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Relax & Revive: Redefining Success through Self-Care

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 5 • Episode 60

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Join Jana and Jason Shelfer on 'Living Lucky,' a groundbreaking podcast episode that challenges the norms around relaxation, self-care, and productivity. In this candid conversation, the duo shares intimate experiences and insightful revelations about the vital importance of rest and rejuvenation in today's fast-paced world.

With a blend of personal anecdotes and eye-opening discussions, Jana and Jason unravel the struggle between productivity and relaxation that many face. From guilt-laden moments to societal pressures, they dig deep into the reasons behind our reluctance to give ourselves permission to rest. Unveiling the hidden impact of relentless work and the subsequent need for downtime, this episode disrupts the notion that relentless productivity equates to success.

By dismantling stereotypes and shedding light on the necessity of self-care, the Shelfers offer practical strategies to establish healthy boundaries and embrace relaxation without guilt. They explore the subconscious barriers that inhibit true relaxation and provide valuable insights into listening to your body's cues.

Discover the transformative power of giving yourself permission to unwind, the intricacies of achieving a healthy work-life balance, and the surprising revelations about successful people and their relationship with rest. This episode serves as a guiding light, encouraging listeners to redefine their attitudes towards rest, rejuvenation, and overall well-being.

Tune in to 'Living Lucky' and embark on a journey to reshape your understanding of relaxation and productivity. Embrace a lifestyle where rest is not a luxury but an essential component for a fulfilling and balanced life. Get ready to redefine your relationship with relaxation and recharge your perspective.

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*Previously Recorded

Speaker 1:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky.

Speaker 2:

Good morning.

Speaker 1:

I'm Jana, I'm Jason and we are living lucky. Jason, do you have?

Speaker 2:

a cold. Yeah, something has creeped up on me and given me the crud.

Speaker 1:

Ah, creeped up on you or creeped in you. Oh that sounds pretty cool.

Speaker 2:

Ah, I feel like my face is just packed full of stuff.

Speaker 1:

You look like your face is falling off.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it's, my eyes are burning a little bit and my sinus cavity just feels full of nastiness.

Speaker 1:

Do you hear yourself?

Speaker 2:

I don't. I can't hear much.

Speaker 1:

Ah. So to fill everyone in, jason texted me this morning and he says I went to sleep at 11 and then I got up at 2.40 to text you. And so I'm thinking, oh, he only got three hours of sleep last night. That's what I'm thinking, okay. And then I go through my day thinking, oh, you know, he didn't have a very good night's sleep. He actually went to bed at 11 AM and you slept through the day. You missed your entire conference that you were supposed to go to.

Speaker 2:

That you were supposed to facilitate 2.40 in the afternoon. Yeah, they covered it. They covered it and I don't feel guilty, because I watched the text screen or I checked my text screen and it was okay. I'm sharing a hotel room with a guy from Canada and he obviously let him know everything.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I mean, they know that you're there, you had checked in, they've said hello to you, you've had your introductions and everything.

Speaker 2:

And you literally went to your hotel room and said gosh, I've had, you know, because the week before you were in Dallas at another mastermind event, I tell you when you come, when you spend two solid weeks work like in a high state and that first week was Tony Robbins of 15 hour days yes, Jumping down and just giving it all you've got and then there's like a two day cooling off period. It's like your body reacts to that. Your body went down.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I wasn't prepared for it. It's like I ran the engine so hard for four or five days straight. It was like no more no more. I need a break. You're 51 years old. Give me a break. Break me off a piece of that. Kit Kat bar.

Speaker 1:

Break me off a piece of that Kit Kat bar. I was like I've got this.

Speaker 2:

But today or last night I was like I did not get out of bed.

Speaker 1:

I don't have this. I've got this. I've got this. I don't got this. That's good. Oh, jason, I'm so sorry.

Speaker 2:

I've been hydrating and just kind of. I just called under the covers and I didn't even turn the TV on. Just slept.

Speaker 1:

So I guess our topic today is giving yourself permission to really relax, recharge, rest and recuperate.

Speaker 1:

Because, our bodies need that. And before we press record, I was telling Jason that since he's been gone, I get up and meditate and then I actually have been sneaking back into bed and my sister has a routine where she calls me on her way to school. She's a teacher and she always calls me on her way to school and she's called me every day for the past week and she's been leaving these messages like I don't understand when are you, what are you doing? And I've been going back to bed. That's what I've been doing.

Speaker 1:

I've been getting up meditating, then I've been going back to sleep. However, I feel so guilty. I've been feeling so guilty doing it because I don't know why I can't just give myself permission and say you know what, this is okay, this is okay to do. I have so many things on my to-do list that I need to get done and it feels like it's not okay to just relax. Yeah.

Speaker 2:

And I think if you put that meaning on it, that it's not okay to relax then you don't get the relaxation benefit from trying to relax.

Speaker 1:

I even have been catching myself when I try to just lay down. I catch myself tense. Have you ever caught yourself clenched? I even have this one meditation that I do and in the meditation she says is your jaw clenched? And I'm like, oh my gosh, my jaw is clenched. Even after we go through the. Take a deep breath and make sure you're laying there and are you relaxing your facial muscles, are you relaxing your shoulder muscles? And then she says is your jaw clenched? And I'm like, yes, my jaw is clenched. Then I think, how does she know that?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, totally surprises me when they're like all right now, stop pressing your tongue to the roof of your mouth. I know, I know right.

Speaker 1:

Are they in the roof of my mouth? That's right. So how do we let go? How do we let go? Because, like you, if we don't give ourselves permission to just recharge, then we're going to get sick. That's what happens.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so we spend a lot of time not allowing ourselves to be healthy or, excuse me, like rest, I know I know. So then it's, and then when we do, we worry about it. So if you can just be in the present moment and realize you know what, when I'm not here it's not gonna matter, so I can enjoy the times, like when I decide I want to rest, that's like follow my intuition, follow my gut and say it is okay and I am in control of what I'm doing, so I'm choosing to rest and I'm gonna rest for this amount of time and give yourself the permission and that might be the secret is to have a cutoff point, because otherwise it feels like I Could rest forever.

Speaker 1:

And then it starts feeling lazy Do you know what I'm saying there? Then it starts becoming lethargic or sloth like I. I literally think I have an inner sloth. Do you, I do. I feel like I have an inner sloth.

Speaker 2:

Well, yeah, if we just say you know what I deserve rest, and I'm gonna give it to myself, I give it, give that gift to myself. So I'm gonna rest and I'm gonna rest for an hour, I'm gonna rest for an hour and a half, then I can get up and be very productive. But I'm not gonna feel guilty about it.

Speaker 1:

Well, what is the voice? What is the inner voice like? What are those thoughts? Because now that I just said that out loud, I do feel like there is a. There is a voice somewhere in the back of my subconscious that is saying Get off the couch, you lazy Back of potatoes. Yeah.

Speaker 2:

So it's a so. A lot of times it's because we always have it to-do list and we know that we always have it to-do list. But if we know we always have it to-do list, we don't have to worry about there what being one but it feels to me like there's somewhere in my subconscious mind that Successful people have energy all the time.

Speaker 1:

and successful people don't stop.

Speaker 2:

They are like the, the energizer bunny they just keep going, going and going See successful people have breakfast at Tiffany's and they Cross their legs and lean back in their chair and they just watch as the other people do the work and they rest.

Speaker 1:

Successful people rest yeah, it works smarter.

Speaker 2:

And then they rest yeah they have energy because they're right.

Speaker 1:

They have other people doing the work for them. That's what successful people are doing. How come I haven't learned that yet?

Speaker 2:

Let's let ourselves rest. We'll get other people to do the work, and then we'll do the things that we love doing oh my goodness, yeah, I, I'm really, I'm really trying to dial in.

Speaker 1:

What is the inner dialogue, though, of why I can't just Allow myself to?

Speaker 2:

Is there an achiever syndrome?

Speaker 1:

yes, a little bit. There. There's something about achieving and there's something about it's it's lazy, it's laziness that just lays there.

Speaker 2:

I'm not marking anything off right now, so I'm not being productive.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, like hard workers, they get ahead in life you know what I'm saying whereas as people who, just you know, lay around it's, it's that sloth mentality.

Speaker 2:

So it's. These are beliefs where you have to say, all right, well, is this always true? And is it true that People that don't work hard all the time can also?

Speaker 1:

be very. Where did I pick that up?

Speaker 2:

in our modern education system.

Speaker 1:

Oh my gosh. You know, because in some, you know that's why some cultures really really say Sundays you don't do anything, there's no social events, there's no, you can't even cook on Sundays. You know they even make ovens that you can't even turn the oven on on Sunday. Remember, they're like no, sunday, you do nothing and therefore you have no guilt and you feel no shame about not doing anything on Sunday. You literally, in fact it's the opposite If you do something on Sunday, then you feel guilty, then you feel shameful. You're like oh my God, I cleaned the house on Sunday. Now I feel guilty. Yeah, whereas now I feel if I don't, if I don't have the toilets cleaned on Sunday, if I don't vacuum on Sunday, if I don't go to church of some sort on Sunday, I mean my Sundays are packed full, like I literally am getting up and I have a jam packed to-do list on Sundays.

Speaker 2:

Sunday is game day. We gotta get it.

Speaker 1:

I mean I've got. No, we don't even watch games anymore. We do laundry. We do Game day for life. I know we do house chores and put gas in the car.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, we're getting ready for the week. We gotta get all this stuff done so we can start Monday off.

Speaker 1:

Oh, my gosh. Oh, do you know how hard it is to be me? That's really what it's all about. Do you know how hard it is to be Janna?

Speaker 2:

How many people are saying that? Do you know? How? Do you know how that's the T-shirt? Do you know? How hard it is to be me.

Speaker 1:

Oh, I thought you were gonna say do you know how hard it is to be Janna? That's the T-shirt. Do you know how hard it is to be Janna?

Speaker 2:

Do you know how hard it is to be me? You don't wanna look back.

Speaker 1:

Okay, well, jason, I'm gonna let you get some rest. That's what I'm gonna do and I'm not gonna feel guilty about it. In fact, I'm gonna feel guilty if we go a minute longer. Thank you guys for joining us. Leave us a message, email us, send us a text. We'd love to hear from you. I actually it makes my day when somebody sends me some sort of message, so make my day. Send me a message. You can send it at Adlin at startlivinglucktycom.

Speaker 2:

There you go.

Speaker 1:

Thanks again, bye-bye. If the idea of living lucky appeals to you, visit us at startlivinglucktycom.