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Absence & Insights: Lessons Learned from Living Apart

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 5 • Episode 59

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🎙️ Living Lucky Podcast - Episode: "Navigating Distance & Discovering Life's Rhythm"

💑 Join hosts Jana and Jason on a heartfelt journey through the uncharted territory of living apart. In this candid and humor-filled episode, they explore the profound impact of separation on daily routines and the fabric of relationships. While Jason's ventures in Austin as an executive coach with Mindvalley keep him away, Jana navigates life's nuances back at home, offering a refreshing perspective on the unexpected shifts in their household dynamics.

🏡 Delve into the surprising yet endearing details of how the absence of chores and daily responsibilities took an unforeseen turn during Jason's absence, revealing amusing insights into their lives. From missing each other's presence to even appreciating the quirks of their beloved dog Tater, every moment highlights the intricacies of distance and the preciousness of togetherness.

🔍 Discover the parallels between conserving energy and maintaining the flow of life, echoing the essence of their relationship—where slowing down reveals hidden treasures but yearning for reunion reinstates a lively energy.

💡 Embrace the laughter, reminiscences, and introspective reflections as they navigate the challenges of temporary separation, learning profound lessons about valuing the little moments that knit their lives together.

🌟 Key Takeaways:

  • The subtle changes in daily life and relationship dynamics during physical separation.
  • Humorous anecdotes and heartfelt musings on missing each other's presence.
  • Insights into conserving energy versus the vitality of togetherness.
  • The transformative power of appreciating life's smallest joys amidst distance.

🎧 Tune in now for a heartwarming and relatable chat that resonates with anyone experiencing separation or seeking to savor the essence of everyday moments. Start Living Lucky with Jana and Jason at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1524664/13974531

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*Previously Recorded

Speaker 1:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky Good morning. Good morning, I'm Jana.

Speaker 2:

I'm Jason.

Speaker 1:

And we are living lucky.

Speaker 3:

We are talking to Jason, who is in Austin today, austin.

Speaker 2:

Texas. What do you know? I know, I feel so far away.

Speaker 3:

We miss you. It is so surprising how different the house is without you.

Speaker 2:

It's so surprising how distant I feel from home.

Speaker 3:

Do you want to know what the biggest? Okay, so for you, what have the differences been?

Speaker 2:

I miss you. First of all, let me just preface this by saying you don't smell bad. Oh no, you miss my smell. I miss your touch. I miss you. Who would have thought I missed Tater so much? Our dog Even the responsibility of taking her out. She wants to go out at sometimes the most inopportune times when I'm so tired and she is so particular about having fresh water. She can have a full bowl of water.

Speaker 3:

I miss my family, but it's been a wonderful trip.

Speaker 2:

It was an exhausting 15 hour days with Tony. It was also uplifting. I've already drank out of that bowl and it sat there overnight. I would like fresh water and pour that out and wipe the bowl out. I miss my family of me, of uplifting but exhausting. Yeah, coming down for the drive over to Austin Then also, so I stopped on the way, got a haircut or just yeah you're kind of tightened up a little lower, yeah, and just tightened up the the goatee a little bit for Super Coach.

Speaker 2:

And then coming into Super Coach. I was looking at the like the roster of people coming and it's so funny because Okay, wait, whoa, whoa, whoa, before you go there, before you go.

Speaker 3:

So, first of all, I want to tell you what's different about our lives. Okay, yeah, what's different about yours? So what we've noticed is we do not have to do the dishes nearly as often.

Speaker 2:

Oh no.

Speaker 3:

I know it's so crazy, but when you're home we do dishes. We do at least one load a day of dishes.

Speaker 2:

You notice, that I cook a lot.

Speaker 3:

Yes, but we also. We run that dishwasher and we run the laundry. I do lawn, I do a load of laundry, at least one load a day when you're home.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so are you eating we're not home.

Speaker 3:

I haven't been doing nearly as much laundry. In fact, I think every time I talk to you I'm wearing the same shirt.

Speaker 2:

Are you eating at least?

Speaker 3:

I am eating, I am eating, but I eat, and then I, you know, I just make stuff for me and then I put it away and I, you probably wash your dishes like you, probably just wash it in the sink and then, because you like, use one plate, one fork, one one knife, and then the same thing.

Speaker 3:

It's so great it's so great and then okay. So those are two things that I have noticed that have been a significant difference since you've been gone. The other thing is oh gosh, I still vacuum as much, though that has not changed. Yes, yeah, things are still as we get these dust bunnies in the house, and that has not changed at all. But the trash, the trash is the third thing. I have only had to take out the trash twice since you've been gone. And you've been gone for how many days?

Speaker 2:

Seven eight days, seven eight days.

Speaker 3:

Seven, eight days and I've only had to take out the trash twice.

Speaker 2:

So you're making me kind of feel like life would be easier if I was gone.

Speaker 3:

Well, it's so weird how things have slowed down dramatically, dramatically, almost to a halt. However, that being said, there's energy when you're here, oh good. It's kind of like spending money. You can stop spending money, but then there's not that money flow going through you. So it's, I don't know it's like you conserve energy by not going going going as much. However, I'm not going going going as much. I don't know, it's very odd.

Speaker 2:

So and I love what you said there, because it's almost like if you put a battery in a drawer for three years, you can't pull it out and expect it to work. Yeah, like, and the battery is energy and money is energy, and so, having it like, I think we are obviously better together.

Speaker 3:

Definitely so. No, life is definitely better when you're home. I just want to make that very, very clear. And you are so missed you.

Speaker 2:

rock my world and make life worth living. I said it once.

Speaker 3:

That's not for post me. That's not for post me.

Speaker 2:

And I love you more. It even says it on the inside of my ring.

Speaker 3:

That's because I engraved it in on the inside of his ring. And when we were at the altar and we exchanged rings I was like, look at the inside of your ring. I engraved it in yours, but now he uses it against me. It's on the inside of my ring, not yours.

Speaker 2:

I've been wearing this, that's because I put it there I put it there, but it sunk into me.

Speaker 3:

Oh gosh, we're making each other. We're making everyone sick that's listened to this. Everyone is like, oh stop, stop you guys. However so, just so everyone that's listening knows we don't really have a topic today. We are just shooting the bull and we are learning about why Jason is in Austin. And for those of you that don't know, jason works for a company called Mindvalley, so give us the skinny.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so I'm contracted with Mindvalley as one of their executive coaches and it's a we're here for a super coach event. So this is where coaches from all over the world come in, and it's a three, four day immersion of becoming a powerful coach, a super coach.

Speaker 3:

And chasing coaches, the coaches on how to be coaches. Yeah, I just say coaches three times.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, who's on first? And it's funny because in the coaching certifications a lot of the times I look and the rosters built up of really it's, it's. It looks like a lot of women. Now I have seen women.

Speaker 3:

You have this energy that you attract a lot of women, I think.

Speaker 2:

And I do see a lot of women in the coaching certifications. Even back in the other certifications it seems like a lot of women are going for that coaching.

Speaker 3:

Because we like to work on ourselves. Yeah, the first ones that step up and say, oh my gosh, I'm not happy with my life, how can I change?

Speaker 2:

Yes, how can?

Speaker 3:

I get better.

Speaker 2:

How can I work on myself where guys? And in fact the world around them.

Speaker 3:

Yes, that is so true. And if you remember, jason, I mean when you and I started this whole thing. Yes, you started reading books, don't get me wrong. You started reading.

Speaker 2:

I would go to conferences and read books, but I would still try to change the world around me. Where you were still working on yourself and then I was like she's figuring stuff out and I'm still spending all this energy trying to fix shit.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, where I was like wait a minute, I'm going to start working on the internal stuff. And then that's when it became contagious for you, and I will say that we both, we both have just it's almost like we have turned ourselves inside out. It's like it's like taking a sock. You know, like a sock comes out of the dryer and you're like, oh my gosh, it's inside out. And then you pair them together and you, when you fold them, you kind of like turn them inside out, right, and that's what we've done with our lives. It's like we've turned them inside out. And when you do that, you get rid of all the land and all the everything that's inside, all the gunk, all those emotions that you've been storing, and it's a totally different way of.

Speaker 2:

You see what the socks really made of.

Speaker 3:

Right, yeah, you do, you do.

Speaker 2:

And you get back to the good stuff again, like the real stuff is not the stuff that you kind of packed in there on your own.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, it's, it's been, it's been so transformative, it's the exact word that was in my head transformative.

Speaker 2:

It was like it was almost like it was there for us together.

Speaker 3:

It has been so transformative. However, I honestly do not know because we have met so many people now where one partner starts to go through this, this process, and once you start, it is very addictive because you start seeing, you know, you start peeling the layers and then you're like, oh, I want to go deeper and I want to go deeper and I just want to keep peeling because it feels so good to lift this weight and to just get lighter. And I do not understand how one partner can start to change and start to go through this journey and how the other partner can stay the same. I just don't understand how that could possibly happen.

Speaker 2:

So it's a growth process and there's so many of the masters that talk about that. Once your mind is expanded, it can't go back. It just doesn't go back. And as one person is growing and so you can understand, like mentally and cerebrally, what needs to happen, we can know things but not embody them, like not apply them. Because you say it all the time, like we know how to be rich, we know how to be healthy, we know how to have a great relationship, and we don't do it. And that's because we're not doing the inner work, we're not applying it, we're not immersing ourselves in it.

Speaker 2:

And when we start getting on this path of really personal growth and personal development and not trying to fix the outside world, when we get on that inner path and start working on ourselves, then we grow into who we're supposed to be and we grow into this more open mind instead of the closed mind that kind of the world creates on us. Because we start limiting ourselves and we start saying I can't do this, I'm not enough for that and I'm not like this is impossible and this isn't. I can't do this and we start getting these negative connotations about us. But the internal growth says you know what I'm built for, greatness and a purpose and anything's possible that I want.

Speaker 2:

And when one person's not doing it and the other person is just like you said, what, six, seven years ago we started growing apart and you told me that and it broke my heart and I was like, don't worry, I'll fix it. You did, and I was getting super frustrated because I was like I don't know how to fix it and I don't know what you mean that we're growing apart because I'm doing everything I can. And then, when I started working on myself, that's when you said now I see the change, now I see it. And then it clicked and I was like, oh wow, I was so exhausted trying to fix everything out there when I spent half that energy fixing me. Then we started just kind of zooming back together.

Speaker 3:

We did, we did it was so cool. And I mean we still. It's an ever-growing process, yeah, but it's so much better when you decide to do it together.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and now it's kind of like we're climbing the ladder right. So it's like we're still we still like. We have those moments where it's like wait for me, jana.

Speaker 3:

I know, or wait for me, jason. Yeah, hi, jason, I don't know. You're in some realm that I haven't experienced yet. Well, one thing, though, that I want to tap back to before we sign off is you did say that in the majority of your classes that you teach, is mostly women. You said, however, here in Austin at this conference, that you are facilitating it's called Super Coach.

Speaker 2:

You put super in front of it and then now I'm looking at like the telegram group, I'm looking at the roster and it's like 50% men and I was like that's interesting, like you put, and I and I immediately, I think ego, like and I can't wait to ask when we actually get into it, like okay, so let's, let's see why, or if, and even if it's an appropriate question to ask when we get into it, because maybe it's just people who are available and wanted to be into it, but and I can't- ask the people who have the means to travel, or people who believed in themselves enough to say I deserve to go to that conference.

Speaker 3:

You know, there's so many there's so many complexities that go into it. However, I do feel like it is a question that may need to be asked.

Speaker 2:

It is an observation, and it could be that some the women that have gone through the program already believe that they are super coaches and don't need to go to a super coach experience. But I'm like, I believe that you can't pass up being a better coach at any time. So if you have the opportunity to be in a super coach experience, you need to be in that super coach experience if it's an immersion capacity, especially with a coach like a JIT or in a Mindvalley type platform, so it's a-.

Speaker 3:

You mean especially with a coach like Jason.

Speaker 2:

That's right. That's right, so I'm looking forward to seeing how it goes.

Speaker 3:

Awesome. Well, it's great to see you and we miss you. However, I'm glad that the people at super coach get to experience everything that you have to offer Me, too. Thanks for joining us, and we'll talk to you in a couple of days.

Speaker 1:

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