When I invited my husband, Jason, to help coach me through a fear I've been struggling with on air, I never expected the breakthrough moment that unfolded. My fear of wasting time led to creating unnecessary busy work to feel valuable. But as we dug deeper, we discovered that this mindset can lead to burnout and that rest and recovery are essential for our mental and physical well-being.
Join us as we explore the importance of rest and reframing our thoughts around the value we place on our time. Jason compares us to valuable machines that need to recharge and highlights the American tendency to see value in time spent working rather than the quality of the time itself. Find out how we can shift our perspectives and develop a healthier, more productive mindset by listening in on our vulnerable and enlightening conversation.
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Speaker 1:
Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky. Good morning, right before I push play, jason says be pliable, and then he starts picking his nose.
Speaker 2:
My nose feels like it has something in it More than usual, i'm gonna be very vulnerable this morning.
Speaker 1:
I have a fear, and so I've asked Jason if maybe he can coach me through it on air in front of all of you, because maybe you might have the same fear. My fear is that I'm wasting my time. I'm wasting my time, and let me tell you how this works against me, because when I fear that I waste my time, when I have that fear, then I constantly have this feeling like I need to be doing something, i need to be working toward my goals. I constantly feel like, oh my gosh, i have so much to do. I have this to-do list and, and sometimes I'm even creating busy work for myself because I think it makes me feel valuable.
Speaker 1:
Oh my gosh, i think we just got to the root of the problem.
Speaker 2:
Sometimes we just have to say it out loud and we have to allow ourselves to get vulnerable. And if we say it out loud and don't judge ourselves in it, it allows its space to say this is what's really going on.
Speaker 1:
Okay. so if you didn't all just catch that, because I just caught myself as I was saying it, the problem is is yesterday I decided I just wanted to watch some documentaries on TV. I decided, you know what, it's my day to do, what I want to do. I'm not gonna work today. I'm just gonna take the day to do what Janna wants to do. The problem is, as soon as I started to do that, i felt guilty. I felt so guilty for watching TV.
Speaker 2:
Guilt leads into anxiety, and that leads into more guilt.
Speaker 1:
And so I told Jason I go. He came home and he said how did you enjoy your day? Well, i didn't really enjoy my day because I sat there and I was like, oh, i really should be doing this and I have this to do and I really need to be doing this. And, oh my gosh, i could have been so much more productive today. What am I doing? Why am I laying here doing this? I really need to be doing these things to make my dreams come true and to make my potential happen and to make God proud. Like it all comes down to making God proud.
Speaker 2:
You are covered in should all the way up to your needs.
Speaker 1:
But God, the problem with that is that sometimes it leads to burnout, and I've experienced that before in the past is that sometimes I can work myself into a tizzy trying to just work from the time I wake up in the morning, and sometimes I will not even sleep because I will get up earlier and earlier, stay up later and later and later, to the point where I'm working, working, working, working, working, working. I'm a workaholic is what people call it.
Speaker 2:
So the whole thing about athletes, about great machines, like the best machines in the world, yes you even hear it in your computer yeah is there's this stretch, the working part, and then there's the recovery part, the reboot.
Speaker 2:
And I'm not giving myself time to reboot and the recharge And if you don't get your phone, like if you don't reboot your phone, yeah, it's work slower. It doesn't work as efficiently If you don't he just said, i'm working slower, if you don't give your race car the pit stops. You're going to clunk out on the track. You're not going to finish the race and you're. If you do finish the race, you're going to finish last.
Speaker 1:
He just called me a clunker.
Speaker 2:
My husband just called me a clunker.
Speaker 1:
Well, it's true, i'm clunking out and that's exactly what's happening Now. If you just watched the beginning of this as I was speaking out loud, the aha moment that I literally had as I was saying this out loud, is that the reason that I do that? it's almost like I'm creating busy work for myself, because it makes me feel valuable, and it probably goes back to when I was younger. I remember when I was little, my mom always had a to-do list. Like when I was really little, my mom always had a to-do list and we had this yellow Chevette, which later became my car, and I always called it my vet.
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I loved it, i loved it, i loved it, i loved it. But anyway, we would get in the Chevette and we would drive around, and sometimes we would even drive around. She would pick me up from the swimming pool and we'd have to put our towels down on the seats because we didn't want to get them wet. We had to take good care of the car And we would even go to the grocery store in our bathing suits. We got to get it done, right, because we were so busy, busy, busy, and I would look at her and I would think she was just so valuable and awesome And I wanted to be like her. I wanted to be busy like my mom.
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She's important She has things to do. She has people to see and things to do.
Speaker 1:
She had people to do and things to see, or things to do and people to see. See what we do to ourselves. It's all in our heads.
Speaker 2:
How can you see that you're so valuable that you have to rest the machine because you wouldn't run a million dollar machine till it gave out on?
Speaker 1:
you. Okay, let's, don't call me a million dollar.
Speaker 2:
A billion A billion, a priceless machine.
Speaker 1:
Multi-billion, that's B Multi with a B Multi-billion dollar machine. You're right, this multi-billion dollar machine that has books and products. You should see the product that came out yesterday. My new gratitude journal just got printed, our first one of many. The prototype of many that will be for sale soon. Oh my gosh. Yes, this multi-billion dollar machine needs to rest. Is what you're saying.
Speaker 2:
And just reframe the value and say, if I'm valuable, I need to reinvest in my rest.
Speaker 1:
I think I was Americans. Though, and tell me if you guys agree with this, put it in the chat, put it in the comments. For some reason, we value time. We value our time.
Speaker 2:
But we put the value in the work, not in the actual time itself.
Speaker 1:
No, I think we put our, I think we put value in the time itself. Like if somebody, if I have an appointment with somebody and somebody is late, I get very, very you know what. You're not really worth my time, right, Yeah.
Speaker 2:
And then I also value my own time, but that's so the distinction there is because you've invested that time in the meeting, that person is wasting the time, so they are taking time away from the meeting by not being there. Okay. If you say I am investing this time in rest and you don't show up to rest, you are not showing up for the meeting.
Speaker 1:
Okay, are you guys following this at all? Do you ever have the feeling like, oh my gosh, i'm wasting my time. I'm wasting my time, i'm just wasting my life away? or like, oh, i'm going to get left behind? That's another thought that I have. I'm going to get left behind. Jessica says I'm so excited about the gratitude journal I get very like.
Speaker 2:
I'm very kind of unforgiving about people being late. Yeah, and I will. I do apologize for it, but it's the way I am If I tell you we're having a meeting at a certain time if you're five minutes late. I'm probably not going to be there.
Speaker 1:
Okay, so I know that about you, but I also know because I was watching this documentary yesterday and it actually one of the scenes on there was someone was early And that became an issue where the person said you know what it is so disrespectful when people show up early because you are encroaching on my time.
Speaker 2:
Well, i'm going to encroach on your time because I will always be five to 10 minutes early. I won't go in Like if it's a closed door but, I'll be in the waiting room, so that's that's all.
Speaker 1:
What about a dinner party? Dinner party? Well, you wait in the driveway.
Speaker 2:
No, I'll knock on the door.
Speaker 1:
You will.
Speaker 2:
Yeah.
Speaker 1:
Five minutes early Oh five minutes. Yeah, because we showed up at life group a little early and I feel like we kind of, we kind of got there when they were still finishing their dinner and I didn't like that They were serving dinner. Yeah, i was like I think this is wrong. I think we need to go back out in our car and wait.
Speaker 2:
Well, the other part of that is is if you have a group of people coming to your house maybe you should be. you should have a small window, Like when I schedule my clients yes. I give myself literally a 30 minute window on each side. Most people won't give themselves five minutes on each side and they're trying to squeeze in as many people as possible.
Speaker 1:
See, and I don't know. There I go again in my head. I'm like, oh, that's, that's not being very productive of my time. See, to put 30 minutes on each side of a meeting. I feel like I could be so much more productive with my own time For me it's super productive because it allows me space to be present for the next meeting.
Speaker 2:
Yes it allows me also space to digest the meeting I just left. Yes and then take notes and be buried. then go to the bathroom, get water, whatever, But so if I have 30 minutes on each side of the meeting I can be totally present in with a client, Yeah, and then I don't have anything else to worry about.
Speaker 1:
That is true. You know what My mom when I was little. She would sometimes say I don't have time to go to the bathroom. And I would be like, wow, that's really, that's an important person when you don't have time to go to the bathroom.
Speaker 2:
Yeah. So people say I don't have time to journal. I don't have time to do this. You have bigger problems in life if you don't have time to do the things that are most important.
Speaker 1:
If you, if you don't have time not to journal.
Speaker 2:
Yeah, right, you don't have time to meditate. If you don't have time to journal, you, you, you've got bigger problems. It's not that you're busy, it's that you don't have your priorities, right, i think? Oh, that's good.
Speaker 1:
Okay, all right. Well, thank you for the coaching. Well coach husband, coach Jason. He's available if anyone needs him. Thank you for joining us. Oh, vicki's here, same thing happened to me the other day. We should not feel guilty for scheduling zero tasking time, time for ourselves, time for our souls to do whatever it is that we want to do.
Speaker 2:
Recharge reboot.
Speaker 1:
And like. Jason said, when we do that, we will operate more efficiently, more effectively. Awesome, awesome work. Thank you, i appreciate it. I appreciate you. Have a great day, guys. Thanks for joining us. Bye, bye. If the idea of living lucky appeals to you, visit us at startlivingluckycom.