Speaker 1: Are you ready to create a life you crave? Let's spin that doom loop of negativity into an upward success cycle and start living lucky. Good morning, i'm Jana. Happy Tuesday.
Speaker 2: Jason is on his way. He needs to hurtle over the cord and I'm only human. Permission, You have permission. Yesterday forgive me for not being here I was asking for permission to just be human. I woke up a little cranky. I woke up a little cranky. Sometimes that happens to me. In fact, I literally had this. There was a negative energy about me. Has anyone ever felt that?
Speaker 3: No.
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Speaker 3: It'll just start smelling.
Speaker 2: Anyway, okay, good morning. good morning, I'm Julie's here too. Hey, I haven't seen Julian. Where's Julian? Julian is usually one of the first ones here. Alright, we're talking about giving ourselves permission to just be human, And I actually went over to my journal yesterday and I wrote out a little permission slip And it like you know, when you're in school and you You've heard your parents' big signature.
Speaker 3: Did you ever do that? I tried once and it failed and I never did it again.
Speaker 2: I did it a couple times and the secretary knew that I was doing it because my dad was a teacher.
Speaker 3: Both your parents were teachers.
Speaker 2: It's not like they couldn't just walk over and say hey, But my dad had this very slanted handwriting, very, very slanted, and I got. Oh it's such a hurry.
Speaker 3: Yes, he's getting off that paper with that thing I gotta get to the next page.
Speaker 2: Please, please, dismiss Janna. She needs to go to the Dairy Queen. Very important meeting. And her best friend Marcy too.
Speaker 3: Very important meeting with that blizzard.
Speaker 2: Okay, we're giving ourselves permission to be human.
Speaker 2: And yesterday I literally felt guilty because I just wanted to take a day off, i just wanted to go to bed and sleep And I I was feeling negative energy and I knew that if I would force myself to work which I tried to do in the afternoon and it ended up causing some friction, as I knew it probably would. However, in the morning I took some time to just reset and stay in bed, but I literally had to go over to my gratitude journal and make myself out a fake permission slip, which is absolutely silly. I don't think it's silly.
Speaker 1: I think it's intentional, why would I?
Speaker 2: need to give myself permission to be human.
Speaker 3: Because our brains tell us that we have to keep going and we have to keep doing these things. Sometimes we've been programmed to continually be successful and to continually put forth effort, And sometimes you just need to say this is my task right now.
Speaker 2: It's just love my soul.
Speaker 3: Permission slip is a task. It says you know what You have permission. Let go of guilt, let go of shame, let go of any negative feeling you have right now, and just allow yourself to be in your moment and just have zero tasking time, be at peace with it.
Speaker 2: And also, you know, like I said, i woke up with some negative energy And for some reason, i have this limiting belief and I think I learned it. I think I learned it growing up that I am supposed to be happy all the time, which that is not true. That is not true. And here's why If we don't allow ourselves to feel our feelings, our feelings are you always use bowling. You always use bowling in allergies.
Speaker 3: Whenever Jason and I are having Bowling and guardrails are like on a bridge.
Speaker 2: Yes, whenever Jason or having any type of pillow talk or discussion about our relationship, jason will use bowling in allergies.
Speaker 3: Put up those bumpers, babies, because I'm going I'm getting crazy with balls.
Speaker 1: It's strike time. I'm like nope, you're going in the gutter. Not that gutter, not that gutter Wrong gutter Wrong gutter.
Speaker 2: Get your mind out of the gutter. Anyway, our feelings are like the bumpers that come up when kids bowl. Our feelings are guides to help us get to the North Star. So when we are feeling-, resentful, or when we are feeling angry, or even envious or anxious or any of those feelings that for some reason we think, oh, those are bad emotions, those are negative emotions, i shouldn't be feeling that we need to stop and rethink, because those emotions are actually communicating with us if we just give them a chance don't push them out of the way.
Speaker 3: I was so famous for just pushing it out of the way, like literally saying don't know what that is, discard, yes, go forward.
Speaker 2: And the more you try to repress your emotions or the more you try not to feel your emotions against what happens, the louder they become, they start shouting. It's almost like the little kid in the candy store that's like mom, mom, mom, mom, and the mom's like I don't want to hear you right now. I don't want to hear so.
Speaker 3: Then all of a sudden, the kid starts throwing a tantrum mom, mom, mom you just completely run into a brick wall like it, not a brick like it, like a collision course with something it'll eventually blow up, the zit will pop, or or another.
Speaker 2: Another way of looking at it is when we repress emotions. It's like trying to hold a beach ball under water.
Speaker 3: I did that, i chipped it.
Speaker 2: I chipped my frat tooth doing that and eventually, eventually, we're our muscles are gonna get tired of holding that beach ball underwater and eventually it's not only gonna pop up, it's gonna pop up hit you in the chin bust your nose.
Speaker 3: Bust your face.
Speaker 2: Hit somebody around you, yeah so the more we try to not feel our feelings, they almost intensify. If I say don't think of pink elephants right now, don't think of pink elephants, don't think of pink elephants are you? thinking about an enemy. High Wolf Lof ك ف م م م. The word pink elephant.
Speaker 3: What are you thinking?
Speaker 2: about Pam? what are you thinking aboutjae a I? you thinking about pink elephants, because I told you not to think about pink.
Speaker 3: Now think about pink elephants in underwear, white underwear, though hains three specifics.
Speaker 1: Why.
Speaker 3: I don't know. That's what popped in my head, though, because I was trying to get rid of the pink on the elephant. The tidy whitey going for the No, they were tidy whiteies.
Speaker 2: It was disgusting. Oh gosh. Well, don't think of that. Don't think of that. That's what I have to say.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's kind of cute, but it was also disgusting, because Yeah. Very vivid imagination now.
Speaker 2: I just saw someone.
Speaker 3: The SART fans.
Speaker 2: We have people outside the window that are walking by waving, so I got just distracted momentarily. I'm like, okay, hey, what's up? Yeah, so don't think of pink elephants and don't think about the people who are outside our window. We are. We're kind of like the today show. now, right, we've got a window here in the art room and people are walking by.
Speaker 3: It says well, we can't move downtown just because we're going to get the mirrored glass.
Speaker 2: Lori says oh my goodness, oh my goodness, at least it's here. Good morning, good morning, okay. So here's the deal. What do you need permission to give yourself? What do you need permission to do? Because, literally, you should write out a permission slip and you should say I, janice Shelford, give myself permission to. And for me it was just to be human. It was to just be human and to just feel my feelings. Yesterday, which they were a little negative, i will say, but once I felt them and kind of let them just dissipate and come out, i was better.
Speaker 3: And if you take care of it up front it doesn't get worse. It's kind of like a small argument. Yes, I was talking to someone the other day and they were talking about an argument that popped up with their wife and they were on their way to work and they're like I'll fix it when I get home, I'll talk to my wife when I get home. I was like you said you're going to even make it home.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Don't ever say that to me Fix it now because it builds over the day. You might be busy during the day, she might be busy during the day, or one of you might have time to just stew on it and it builds and builds and builds, and when we stew, and then it packs things that were already resolved from the past The stories start to build, so fix it now and you don't know what's going to happen during the day. You might never get to repair that, so make the call right now Fix it.
Speaker 3: Don't go to bed angry. Don't leave the house angry. If you can help it, but fix things now. Like I need to give myself a permission slip to go to the chiropractor because I was supposed to do it yesterday, i should have done it yesterday, i needed to do it yesterday and I worked through the day.
Speaker 2: So write yourself a permission to love yourself to just love yourself.
Speaker 2: I love myself and here's. Here's one more thing I want to add, and this is a Little bit of a side branch to everything we're talking about today. But if, like I said yesterday, i had a little bit of negative energy, and if you allow yourself to feel those feelings and allow them to come up and Disappear, they they kind of just work themselves out that way, like Jason was saying, when you allow yourself to do that, then you make room For all of the joyous feelings that that you want to make room for it. There's an energy there. So when we, when we suppress it and we try not to feel it, we're just causing an emotional Constipation. Oh, that's what we're doing and nobody likes the word constipation.
Speaker 3: You know that hurts when it comes out. Yeah, see I immediately was thinking of the analogy of dirty laundry. That dirty laundry, when you stuff it down, just get stinkier and stinkier.
Speaker 2: But Emotional constipation is way worse.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because that stinks and it hurts like hell when it comes out.
Speaker 2: And, and we'll end it there.
Speaker 3: Take care of it right up front.
Speaker 1: Julian, julian's here emotional constipation emotional constipation.
Speaker 2: Is there a song?
Speaker 3: there will be. There will be tomorrow.
Speaker 2: When you've got some fear down. Never mind, i won't, we'll wait until tomorrow, like Jason said love you guys.
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