Living Lucky® Podcast with Jason and Jana Banana

Gift Comparisonitis: Navigating the Complexities of Gift Exchanges

Jana and Jason Shelfer Season 5 Episode 64

Delve into the tangled world of 'gift comparisonitis' with Jana and Jason on Living Lucky, as they unravel the intricate web of emotions surrounding the act of giving and receiving. In this candid and entertaining conversation, join them in exploring the pressures, anxieties, and even embarrassing moments linked to the ritual of exchanging gifts.

From dissecting the competitive nature of gift-giving to sharing personal encounters with the 'white elephant' game, this episode reveals the unspoken complexities we face when offering and receiving gifts. Laugh along as they candidly discuss the underlying pressure to react 'appropriately' when receiving presents, the silent competition in gift exchanges, and the inadvertent feelings of inadequacy triggered by extravagant gifts.

The duo fearlessly exposes their own 'gift comparisonitis' moments, sharing anecdotes that resonate with the often-unspoken struggles many face during celebrations. Moreover, they shed light on the societal norms that dictate our behaviors during gift exchanges, balancing the joy and stress intertwined in these social rituals.

Discover insights on navigating the emotional dynamics of gift-giving, redefining the meaning behind receiving, and embracing gratitude beyond the materialistic aspect. This episode isn't just about laughter and relatable stories—it's a heartfelt conversation that aims to redefine the essence of giving and receiving.

Join Jana and Jason as they invite you into their world, offering an authentic and light-hearted take on an often-overlooked aspect of our social lives. Be entertained, enlightened, and possibly find new perspectives on your approach to future gift exchanges. Tune in to Living Lucky and embark on a journey to navigate the art of giving and receiving with humor, insight, and a sprinkle of self-reflection.

Visit www.LivingLucky.com to explore more about living a fortunate life and join the community dedicated to embracing gratitude beyond gifting.

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*Previously Recorded

Speaker 1:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky. Good morning, I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are living lucky. We're talking about receiving today.

Speaker 2:

Give it to me, give it to me, give it to me.

Speaker 1:

We talked about on the last podcast about fake emotions when we're receiving and the pressure of, oh my gosh, because someone.

Speaker 2:

That's the best thing I've ever received.

Speaker 1:

Now, I don't want you to think that I'm fake-emotion-ing.

Speaker 2:

Ungrateful.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I don't want people to think that Is that a verb?

Speaker 2:

Fake-emotion-ing yeah, that's an actual word.

Speaker 1:

I don't think it is, but I don't want people to think that that's what I do. Here's the thing is I don't want to hurt people's feelings Like I am so grateful that they have thought about giving me a gift and I want them to know that.

Speaker 2:

I appreciate the effort.

Speaker 1:

Yes. However, I don't like being stared at, and you know like having an expectation of. Do you like?

Speaker 2:

it.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, having that expectation of the audience Right Of opening the gift, all these and the reason that I think they do that is because I do that yeah.

Speaker 2:

You get what you are.

Speaker 1:

I'm such a complex human.

Speaker 2:

That's funny. Well, so when people exchange gifts, one of the thoughts that we put behind it is is my gift going to be better than what they give me?

Speaker 1:

You think that? I never thought that. Oh, you're full of it.

Speaker 2:

You're full of it, Shepard I don't think that I don't have.

Speaker 1:

I do not have gift compared, compared eyes Compared to Sinaitis. Compared to Sinaitis.

Speaker 2:

Well.

Speaker 1:

You do obviously.

Speaker 2:

I have.

Speaker 1:

You make it a competition I have so what if how? Dare you. So what if?

Speaker 2:

someone gives you a very extravagant gift.

Speaker 1:

Oh, that makes me feel badly.

Speaker 2:

And then your gift was a picked flower from a field.

Speaker 1:

Oh, and mine's crappy. I have felt that before.

Speaker 2:

So there you go. Compared to Sinaitis.

Speaker 1:

One time I went to Angie Ritterbush's birthday party and my mom for some reason got her a pair of socks.

Speaker 2:

Tight gift.

Speaker 1:

And I was like I can't.

Speaker 2:

Santa brings those to me, I can't give her a pair of socks.

Speaker 1:

That's a crappy gift to take to a birthday party.

Speaker 2:

It could have been underwear. There's nothing like showing up to a 12-year-old underwear, 12-year-old birthday party and giving underwear.

Speaker 1:

And so, at the last minute, I'm like I have to go up to Duckwalls and buy her something else. Well, that's the only store that we had in Belleville at that time, and so I ended up buying these rocks that you put them in water and they become like fish tank coral.

Speaker 2:

Nice, they just grow in water she looked at me and was like I don't have a fish tank, I don't know what you're buying.

Speaker 1:

I'd rather have a pair of socks.

Speaker 2:

Put those in her sock and use them like David, slay and Goliath.

Speaker 1:

Sock and a rock. Rock and a sock.

Speaker 2:

So we do have gift comparisonitis.

Speaker 1:

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 2:

We just sometimes don't recognize it. I'm so embarrassed.

Speaker 1:

I'm so embarrassed, see, maybe this is why I don't like the whole gift exchange at all. And here's another thing Okay, so that whole white elephant gift exchange where people put, they put crappy gifts in there on purpose.

Speaker 2:

It might be a crappy gift, it might be a joke gift, it might be a serious gift. You never know what you're going to get.

Speaker 1:

Well, here's the thing is that people put crappy gifts in there or joke gifts, and then the one person who does put a nice, serious gift, like for example someone who sews a pillow or actually makes something, puts effort or artwork of their own in there, and then someone trades it and you're like how dare they, how dare they trade that?

Speaker 2:

I worked 16 hours on that.

Speaker 1:

More than that, like you can, my heart and soul was in that see, I have. I have a beer yacht, see right. No, they traded it for for champagne bubble bath.

Speaker 2:

Disgusting Get stuck in my throat. I have.

Speaker 1:

I have trauma from gift-giving.

Speaker 2:

I'm just gonna be real, there is trauma so what if we just got very authentic and we're grateful for the gift or the giving of the gift instead of the gift itself? Well, because I don't feel stop putting so much meaning behind.

Speaker 1:

I don't feel people give gifts out of authenticity. I feel like people give gifts out of obligation and. So I I mean I see what you're saying, but it's not like we're the wise men taking frankincense.

Speaker 2:

Mer and. Gold, frankincense and Mer.

Speaker 1:

Wow, yeah, I don't know. Maybe I need to revisit and do some work on just the act of receiving. Maybe I do need to do that, it could. It kind of goes back to you know, we talk about the just receiving in general. Yeah and I've always thought that I was really great at receiving. For example, I know that when we're at church and someone has a nice dress and I'll say, hey, you know, I really like that dress and they're like oh, this whole thing.

Speaker 2:

I got this on sale yeah this is just a hand me down. Yeah right, I've had this for years for 12 years and they're, you know, like.

Speaker 1:

They come up with an excuse or they diminish it in some way, and you and I have talked about this before. I think, oh my gosh, they just need to receive the compliment people can't Receive thank you so much.

Speaker 2:

I picked this dress out because it makes me feel beautiful, it makes me feel wonderful, I feel special and I've always thought that I am very, very gifted at receiving.

Speaker 1:

I mean no pun intended there, but I've always been like, when people give me a compliment, I'm like thank you, thank you, that makes me feel great.

Speaker 2:

I appreciate you noticing and then you reciprocate with a very Genuine compliment yourself and you actually find that compliment, or sometimes I just tell them why that made me feel so Wonderful that they noticed.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, you know, sometimes it's even more about me. Hey, let's just talk about me.

Speaker 2:

Let's talk about me.

Speaker 1:

But now you've just, you've just plucked an issue that I didn't even realize I had that's what I'm here for.

Speaker 2:

Let me bring up issues that we don't even know we have, but Thanks that's how we get better, and that's how we recognize where we can work on ourselves a little bit.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I know, but I feel like I'm working out myself all the time. And before we press record, I I do kind of think that Maybe at some point we just need to say let's just have fun, yeah, let's just stop.

Speaker 2:

and Stop, collaborate and listen.

Speaker 1:

Okay, Jason's really into the songs right now.

Speaker 2:

Well, yeah, so if we just pause for a minute and realize that we're okay where we are, yeah, I mean, I'm tired of picking the picking.

Speaker 1:

I love it Do you remember when you were picking your neck?

Speaker 2:

and picking your skin, trying to get out of my body.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, sometimes I feel like maybe it's picking a little bit, picking, picking, picking and and it feels a little you know what. Let's just, let's stop, let's stop and and maybe have a little more fun.

Speaker 2:

Amen to that. I Haven't more fun.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, anyway, so receiving any more thoughts on receiving?

Speaker 2:

Well, let's receive more fun, let's receive more enjoyment, let's receive more, and these are gifts that we can give ourselves.

Speaker 1:

That's good. That's really good. I like that. Thanks for joining us. We, we receive it.

Speaker 2:

Hope you're receiving this.

Speaker 1:

I hope everyone that is listening is living lucky just like we are. Have a great day. We'll talk to you next time. Bye, bye. If the idea of living lucky appeals to you, visit us at start. Living lucky comm.