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Resonance: Vibing with Life

• Jana and Jason Shelfer • Season 5 • Episode 45

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Welcome to a journey of discovery and connection, where we explore the beautiful harmony that life offers through resonance in relationships. I'm Jana, and I'm Jason, and today we're not talking about music, but rather the incredible resonance you can experience with the people around you.

Have you ever met someone and just felt an instant connection, like you were vibing at the same frequency? We all have those moments when we meet someone and our energies click, creating a delightful sense of resonance. However, this episode is about more than just those serendipitous encounters. We delve into how we've learned to cultivate and maintain resonance in our own relationship and with those around us.

Resonance, in this context, isn't about music, but the powerful alignment of thoughts and emotions that fosters a deep emotional connection. We share our personal experiences of when we hit those 'resonance bumps' and had to decide if we were willing to grow together or risk growing apart.

We explore the challenges that come when we experience personal growth, sometimes at a different pace than our friends, family, or colleagues. It can be a struggle when you're eager for change and want your loved ones to grow with you. We discuss societal conditioning that often encourages us to settle for 'good enough,' when deep inside, we yearn for something more.

If you've ever felt the urge to create a life that resonates with your true self and build relationships that strike the perfect chord, this episode is for you. Join us as we share insights, practical wisdom, and personal stories that will inspire you to embrace a life filled with resonance and meaning.
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*Previously Recorded

Speaker 1:

Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky.

Speaker 2:

Good morning.

Speaker 1:

I'm Janna, I'm Jason and we are living lucky.

Speaker 2:

We are talking about resonance today, and I'm not talking about music.

Speaker 3:

Ooh.

Speaker 2:

Jason just looked at me like I don't know what the heck you're talking about.

Speaker 3:

You're not talking about music. I know what you're not talking about.

Speaker 2:

Okay, good, we're talking about vibing with people.

Speaker 3:

Maybe that's a simpler term.

Speaker 2:

Have you ever met someone and you're like you know what I? Just I felt their vibe yeah, have you ever felt that.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, it's almost like you fit, Like I feel that with you.

Speaker 2:

I feel that with you and I also know that when we, when we decided we hit a point where we looked at each other and we it was almost like two roads diverge in a yellow wood that's right, and though I shall not travel both and we looked at each other and we were like, okay, this is a this is a.

Speaker 3:

This is that point.

Speaker 2:

This is a point for us, and we either need to grow together or we're not going to vibe anymore.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, and we kind of weren't vibing for a while.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 3:

Like we were, like there were there were touch points, yeah, but it was like I was not acknowledging any of my emotions and that was one thing that you were like. We really need to be resonating in our emotions, we need to be connecting here. This is what this is one of the mainstays of what we need right now, and you'd been on a growth track for years at that point, and I've been just out there doing yeah, you were.

Speaker 2:

You were out there working harder, stronger, faster. Yeah, I was reading.

Speaker 3:

I was going to personal development things, but I wasn't actively engaged in thinking differently. I was taking all that outside information in and just kind of letting it work within my system instead of and that sounds weird because it wasn't really working in my system, because my system was kind of broken at the time- yeah, you were.

Speaker 2:

Just well you were. You were kind of just taking it in, but you weren't implementing it, you weren't doing the work internally.

Speaker 3:

I wasn't doing it internally, I was trying to push the work externally. Uh huh, like yeah.

Speaker 2:

You were still in the I was applying it. You were still applying it to. Well, how come this? How come my boss isn't figuring this out, right? How come? You know he's making me read this, but he's not doing it? You know what I'm saying.

Speaker 3:

Like you're still Like I was applying the things, but it is. I still didn't have a. I wasn't able to change my way of thinking, so I wasn't resonating with the material.

Speaker 2:

All right, we're getting a little sidetracked and what we're trying to say is sometimes you just vibe with people and it's called resonance. There is a term for this, it's called resonance and in relationships in particular, there is resonance.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, and sometimes you have it, sometimes you don't. Sometimes you have it great with people Like I feel, like Mike and Hugh and I, my best friends from high school.

Speaker 2:

Those are his best friends from high school. Like we all know exactly who he's talking about so, my best friends from high school.

Speaker 3:

I feel like we have a resonance that just lives on and it picks up whenever we have a chance to talk to each other or whenever we have a chance to see each other.

Speaker 2:

Well, because you guys share the same fabric, dna.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, it's a trust, it's an alignment, it's an emotional connection, it's all these things that really just kind of fit together to say, yeah, we vibe together.

Speaker 2:

And you've all kind of grown in the same stages of life at the same time. Now where there feels like you can get out of alignment is when somebody has an exponential growth spurt and all of a sudden they've reached a whole different stage of life and their peers or their family or their friends Still stuck in where they used to be. Who is this person?

Speaker 3:

Who's this new person?

Speaker 2:

This isn't who.

Speaker 3:

I grew up with. Exactly this isn't the person that I was resonating with.

Speaker 2:

Yes.

Speaker 3:

I need to bring them back into my vibration. And when you've gone through that growth spurt and this isn't a height growth spurt, this is personal growth, like personal development so when you're outside of that resonance area, they want to bring you back in to their comfort zone. Yes, and that's a really challenging thing because it feels to the so when we went through our, we're still constantly going through a growth spurt.

Speaker 2:

Of course Always.

Speaker 3:

But it's a but we're doing it together right, and that's that's what's important, and I work with a lot of coaches. Well, I've talked to a lot of coaches that one person in the family is doing all this inner work and all this personal growth and the other person was just like I was going out there and just trying to make things happen and be the be, the, the doer, uh huh. And the person going through all the personal growth is saying, hey, you're, you're, you're still spinning your wheels, you're not growing at my rate and I really want you to just kind of get on board.

Speaker 2:

Well, we found that at at the Joe dispenser retreat. Do you remember when we had breakfast with I believe his name was Jeff, and he was saying? He was saying that he's doing all this internal work and he's really just figuring himself out and really coming into himself as he turns 50 this year and he's also noticing that it's not the same with his partner. Yeah and so he, he's, actually he's contemplating, trying to figure all that out, trying to figure out.

Speaker 3:

Maybe it's time for a change Because you want the people in your life to grow with you but not everybody's ready for it and not everybody hits that moment of something needs to change, because we're kind of trained in this good is enough and it's it's good enough. Don't fix what's not broken, and you don't realize how broken it is until you're not really living in it.

Speaker 2:

You know that's so good. I feel like there's two motivators in life, and it is there were motivated by pain and were motivated by pleasure, and so when we are in that zone of things are, things are pretty good. Things aren't that bad yeah, then we kind of just start sliding by will spend.

Speaker 3:

Will spend a lot of time we start coasting justifying Matt like just like that becomes our comfort so we talk about fighting for our limitations, that's. I think that's one of them, as we fight for that mediocrity and also we.

Speaker 2:

I know, for me I have this. It's actually become a limiting belief, and the limiting belief is I should just be grateful. I should just be grateful for what I have now whatever it is yeah, like what you know, I've got it pretty good. I should just be grateful. So it's almost. It's almost tapping me out from wanting more. Do you know what I'm saying?

Speaker 3:

it's putting a lid on it, like I'm so grateful for this, why? Why would I want more?

Speaker 2:

I should just be satisfied with every difference almost like I should. I should feel guilty for even wanting more.

Speaker 3:

See, I just expect more. Like I'm, like, I'm so grateful, keep, keep it coming, keep it coming. That's a man for you that's what that is a man. That's a man. That's a modified man.

Speaker 2:

Okay, well, give us the exact definition of so well, the.

Speaker 3:

I just want to put it in layman's terms okay. Is feeling in harmony with okay or a deep emotional relation, like experience with yeah, so it's something that really just aligns with you, aligns with your soul, aligns with your feelings, aligns with kind of where you're going in life. I like to think of it as People you want on the party bus with you, people that you want because you know where you are, party bus quite a bit I know what?

Speaker 3:

because I feel like once you find your people and you know everyone's on the same path, together, it turns into a very Resonant group of people that are lifting each other up, supporting each other, trusting each other. It doesn't mean there's not conflict, but it also means that there's healthy conflict resolution. So it's a it's more of a discussion as opposed to a conflict.

Speaker 2:

It's just difference of perspective, because we all view life through different set of eyes, different viewpoints, so we can have differences of opinion, we can have differences of what we're looking for in life and then, but still, all be heading the same direction you know, it's very strange that we're bringing this up this morning, because we're actually hopping on a plane today to head for a wedding and at this wedding we're going to see some people that we saw not too long ago, and I actually didn't vibe with a couple of these people, and my body is actually this morning it is tensing up. I actually have a migraine headache, I have felt nauseated, I haven't been able to sleep all night long and it's almost like my body is preparing to….

Speaker 3:

For resistance of the resonance.

Speaker 2:

Yes, because I don't feel like I am in resonance, and when you say resonance, I feel like I'm not resonating with these people. That's where the word comes from.

Speaker 3:

So when you feel like that, then your body starts thinking if it's not resonating with my internal vibration, with my harmonious feeling, then it's going to feel like sandpaper.

Speaker 2:

So your body starts preparing for that experience and that physical… yes, no, it's almost like my body is saying you know what I'm going to make it so that you can't go.

Speaker 3:

Right. So you're having this visceral reaction to all these emotions and feelings from the last experience.

Speaker 2:

Yes.

Speaker 3:

Instead of which is already changing your resonance.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, and so now I literally… Like all night long I tried meditating. I kept saying, okay, just think positive. I tried every tool that… and we have a bunch of them.

Speaker 3:

And we got a bunch of tools.

Speaker 2:

I was writing. I've been doing gratitude journaling this morning. I've been doing everything I can to put myself in the best clear mind, to clear my energy, to show up the best that I can and for some reason, I still… I mean, my shoulders are… they're like on fire right now. It's like my emotions are coming out of the back of my neck.

Speaker 3:

So… it's crazy.

Speaker 3:

It happens, and I think to everyone, and sometimes we don't even realize it, because when you're not so in touch with your feelings, your body's just releasing these chemicals and most people are used to staying in a high stress-induced form like state, and they don't even know what… Like a good baseline is, like a good normal, low stress, low anxiety, high vibration. So when you get in that and you've been deeply involved with your feelings, sometimes we just have to say, okay, I'm going to pause, to get very present and set my vibration, like set my resonance and I'm going to be me and then let people vibe to me, yes, because… and not bring the past forward, not expect them to act a certain way.

Speaker 2:

What if they can't handle my vibe?

Speaker 3:

Some people can't. I mean they're happy with the status quo, I mean, and that's okay for them If they're not ready, like…. But I would submit that in this… in a family-type situation, if you have a loving family, well, we're going to be around so many people and if we're vibing with certain people, we're going to vibe with those people, and if we're not, then it's a wedding. So we're going to be at a celebration of love, that's true. And then we're going to get on the resonance vibe of love.

Speaker 2:

Love is always the frequency that I want to be on Right.

Speaker 3:

And that's a… it's the highest, yeah. So love kind of conquers all Okay, so we'll just get into that.

Speaker 2:

I think I've heard that before. That should be a song. Oh, that's right. Okay, and the strongest of these is love. That is the best advice. I think. Love conquers all. Get on the resonance of the love frequency.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, and lean into each other when you need help. Staying on the frequency.

Speaker 2:

Oh dear. Okay, All right, resonance. I think I might need to dive into this a little bit more, but I am going to really pay attention to what I bring and how I show up, because that is in my control.

Speaker 3:

Amen, and you're good at that.

Speaker 2:

And I can always. I can always tap into love. Yes.

Speaker 1:

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