:02

yes, I feel so lonely. Why doesn't anybody want to be around me? Which is just so funny.

Speaker 2 14:08

It was like it was the exact I was contradicting myself sometimes we don't know where that spot is like until someone pokes the bear. And yesterday you poke the bear and it was like, wow, that's where it is. Because we don't think about it, it's not the front of our mind.

Implementing Consistency

Speaker 2 14:24

Yeah, it does come up, like around birthdays, and if I forget a birthday, god forbid. I'm like, oh god, I'm the horrible son. And I think back well, I haven't called in the last six months, three months, yeah, and I'm like, gosh, I want to get. What I say in my head is I want to get better and I make a plan. Like you saw, I had it, like I had the calendar buffed out with all these Call mom, call dad.

Speaker 1 14:51

I actually asked him to take out those reminders because they popped up every day. They're like Call Robert, call this person. So there's a lesson.

Speaker 2 15:00

So I probably what I did, because I went back to my old routines of adding things, because this is such a stressful situation for me, so I wanted full immersion and I should have just eased myself in Like baby stuff. Yeah, it's like a let's just get a little bit better. I don't have to go, I don't have to you don't have to go wild overnight. Let's get a little bit better what?

Speaker 2 15:23

I call once a month and I make it intentional about that and then I can do it every three weeks but kind of work myself into it like I'm not tying double knots and in all these sailors, not some shoes right off the bat, right? I don't have to be like okay.

Speaker 1 15:42

Well, the lesson today is we know what we need to do, so why aren't we doing it? That's the question to ask ourselves.

Speaker 2 15:51

It's all about implementation and consistency consistency and you'll be right on your way to live in lucky.

Speaker 1 16:01

And I'm gonna go journal right now. That's what I'm gonna do. All right, thanks for joining us. Start living lucky by guys. If the idea of living lucky appeals to you, visit us at startlivingluckycom.